The Next Shiny Object is that person/place/thing that appears out of the mist in the life of a provider that tends to distract or divert her attention from matters at hand.

Suppose you're in a relationship of sorts with a provider (which I've done more than once/my bad) and things are going along nicely, good communication, great intimacy, laughter, fun and more and all of a sudden you notice the landscape changes and not necessarily for the better.

Another man, a new car, travel, something has distracted her and has all the earmarks of ruination of the relationship.

What are your experiences with The Next Shiny Object?

tra

First, you may be reading more into the situation with the provider than she does.

Second, maybe nothing changes except your perception, i.e. she is relaxed enough around you for the 'real' her to start to emerge.

Third, a relationship with a provider? Go slam little tra in the door until you come to your senses.

Fourth, it is simply the death of the Candy/flower monster. And you are finally seeing what was there all along.

Reality is a bitch, but it beats anything else.

culo is a culo

Guilty as charged...and a bit of ADD doesn't help matters either.
I've taken some clients as lovers when everything is perfect and they fulfill my needs, great chemistry, attraction, personality and respect of time boundaries--then bam--the NSO (Next Shiny Object) comes along to whip my head around better and I'm cooling to the last one.
It's kind of like adding and then keeping in tow 'booty calls'.

It's cool that you likened your term to include persons as well as things or activities that cause the extended distractions.

This profession dictates it's own lifestyle and def. affects your lifestlye in many ways.
It's crazy how someone at the top of the contact list becomes someone you keep touch with every couple months later on. Just happens that way.
This is why any guy dating one of "us" or who is a booty call friend needs to have great self esteem and not take it personal when we are talking and have to disconnect to 'take a call'.

OR when we say we'll get back to them and a session turns out long and then it gets late, you've gotta eat and the next day may be a blur, so you remember to call them the one after that when you have a breather.

Thanks for sharing--you are spot on and it was nice to see that a guy gets it without being offended by it.

LustyLyndy

I'll show you what a 'real' Happy Hour is!

Derf
If it fly's floats or fucks, rent it

If one ever gets into such a rejection situation, make sure that you do not question your self-worth. Besides, it will only feed into her shallow ego. For as long as you are living and breathing, and capable of laughing, enjoy life, as it is just simply too short to spend time wallowing over someone that doesn't deserve it.

There are some very, very rare exceptions where a provider can pull off maintaining such a relationship. These are the true gems. I add this just for perspective, as I understand that provider/client relationships, on rare occasions, do evolve in something more meaningful. It reminds me of this one provider (who I've never met) who has been in a long time relationship with some guy I know. She is the true Gold Standard and a real amazing woman when it comes to maintaining a meaningful relationship while working. And he is one hell of a lucky guy.

I think I may want to conclude with this -- the words loyalty and fidelity is discombobulated at best in how most providers interpret them. They seek as much as attention from as many men as possible to effectively deliver their product. That's by technical design, but... most of them are not capable of truly separating work from the "high" that they get from all the attention. Even their family and true friends take a seat at the back of the bus from that "high". If you understand that such a provider is really nothing more than a "shallow attention whore", then when she strikes you with that NSO, it will be one heck of hard strike that will send you wishing you had slammed your dick in the door instead (as our friend Culo here suggested).

But wait! Sometimes... they're just really good at their "trade"... they do not call us "tricks" for nothing, right? Son-of-a-fucking-bitch! heheheee!

-Oryx

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My, how superficial these babes can be, he wailed!

There he was, Mr Nice Guy, Mr Smooth and Suave, exploited by a shallow little gold-digger. He'll never get over it, being so sensitive and so smitten

His facebook picture:
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