I heard this mentioned on some shows I was watching. Not that it is realistic at all...

Two women were talking about an arranged marriage and one woman said why would you marry someone without having sex with them first because you might be "sexually incompatible."

What does that mean? For me, if a girl weighs less than I do, all she has to do is lay there. Women don't really have to get aroused, although it does help.

Another was two women talking about how she was "young" and inexperienced and "was only with her husband." Again, most guys would like someone that was inexperienced because as one older gentleman I worked with, "she'll always be comparing you to the best she had." If she doesn't have much experience, she wouldn't know if I was bad or not.

Or is it just an excuse??? Covering up for insecurities?

That's what it sounds like to me.

It usually means she won't take it in the rear, but he will.

BoneDonor

Sounds like something Ron Jeremy would say.

Be the change
you wish to see

Are you saying that . . .
...you don't know what sexually compatible/(in)experienced mean?
...you don't understand how sexually compatible or sexually (in)experienced factors into a good relationship?
...you don't know how to determine if you and your partner are sexually compatible.
...you don't know how to determine if your girl is sexually experienced?
...excuse for what???
...your insecurities???
or something altogether different?????

Regardless of what you meant to say, here is what I think about what you actually posted.

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>>What does this mean? For me, if a girl weighs less than I do, all she has to do is lay there.<<
If you're saying that you just want to lay there and she's on top, then exactly who is being the lazy fuck starfish in the bed? You're right--exactly what the hell do you mean?

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>>Women don't really have to get aroused, although it does help.<<
Are you serious??? Are you really saying that you don't care if the woman you're with (assuming non-p4p) enjoys being with you or enjoys sex with you?
Why would you want sex with a woman who just "lays there"?

Seriously, you sound either like a teenager or someone without regard or compassion for the woman with whom you share an intimate moment.

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>>Again, most guys would like someone that was inexperienced because as one older gentleman I worked with, "she'll always be comparing you to the best she had." If she doesn't have much experience, she wouldn't know if I was bad or not.<<

Combine this statement with your previous and I can only conclude that you view women as property. She is to be the vestial virgin and lay there when you need to dump a load.

Seriously, why don't you just up to the trifecta and have her circumcised so she won't feel anything.

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Let's try this . . .
1) Arranged marriages where one has sex post marriage are never about the relationship of the people married. It's about the wealth, prodigy and stability arrangement; possibly family standing as well. If a couple is in an arranged marriage and the sex isn't good, she has to endure a lifetime of bad sex and he still goes out and cheats. There aren't too many arranged marriages with equal partnership.
2) A sexually inexperienced woman gives bad blow jobs. Do you want bad blow jobs? If your answer is no, then find yourself some who knows what she is doing.
3) A sexually compatible woman may actually enjoy herself AND if she enjoys herself, you might have a better time. Imagine that.

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As for the conversation over heard . . .
1) Many arranged marriages now allow the two parties to have sex beforehand. (Often the parties may have sex with others and when they "grow up" ask the parents to do the arranging.) Therefore arranged marriages don't always equate to sexually inexperienced partners not does it mean a single partner being considered for arrangement. As such, they may be able to navigate sexual compatibility post-contract or during the negotiation process.

2) In the case of a woman who marries young and doesn't know anyone other than her guy, this doesn't mean she won't consider others and have nothing to compare. Actually it might mean she'll creep (especially if he isn't sexually fulfilling her).

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In closing, good sex requires a little bit of work (ideally A LOT) by both parties along with some give/take. If I read what you're trying to express, this post is about your own sexual insecurities. In all honesty, it's not like many guys on this forum (and elsewhere) don't share similar experiences. What I'd advise you is to think about what you want out of sex. Then use the opportunities offered you in p4p to act on those wants. (Then you can consider if you want to try a civilian.)

Or . . .
...if you want to have sex with neither her feedback nor emotion, buy a blow up doll.

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Seriously, step up your game and harden the fuck up, man.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=unkIVvjZc9Y

Don't get me wrong- there may be times when a woman is not really in the mood but goes along with it for her husband's sake. In these circumstances it'll just be annoying if he keeps trying to get her off when she'd rather be asleep.

But even if you think a woman just needs to lie there unaroused and let you do it to her, there's still a matter of compatability. What if she'll only agree to do it once a month, or only in the morning before you go to work?

In reality sexual compatibility could be the frequency or duration of your sexual encounters; whether you're dominant or submissive; whether your penile dimensions are to her liking; whether you like roleplay or keeping it vanilla- as well as numerous other areas of personal preference. Sexual chemistry isn't imperative to making a marriage work, but it's nice if it's there- at least for the first few years.

Since you seem to think that sexual compatibility lies solely in her being able to satisfy your needs, I'd suggest that should you ever get married (arranged or otherwise) you buy her a nice vibrator as a wedding gift.

ƒK