I think its fair to ask how she came by the information--especially so you can prevent it from happening in the future. (maybe caller id?)

This actually happened, on the other side, with a (former) friend of mine. She had started seeing someone--they met online, and both had used pseudonyms.

After what was reported as a highly satisfying evening for both parties, while he was in the shower that morning, she 'happened' to his 'real' name on some mail which had been lying around (I don't think she went digging through his stuff, but I won't rule it out).

She then proceeded to call him by his real name once he got out of the shower. He was a bit rattled, but seemed ok. Until he asked her what her real (first) name was, and she outright refused and flipped out, at which point he did get (understandably!!) quite upset. It did not end well.

When she related this story to me, I had to side with the gentleman. I asked her how on *earth* she would have felt if he had done that to her, and I couldnt for the life of me understand why , after all of that, she refused to give him her real first name. And WHY, even if she had just come across the info, WHY just say it without any preface?

If she really just happened upon the information, why not just either 1) tell him what happened or 2) keep calling him by his pseudonym until he told her voluntarily?

In the case of my (former) friend, I think it was a power thing.

In your case, perhaps it was a (rare) instance of provider crossing the privacy "boundary" line. Usually when that happens, (client or otherwise) its meant in an innocent way (to be playful, to feel closer, etc) and they don't realize that its a punch-in-the-stomach to the other party.

I never bring my wallet into a session, life lesson learnt. She could of been a crazy girl, she could of shown up @ your house looking for ya, becareful bro

Well for starters I would make it clear to both girls that I am NOT seeing them again (returning) due to the (mis) use of your personal info. Clearly if you wanted them to know it you would have shared it.

What is the obsession with real names? Anonymity (yours and hers) is what helps make these private, paid, no strings attached connections work and IMO get hot. Not only does it help make the connection work, IMO it helps a guy keep his head on straight, things can get pretty intense, having your play name is just a reminder that what you are doing is real but not reality (yours or hers).

That's not to say people can't get to know each other as people, but real names have a bit of pandora's box to them, once out you can't put them back in. IME real names have made more complex what IMO is better left simple, fun and sexy.

Having said all that yes a few girls know my name and vice/versa. If theirs comes out for some reason, I will volunteer mine but I typically continue to use their RB name unless circumstances require me to use their real name and those are rare.

my 1 cent

ps I think Shameless Hussy mentioned she has a fake "real name" to tell clients. It's kinda sad that a girl needs to go there but she's not the only one to share with me at having one.

I think its fair to ask how she came by the information--especially so you can prevent it from happening in the future. (maybe caller id?)

This actually happened, on the other side, with a (former) friend of mine. She had started seeing someone--they met online, and both had used pseudonyms.

After what was reported as a highly satisfying evening for both parties, while he was in the shower that morning, she 'happened' to his 'real' name on some mail which had been lying around (I don't think she went digging through his stuff, but I won't rule it out).

She then proceeded to call him by his real name once he got out of the shower. He was a bit rattled, but seemed ok. Until he asked her what her real (first) name was, and she outright refused and flipped out, at which point he did get (understandably!!) quite upset. It did not end well.

When she related this story to me, I had to side with the gentleman. I asked her how on *earth* she would have felt if he had done that to her, and I couldnt for the life of me understand why , after all of that, she refused to give him her real first name. And WHY, even if she had just come across the info, WHY just say it without any preface?

If she really just happened upon the information, why not just either 1) tell him what happened or 2) keep calling him by his pseudonym until he told her voluntarily?

In the case of my (former) friend, I think it was a power thing.

In your case, perhaps it was a (rare) instance of provider crossing the privacy "boundary" line. Usually when that happens, (client or otherwise) its meant in an innocent way (to be playful, to feel closer, etc) and they don't realize that its a punch-in-the-stomach to the other party.

You would be surprised how tiny the FBSM circle is. Providers you wouldn't imagine knowing each other, do. All it takes is one personally identifiable mention about yourself and they can piece together if they know you. This isn't always a bad thing, mind you. I was once served up a fabulous rimmer by a provider who had no mention of any extras in her reviews and wasn't known as an under the radar extra gal. When I told her of my surprise receiving that nice treat she told me another provider told her I was cool and would keep it under wraps. Being respectful and chill has its rewards.

For those who work without someone looking out for them - screening is all they have to protect themselves.

The best ladies have just as much to lose as you do and will never misuse your personal information.

However, if you are successfully booking sessions with ladies utilizing an untraceable phone, email and/or pseudonym - they went through your wallet.

I don't blame you for not seeing them anymore - what they did was a total violation of privacy and I'm SO sorry that happened that happened to you!

It's always Summer at My Place!

It's kind of a pet peeve of mine when clients call me by my real name. (whether I gave it to him or not) .. Some guys find it online, some other girls slip, sometimes I slip, ... I dont' really care if guys know my real name, I just don't want them to use it. Especially during a session. ... When I'm working, I like to get into my "Amber" role, and there's no greater buzz kill for me then someone saying my real name! LOL ... it just pulls me out of my 'zone' instantly

... and for finding out clients real names, several pop up on my facebook page as suggested friends, most guys have their real name on their voicemail (which someone mentioned above).. but those are really the only 2 ways I've found out, (besides them just telling me) and it wasn't on purpose, just happened, but I always use the name they tell me.