I had some recent positive responses on CL locally (SD site still a dry hole for me, notwithstanding other poster's success) so I'll give those a test.

But in the event things don't work out, your suggestion of widening the search area seems excellent, and I appreciate your taking the time and trouble to respond!

Let me assure you that to, as you put it, "bang a 10/10 euro slut" is an exceedingly expensive proposition and requires an ability to travel independently as well as write very large checks. My relationship was dependent on the latter and not on any exceptional personal qualities I may have.

As I mentioned, I have been searching for something more modest within a 25 mile radius, as opposed to a 5000 mile radius, and so far have been deeply underwhelmed by the responses.

Perhaps you have ad writing skills that I lack? If there is a particular knack for catching the attention of desirable ladies, it appears that I don't have it...

And of course, there is always that fundamental real estate concept, which I have been painfully reminded of over the past two years, of: Location, Location, Location. It seems to me that being in the SF Bay area literally changes the game.

Anyway, I appreciate your feedback and if you wish to share some of the secrets of your SD and CL success I would be grateful.

put an ad into craigs in the "casual encounters" and "men seeking women" sections. put something in your ad so you can screen out all the bots.

then go interview your prospective candidates.

I did just that and posted in CL, although I posted in casual encounters and adult gigs; I did not try M4W. I have actually had a number of "real" responses. I am starting the interview process and there is one particular lady I am very excited to meet.

So I guess CL is much better than SD4M and it is just a matter being patient.

Thanks again...

Anerriphtho Kybos!

A SD relationship means that you must be prepared not only to provide financial support, but also moral, philosophical and other types of support. I can can fully understand that many hobbyists want no part of thistype of relationship. It seems to me a classic case of "to each his own" AND "Caveat Emptor - Let the Buyer Beware".

Thanks to all for your advice...

Anerriphtho Kybos!

Think before you say something.

I've had several SDs, NONE required any responsibility other than making payments on time.

This is the pecking order of responsibility in "relationships"
1. Wife
2. non-wife SO
3. GF
4. FWB
5. SD
6. ATF
7. Fav hoes
8. all other hoes

Unless your SD/ATF becomes your friend, which you only have "responsibility" towards a "friend", 5-8 got NO responsibility except making payments as agreed upon.

A Happy Trick Makes a Happy Hoe.

Hell, you have to start ever search with a country for christs sakes!

Both SeekingArrangement and SugarDaddyForMe have a lot of flaws, I'm not a shill for either one.
If Redbook had a Sugarbaby section I probably wouldn't bother with either of them.
I agree with you that the search function sucks in SA. It also sucks in SD4ME. If either site allowed full text search of profiles it would be awesome. What I do when searching SA is just put California as the search area and ignore the non-bay area entries.

As far as classy girls, I've corresponded with and met enough women from both sites that I stand by my statement that SA women on the average are classier *on average* than SD4ME in terms of looks, education, emotional maturity, speaking and writing ability, although I'm sure you can find some women on SD4ME who are classier than some women on SA. Of course the downside is that the
classiest ones are often out of my price range.

Just for the record, the women I've had the most success with on either of the sites were semi-pros who also had redbook ads, for what its worth.

I've always figured a pro posting on a SD site is looking for a someone that doens't know about RB and can milk them for big $ and still deliver pro-sex fuck. I guess you've had better luck with them.

I use SD4M & CL and CL is still the best. All the girls I meet off of the SD site want me to pay them to hang out with them or want stupid $ to spread their legs.

A Happy Trick Makes a Happy Hoe.

Thank you very much for taking the time to share your thoughts and experience.

It turns out that after an initially quiet start, I eventually received quite a few interesting replies to my SD and CL posts, and was able to interview (believe it or not they were very proper interviews) a number of shortlist candidates, and the position is now happily filled (well at least from my perspective!).

My thanks to everyone who shared their viewpoints, and I must say that I am deeply impressed by the core of members who are both generous with their time and committed, in the best sense of the word, to this hobby.

Anerriphtho Kybos!

In a previous post I indicated that the position is now filled. As an aside, my SD and CL ads specified that the prospect be caucasian.

Anerriphtho Kybos!

racecar spelled backwards is racecar.