RedBook
EscortsPremier Adult Entertainment Community HOME | ADS | FORUM myredbok
Subject: "Free isn't always free / why you hobby..." Archived thread - Read only
    Previous Topic | Next Topic
printerPrinter Friendly view     picviewPic view    
Conferences > Special Interest > Red Book Diaries > Topic #3004
Reading Topic #3004

orangejuice
Member since 19-Apr-10
53 posts		 17-May-10, 07:17 PM (PST)
Click to send private message to orangejuice orangejuice profileClick to add this user to your buddy list  
"Free isn't always free / why you hobby..."
 
   Been in a long-term relationship and, after all these years, wound up with a real hottie (young, Asian) on the side. Now I'm thinking it would cost less emotionally and financially to just book a hot AAMP chic on occasion. It probably costs less in the long run and no drama, etc. I've never done that before, but it might be good therapy to chill from the drama, which aint fun. I'm sure this is a topic covered before. I've only gone to AMP's over the years, but figure I have to go to an AAMP to find someone who can physically be on par with the chic I've been seeing. I guess some of you guys are in this hobby for similar reasons?

Regards,
OrangeJuice

  Alert Top

 
Conferences | Forums | Topics | Previous Topic | Next Topic

pohaku pohaku rating
Member since 25-Dec-03
6822 posts, 151 feedbacks, 272 points		 17-May-10, 09:32 PM (PST)
Click to send private message to pohaku pohaku profileClick to add this user to your buddy list  
1. "RE: Free isn't always free / why you hobby..."
In response to message #0
 
   LAST EDITED ON 17-May-10 AT 09:40 PM (PST)
 
You are a decent and sweet person to think the way you posted above.


But let's not just evaluate your cost only but let's think about the cost your long term GF must endure and your new Asian lady must suffer also if everything is revealed.

To many of us, intimacy isn't just about sex but presents something much greater.. like hope for future and getting old with someone you care etc. I will not take away someone's hope and desire for life long happiness and use it up as a way to fulfill my sexual fantasies or fetish.

Providers charge a fee because clients can just take the sex and fantasy part and do not have to worry about hurt feelings or worse... how to admit to your affair girl that she was just a temporary thing and you love your wife or LTR GF more.

Treating any woman that way will take a toll on you as well... especially if you are intelligent and empathic.

Most of the world would still call hobby cheating but I would say it is lesser of two evils and at least you are playing fair with provider side by paying the hourly fee so she can play your perfect fantasy girl.


  Alert Top

orangejuice
Member since 19-Apr-10
53 posts		 18-May-10, 09:29 AM (PST)
Click to send private message to orangejuice orangejuice profileClick to add this user to your buddy list  
2. "RE: Free isn't always free / why you hobby..."
In response to message #1
 
   The new Asian gal knows about my SO. I'm trying to ween myself off the new girl as I don't think I can leave me SO. If he new girl was the jealous/aggressive type and made some waves, then I'd be forced into a decision. But she isn't like that. I'm thinking $200 therapy sessions might help with the process of moving on. -A potential slippery slope, I know.


Regards,
OrangeJuice

  Alert Top

thruxton thruxton rating
Member since 7-Jun-08
332 posts, 4 feedbacks, 8 points		 18-May-10, 12:18 PM (PST)
Click to send private message to thruxton thruxton profileClick to add this user to your buddy list  
3. "RE: Free isn't always free / why you hobby..."
In response to message #2
 
for me, the hobby is predominantly mechanical and psychologically projective, so i can not do intimacy and side-play. but it sounds as you operate day to day without any real connection.

from just a little bit, who can say for sure but it just seems that you like the stability of the SO along with the eye candy of the side meal. what would be the difference of paying for it except it would be pure candy, devoid of emotional connection. which may be exactly what you need/are capable of having.

  Alert Top

orangejuice
Member since 19-Apr-10
53 posts		 18-May-10, 03:23 PM (PST)
Click to send private message to orangejuice orangejuice profileClick to add this user to your buddy list  
5. "RE: Free isn't always free / why you hobby..."
In response to message #3
 
   Actually, I fell for my friend on the side and wish I could be with her. However, due to my situation, I cannot really leave the one I'm with. I've thought about it a lot, but think it would be too messy & costly to leave. Therefore, I'm trying to make things work out. But I still cannot get the other woman out of my mind and am thinking that AAMP'ing will help break the emotional attachment I still have for her while still providing me with "eye candy" as you mentioned. So, yes, my issue is that I'm very emotionally attached and I'm trying to get rid of those feelings or I'll never be able to move on. I don't really want to move on, but have too. Each day gets a little better.

Regards,
OrangeJuice

  Alert Top

thruxton thruxton rating
Member since 7-Jun-08
332 posts, 4 feedbacks, 8 points		 22-May-10, 06:36 PM (PST)
Click to send private message to thruxton thruxton profileClick to add this user to your buddy list  
11. "RE: Free isn't always free / why you hobby..."
In response to message #5
 
OIC

well that is a pickle. i can understand that some people might be in a tough situation eg. costly as all hell, so leaving really isn't an option. i think, in that case, you are on to a good course of action.

the devils advocate says that you only live once, however, so betting against your heart is pretty serious. i can't judge either way (of course) as it's your life. personally, i almost lost my ability to combine love and lust (actually, even after counseling i am still working on it) and nothing is worth the price of that.

good luck and let us know how it works out!

