It's more of the latter. She is the one looking for more intimacy. It became clear to me during our first time that she wasn't really a pro. I think she was attracted to me and just into the thrill of it all, as was I.

We have gone out socially a few times, and she introduced me to some of her friends. It was cool. It but it confused me a bit. She texted recently saying she felt bad asking for money, but needed help with the rent. I just was looking for some pointers as I never ended up here before.

Probably time to sit down with her (and not right after having sex, with her cuddled up next to you in bed, either) and discuss your mutual needs, desires and expectations before proceeding further or someone (probably her) is gonna get hurt and upset. If she's really looking for a boyfriend and an ever-increasing level of emotional commitment, then you'll really have clarify what you're willing to provide and what you have no desire to do. Then, set out a clearly defined trial/probationary in which you can both evaluate if you are getting your respective needs met before making a more extended commitment to provide ongoing financial support.

Just live for the moment so that you can enjoy the deed. After all, you are paying for it with hard earned money.

Good luck.

Ain't it the truth, and it seems that the acquisition of any or all of the combined knowledge and information in the world, and a great deal of subsequent solitary cerebral processing is only the first step toward success, failure, or something in between.

All can advise, counsel, weigh the odds, relate their experiences, and guess, but you will never really know how it will turn out till you apply all you know (and think you know) to your specific situation, and do it.

Always cover your ass, and don't extend yourself to the point it hurts, and don't waste your trust on the unworthy.

Someday you may want to share that trust with someone who is. If you let yourself get burned enough, you may hot have any left.

I was married, raising kids and living on a military base - as square as could be.

Having traded my young years for a life as an NCO's wife,
I lived vicariously through these girlfriends and stories of their erotic/romantic ventures with their "sugar daddies".

In addition to making time for their much older lovers who supported them financially, both girls also dated young, studly, college boys with minimum wage jobs.

The sugar daddies wanted access to my friends whenever they felt the notion.

One of my friend's sugar daddies didn't want her to fall in love with him - but didn't want her sleeping with other men either. She ended up falling for one of the college boys she was sleeping with and broke her sugar daddy's heart.

My other friend fell for her "sugar daddy"; from all accounts - he kinda fell for my friend too.

Like the other sugar daddy - this one was also a high-powered business man with a type "A" personality - but he also had a wife and family.

OH THE TEARS AND DRAMA that went on for MONTHS!!!

Any woman I've ever known who was sleeping with a married man (whether the man supported her financially or not) always wanted that man to eventually leave his wife for HER.

IMO - the world of sugar daddies and sugar babies is too muddled and women - especially young ones do not know how to properly handle the situation indefinitely.

At least if you date an RB girl regularly - or even a few providers concurrently - there is usually a firewall between a provider's professional life and REAL LIFE lovers/relationships.

In this world, the paying gentleman and provider's "relationship" is clear.

A sugar daddy who spends a lot of quality time outside of the bedroom with the sugar baby runs the risk of boundaries getting blurred over time.

Enjoy the ride while it lasts - just don't be suprised if it ends badly.

All that being said - I wish you all the best.

It's always Summer at my place! xoxo

The girls that need the fast payoff are always trouble. They need the $ fast and are almost always seeing multiple guys or are hitting on you hard to pay off that debt or get you to commit to more $ than you can afford. They will vanish once the debt is gone (not always but alot of times) or work you too hard to kick more $ than you want. I've had two of these in the last couple of months. They were fucking hot so I went along with it until I got bored with them then passed.

The others that need some additional help on a regular basis are the best in my experience. Not as desperate and typically are more into the sex as much as the $. These are the girls that you can have the long term kick ass relationship with. Keep perspective and you can keep a couple in the stable for months/years like me a lot of guys here posting are doing.

Regardless of the situation, when you get bored of them, you say good bye and move on to the next one.

Be the change
you wish to see

Met her family??? Uh Oh.

Of course for me that would be a good thing. Usually when I met a girls family, they liked me. So then she would dump me.

To be clear: you have a SO, and she wants you to meet her family and friends; you did (probably validating her desire for greater intimacy) and are now playing "catch and release" with her to keep it interesting/mysterious since it's "just fun?" Okay. Even if the guilt over asking for the money or sharing her life with you is a ruse, what Dellsnorto wrote is seems most responsible:

> "Probably time to sit down with her (and not right after having sex, with her cuddled up next to you in bed, either) and discuss your mutual needs, desires and expectations before proceeding further or someone (probably her) is gonna get hurt and upset. If she's really looking for a boyfriend and an ever-increasing level of emotional commitment, then you'll really have clarify what you're willing to provide and what you have no desire to do. Then, set out a clearly defined trial/probationary in which you can both evaluate if you are getting your respective needs met before making a more extended commitment to provide ongoing financial support."

Honestly, at this point, it sounds like you're playing with fire.

This is the most sound advice so far. As to playing with fire... I am prone to engage in risk taking behavior. Obviously, so is she.

get what you give huh 'q', in your case what 10bucks at a time for being a lousy PO?, or do you try and hang out in the living room still? How many girls have had to chnage their phone number you pest?