Thank you for your advices. I will try my best.

Dude,

Handy advise, but not practical for the man who is:
1. In Love
2. Already Married

The guy obviously see's something past a "Skin on Skin" type of intamacy that most of us can't even fathom. Even in my situation, my wife and I succeed in having an awesome sex session evrery now and then and I admit the "Skin on Skin" thing is the most intense sensation there is. BUT to advise a Divorce in ludicrous at best!

The fact that she doesn't like sex has many reasons like: the OP doesn't know how to fuck! to She doesn't know her body or know how to handle the wierd feeling accompanied with orgasm ( I think this is how my wife is), but in anycase. Time will tell and I advise against the Divorce thing.

Sex with the providers here is Great, Satifying to the types of sex I lack in my relationship!

But it certainly doesn't replace it, nor does it replace the LOVE (the intimate Love) one feels for another past the physical fucking!

If quizzes are quizzical, what are test?

Thank you streamingseamen for his advice, but I like your advice more. Besides the lack of sex, my wife do care a lot for me and the same goes for me. Lacking sex with my wife is something I am not happy about, but still in the end we got the love for each others. I sometimes got to accept the sacrifice because I know that money can buy sex, but it can never buy true love.

I am not experience in bed, and I can never made my wife orgasm in our first year because I have the embarrashing problem of cumming too fast. I guess that was one of the problem that contribute to her problem of not liking sex.

As for going to providers, I am not cheating or going behind her back. I shared everyting with her, she knows, and approves it. I think having sex with providers is great because I don't have to worry about my sexual performance, or to satisfy the providers. The main reason is to relax and help release the pressure of everyday stress. Just like going to a professional massage for relaxation.

For me I think leaving her because of sex only is very shallow. I got to accept that love can replace sex, but not the other way around.

A newly married, inexperienced couple discover many things. Moreover, your wife will eventually feel awkward, guilty and hurt which I assure you will break your otherwise loving relationship. You are trying to fool yourself if you think this isnt going to damage your relationship once you openly proceed with this intended couse. Going outside the marriage is your first step away from her. Both of you know it with both of your full consent. 

As I hear you... Busting a nut early is just that. A rare woman wants to fuck for hours. A married woman even less so. Most want to be dated, materially enhanced,  and on occation held, stirred, sucked and monthy fucked (gives them a sense of caring for their husband). Most want normal life which most likely include children.  A husband that whores around does not fit that profile. If you want some strange - say it. If you want to make love - find the right partner. You are currently asking to do things that are going to bound to hurt you. You know the answer. Much like soliciting opinions on going binge drinking spree to a bunch of alcoholics, they are always going to tell you what they want to hear themselves. Just know they won't be around when you piss yourself or wreck the car.

At the Thanksgiving table with your friends and wife around... Get up and proclaim - just got a hot text - time for that piece of blonde young ass by the airport. Wifey... Can you give me ride down there?

Think about it... That is in fact what you are doing but over the long term.

Sorry I don't quite get what you mean. Can you clarify on what you are trying to say?

It has been said many times that women can tell a lot about how a man is in bed by the way he eats. Does he wolf his food down and is he the first one done while everybody else is only half way through their meal, or does he savor every mouthful? Either way, that's supposed to be a very accurate indicator of his behavior in the sack.

Have you checked the man in the mirror?

No is she not a lesbian. I can be sure of that. As for the divorce is out of the question because she loves me, and I love her. I still believe that someday she will have sex with me again.

I'm still not ready for kids yet, but I don't think having kids will give more chances of having sex.

In our first year, we watched a lot of porns together. Now she's just not interested in any thing sex-related anymore. We do everything together, nothing has changed, except the sex part. Women can be very complicated

I agree, woman are very complicated....the truth is, you'll never control a woman, the woman controls you....sad but true...I know, I know, enough with the doom and gloom.

I think I know the problemo, bro....you have a HUGE penis....I say this because I dated this lady that loved my dick size...trust me, I'm just above average...so I asked her "for reals?" A couple of years ago from that time, she told me she divorced her husband because simply he had a BIG DICK. Its true, she told me that it was painful to have sex with him. She loved him and all, and they were friends...but she admitted she couldn't love him or satisfy him in that way anymore.

WWDJD

(What Would Don Johnson Do?)

Watch this video, and it will explain, to you, that you are looking for a heart beat. Watch Don Johnson sing it with conviction. You shall know the truth, and the truth will set you free. I read that somewhere in the Bible. Neat, right.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ULI5kolBpAk

Live. Love. Play. Relax.

Wake up guy! it doesn't get better but only worse. Heartache is painful fact of life. Your are not helping you case here with an understandable but delusional belief system. She will not have sex with you knowing you had sex with a provider who may or may not have an STD such as Craps, Lice, Herpes, Hep C, Warts or HIV. Having sex twice a month with a different provider each time will nearly guarantee you bring something home besides the bacon.

Fact 1: Nice guys don't get laid.
Fact 2: Women want to have a strong man in their life (a daddy replacement)
Fact 3: If you are not doing your duty as a man a woman will naturally leave you
Fact 4; Waiting for someone to change there mind is a losing bet
Fact 5: Once you have sex with a stellar woman - your wife is toast

answer this... Was your wife physically, mentally or sexually abused or neglected as a child? it has been my experience that woman who have issues with sex and withdraw from interpersonal sexual relations have issues that a loving relationship can not fix.

Women are complicated. Sometimes women become sexually withdrawn or go the other way and become overly sexual because of a single or multiple traumatic experiences. This explains many women who post on this board. Some hate men and become lesbians... others become hateful, fat and vicious ... others become drug users and still others run for the office of Governor for the State of California.

I agree, and do it before you have any children with her. And it will never get any better than it is right now.