  Alert Top

MrRoboto MrRoboto rating
Member since 23-May-07
630 posts, 7 feedbacks, 14 points		 18-May-10, 03:02 PM (PST)
Click to send private message to MrRoboto MrRoboto profileClick to add this user to your buddy list  
4. "RE: Free isn't always free / why you hobby..."
In response to message #0
 
   Actually free sometimes is free. Look at all the deadbeats around.

I RB, therefore I sex.

  Alert Top

rookieplayuh rookieplayuh rating
Member since 19-Dec-03
653 posts, 6 feedbacks, 12 points		 19-May-10, 00:15 AM (PST)
Click to send private message to rookieplayuh rookieplayuh profileClick to add this user to your buddy list  
6. "RE: Free isn't always free / why you hobby..."
In response to message #0
 
   Cheaters crak me up.
Man up, grow a pair, jump off the fence one side or the other and quit keeping two (at least) women hanging onto what may or may not become. At least give them that much respect.

  Alert Top

orangejuice
Member since 19-Apr-10
53 posts		 19-May-10, 05:12 PM (PST)
Click to send private message to orangejuice orangejuice profileClick to add this user to your buddy list  
7. "RE: Free isn't always free / why you hobby..."
In response to message #6
 
   Well, the girl on the side has a steady boyfriend and knows about my SO. She has been actually stringing ME along!!! I just won't leave me SO for her unless I know it is the real deal. She won't leave her boyfriend for me unless I leave me SO. So there we are. I guess I have made up my mind and am back to one.


Regards,
OrangeJuice

  Alert Top

MOJO MOJO rating
Charter Member
2244 posts, 9 feedbacks, 17 points		 19-May-10, 06:55 PM (PST)
Click to send private message to MOJO MOJO profileClick to add this user to your buddy list  
8. "RE: Free isn't always free / why you hobby..."
In response to message #7
 
She has been actually stringing ME along!!! I
>just won't leave me SO for her unless I know it is the real
>deal. She won't leave her boyfriend for me unless I leave me
>SO.

Get a grip, you're going to let a woman's emotions dictate your life?

What do you want?
Stay with your SO or not, you decide, but don't let your decision depend on the decision of another.

What happens if she decides to leave her SO, you leave yours, then she changes her mind?

Better figure out what you want before you make any decisions.

Good luck.......you'll need it!


MOJO

I Like My Whiskey Old & My Women Young

  Alert Top

tangoman tangoman rating
Member since 19-Jan-05
4050 posts, 42 feedbacks, 83 points		 19-May-10, 07:21 PM (PST)
Click to send private message to tangoman tangoman profileClick to add this user to your buddy list  
10. "RE: leave me SO"
In response to message #7
 
   Im taken by your use, twice, of "me SO."

Reminds me of this:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=umFzekMru2k

Do you like spinach too, OJ?

Cheers, TM

  Alert Top

oralio oralio rating
Member since 1-Dec-03
40681 posts, 145 feedbacks, 239 points		 19-May-10, 07:08 PM (PST)
Click to send private message to oralio oralio profileClick to add this user to your buddy list  
9. "RE: Free isn't always free / why you hobby..."
In response to message #0
 
If a person has the spendable money to burn, aamping is definitely cheaper overall, IMO, because of the simplicity in mental, physical, and emotional costs. Relationships or mistresses consume lots of physical and mental energy. Unlike hobbying, you can't turn off mistresses whenever you feel like it.

Be the change
you wish to see

  Alert Top

VonClitzentitz
Member since 10-Apr-07
4714 posts		 22-May-10, 08:55 PM (PST)
VonClitzentitz profileClick to add this user to your buddy list  
12. "RE: Free isn't always free / why you hobby..."
In response to message #9
 
   >Unlike hobbying, you can't turn off mistresses whenever you feel like it.

Well, at least not legally.

  Alert Top

oralio oralio rating
Member since 1-Dec-03
40681 posts, 145 feedbacks, 239 points		 23-May-10, 02:16 AM (PST)
Click to send private message to oralio oralio profileClick to add this user to your buddy list  
13. "RE: Free isn't always free / why you hobby..."
In response to message #12
 
There's that damn "L" word again.

Be the change
you wish to see

  Alert Top

YogiBear
Member since 3-Aug-07
77 posts		 23-May-10, 11:48 AM (PST)
Click to send private message to YogiBear YogiBear profileClick to add this user to your buddy list  
14. "RE: Free isn't always free / why you hobby..."
In response to message #0
 
   It isn't for the sex ... ... is so you can just leave

  Alert Top

Conferences | Forums | Topics | Previous Topic | Next Topic
   reviews | join vip | metasearch | terms of use | privacy top | help | faq    ©2011 myRedBook S.A.