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I think that after a few dates, you'd know if the guy would be willing to accept the fact or not.

I might be the exception here, but I'm pretty open-minded, and wouldn't really care all that much what you have done in the past. I would tend to concentrate on the me-and-you.

This line of work is not like you are a psychologist, or a counselor therapist. That is, if after a few dates, you tell him what kind of job you do, it will be a different reaction.

I would be of the opinion of been truthful upfront and quick. That will also reduce the amount of bonding you may have already developed. It is unfortunately that you have to risk his rejection, but I believe it is the correct way to do things. If he accepts you after that, and you will probably quit after, then you have a much better start in your relationship. If you plan to continue, it requires a most strong character, on his part, to learn to accept it. Not all men can.

Should you decide to lie, and hide your job, you cannot guarantee that he will never discover it, and if he ever does, it will surely be the end of the relationship, or at least, it will put a major dent in trust on it.

Your best bet would be to be honest about your profession right up front so that the guys with whom you are showing a mutual interest can decide for themselves whether or not they want to proceed. Now, there is always the possibility of starting up with someone who is cool at first about your business but who then starts to change his mind about it. You'll have to be ready from the get-go to tell such fellows that they can either support through a change in careers or take a hike. Perhaps the best option would be to consciously keep any relationships you have on a casual, not committed basis for your duration of your career. That means both you and your partners being comfortable with not being "exclusive".

Best of luck to you.

Just out of curiousity, you said you've been dating out of your culture and are lonely. Why don't you date black guys?

I agree with chaos_ratedxxx. I don't know why you added that to your question. Seems very off topic and race is no importance to the question you asked. As for the question at hand. If you start a relationship based on a lie, well it's not going to work because it's based off deception. Also you mentioned the money could be addicting. When it gets down to it, choosing money over a relationship. Thats a decision only you can make. If you're active in this industry I wouldn't start a relationship and not tell the guy. Just doesn't seem right to lead someone on and you may hurt them down the line.

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But if you go that way, you should let your potential SO know what you do, and it should be sooner rather than later.

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I was very up front about everything, answering questions, but refrained from putting it in his face. The reward is we are madly in love. Life is too short to miss out on devotion to the right person.

'would a guy accept me..?' yes, they would; for sex, money or whatever. other guys? no, they'll freak out.

me? that's a very difficult question. have i meet a someone who i like and enjoy spending time with? 'yes'. would i like to date them? 100% would i be able to handle it-if they were still providing? i really don't know. she's a total dream-smart, fun, sweet, sexy...but i until that happens....who know?

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