Not sure what to do but hate to think of living out my life with someone I don't like.
Not sure why I posted this but many on here give great advise.. I know what I have to do and the answer is I need a replacement but with her no time to find one.
Thanks for letting me vent.

"Just2Enjoy BBB"

You won't be able to move on until you get rid of her. Once you do, I would take a couple months off (at least) and think about what you ARE willing to live with, and seek that out.

I understand the fear of being alone. But I'm pretty sure if you have someone now, you can find someone more pleasant down the road. Be confident in your needs and treat yourself well.

one life! the only sin on this earth is to not live it authentically.

another question . . .
How did she wind up in your house if you didn't like her and she embarrasses you?

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As for getting her to 'leave', unless you both own the place or the lease is in both of your names, you can . . .
...evict her (and she leaves)
...or leave yourself (and she keeps the place)

or you can not renew a joint lease

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What to do
-Speak with a therapist about the loneliness
-Speak with a lawyer about separation of the financials and shelter
-Take a trip (probably to Thailand, Brazil, Costa Rica, Argentina)
-Plan on moving to Costa Rica or Thailand

I RB, therefore I sex.

Regards,
OrangeJuice

In the same way, talk about other issues. If she doesn't know that what she does irritates you, then she can't do anything different.

My point, let her know. This way, if/when you do break up and are going through the "crap, I broke up with my girlfriend and now I'm lonely" phase at least you know you've tried.

If your talk with her upsets her and she refuses to change things, then the breakup will be right in front of you and you'll know you saved yourself.

Pirate

Grow a pair.

How can she refuse to break up? And you know the answer.

As you say, as long as you are with her you can't find someone else. Last time I checked there were a lot more older women than men. Statistically hard to see how you couldn't find someone else if you tried.

"Hooked on Crack"

She's controlling, doesn't "get" how it's not working for you, her personality creates embarrassment and the sex isn't going to keep you in the relationship. Damn if that doesn't sound like the exact same situation I was in with my fiancee. Still, even with the marital counseling that caused the priest to ask me privately, "Why are you with her, you really don't like her!?" It wasn't enough for me to end it, but fortunately it got so tough that she basically did.

I saw her recently for the 1st time in 25 years. She's been divorced twice and is pretty miserable and still is someone I barely endured having an evening and dinner with and I am grateful that I dodged the bullet and didn't waste any more time than I did with her.

Yes, you can endure and accept the status quo and yet your even voicing your misery here is awesome as a concrete step to moving closer to being real about how you know this static situation must change one way or another.

Be true to your feelings and if you do choose to end your current situation, then just realize that some time between relationships is not the worst thing and as someone's already said, you'll not be alone for long and the new lady will make you smile!

Don't be discouraged, the end of this story has not been written yet!

The sit-down talk is the way I would go....Keep it as positive as possible then I would set up my social calendar with as much stuff as possible to keep me pointed in a healthy direction.

When your in the middle of it, it's always complicated when emotions are involved, simple solutions for those who have no emotional attachment to the outcome.