So it's possible anyone of us could make the same innocent slip, it's not automatically somebody rummaging through your trousers (although it sounds kinda exciting when you say it that way . . . )

NTO

I tend to doubt any wallet search.

Its just like "Friends", where EVERYBODY knows your name.

Most often I hear it on the clients voicemail when I call his number back, per his instructions.

He leaves a fake name on my phone...but his outgoing voicemail reveals his TRUE name. Often it goes something like this. "Hi this is Joe Schmo from XYZ company....cant; take your call right now...leave a message..."

Now, I don't call him by his true name, only the name he shared with me.

There are also some apps that will give you the REAL name of the caller on your phone. Not too hard to figure out who's who and what's what.

I have even had some clients hand me their REAL business cards!!
Imagine that!!

Ms Montaine

many people have their cell phones linked to their facebook accounts.

If he has a mobile facbook app on his phone, then uses that phone to call a provider who has a mobile facebook app on her phone, BAM.. all kinds of personal info..

I learned that one the hard way too!

Providers also leave magazines around that have their name on the subscription mailing label.

Or things that are on the frig...that usually are of a more personal nature....car registration stickers, utility bills, letter from Mom...

USE COMMON SENSE FOLKS. (you can order it online at 1-888-got brains)

HUMOR PART OF THE POST:

I don;'t mind if a client finds a tidbit of info about me because they were snooping around..... as long as they notice the large black size 13 motorcycle boots and the jacket with colors nearby. And the Large dog bowl and those "beware of dog signs"!
Might wanna think twice about snooping!!!! Someone ALWAYS has my back and I am not talking about a pimp.
Evil grin.

Ms Montaine aka Veronica (real name) or Natasha (other real Russian name) or Surf Diva( made up name) or boobalicious ( made up name and what my ATF calls me) or Dominatrix of the Dark (not really a made up name...no that would be more of a title than a name, Sparkle(you be the judge), oh and lets not forget Mz Fiduciary Banks(real pimped out name). Hey I also have my Hebrew name, My Yogi name and my native american name.

Oh dear - what a mess. Call me whatever your heart desires as long as you bring champagne, chocolate and roses!!

Amber - you are so right on. This woman speaks the truth.

Guys - remember this word - BUZZ KILL!!! Real name = BUZZ KILL.
Repeat 3 times. Repeat 100 times.
DO NOT USE PROVIDERS REAL NAME, EVER!!!

Open letter to Mr I know your real name:
Good for you, great sleuthing on your part.You are the next Magnum PI. You get a gold star. No, you get 5 RB red stars. Whoop de do for you.
You get a brownie, some Kool Aid and a cookie, ....but want you won't get is any NOOKIE.

Using my real name is a big bummer. Does not get me in "the mood". And I am always almost, 99.9 percent in the mood.

Hello Mistress M or Hello Diva get me in the mood.
You DO want me in a good mood.
You do NOT want to piss of Mistress Montaine, the woman with all those scary looking tools of destruction and dismemberment, not to mention all those torture devices!!

I love all my farm animal devices....the cattle prod, the buggy whip,the easy castrater with those cute little rubber bands...shall I continue??

NO, I did not think you wanted any more graphic descriptions of my toys. Kinda kills your Mood too. Huh, funny how that works.
:0

So, play nice, be safe, have a good time, and keep your lips zipped....except when doing all sorts of wonderful, exciting, exhilarating things to some naughty bits.

Have a Powerful weekend.
Moo

I've had providers volunteer their real names to me as early as the first email and in every subsequent communication.

MM, how about "Do not use MY real name *ever*!" ?

It seems more appropriate to assume stage names unless either person suggests otherwise. And if something's important to you, let the other person know.

Actually it would appear that MM is simply repeating/reinforcing what Amber said and what Amber's said does have context. Regardless of how a guy has come to know her real name do NOT use it IN session.

A favored friend I'd known for 2+ years used my real name (not typical for us) several times one appoint during a particularly intense moment, I followed suit with hers. After 1 very off/awkward appointment our next time together we were done. 2+ years of fun, hot sex with a great girl went up in smoke over an intense moment of passion when we used the wrong names.

>How many times have women on this list said "tell us
>what you want, we're not mind readers"?

wtf does this have to do with anything? are you saying you want to know girls' real names, that this your preference?

>Plus the recent
>thread about preferences for clit stimulating techniques
>should clearly underscore the point that we're all
>individuals with different preferences.

go for it, seek out names, play internet detective and use them in session. Don't forget though its your money and odds are significant majority of girls won't be cool with that and your money just got buzz killed and it was YOUR fault and that's your best case scenario.

Mine? Was it a little awkward when I accidently told you?

Personally, I don't mind sharing with someone I've come to trust.

~Kiera~

When I wrote that previous post, I was referring to someone else. But, to be honest, I'm not certain I have yours right, either! Doh! I'm 99.9% sure it is one of two names, however!

My point about "How many times have women on this list said "tell us
what you want, we're not mind readers"? " was that we, providers and clients alike, have vastly different preferences and rules. You had a relationship fall apart by using real names. I've had the opposite experience. That doesn't make either of us right or wrong. Just different experiences.

My suggestion is that we simply respect and follow the the preferences and boundaries of the others we meet here. If they offer their real names, we should feel free to address them as such. As with most things in life, it's best to lead on the side of caution, and relax behavior as familiarity builds.

It's unfortunate that you read into what I wrote as suggesting anything otherwise.