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Here is another another example of how men are differently wired than women.

Men are visual creatures.

Women are compelled by visual attraction as well - but have different motivations when coupling with companions.

I outline the desired traits in a "life-partner" (here) because for a lot of adventurous, open-minded spirits (a provider's general emotional/psychological dynamic) -

they could quite possibly fall in love with either gender.

Many providers are (just by our basic design) polyamorous.

However, in the following list I composed
(of desired partner-traits), I highlight the male as an example.

My list of the make-up of a perfect partner
(besides being a DATY champion lol ):

1. Makes me laugh.

2. Accepts me as I am (weaknesses & strengths).

3. Is a good parent to my children.

4. My family accepts, loves him and enjoys his company.

5. He is very physically affectionate (hugging, kissing, ass-smacking-good) !

6. Shares himself openly and honestly with me - strengths and weaknesses.

7. He is intelligent. Makes me think !
Is capable of engaging in political, philosophical and theological conversations with you, your family and friends. This man truly enjoys the art of "intellectual volleyball", can go about his business afterward, walk away with a smile (win or lose) and holds no resentments regarding the intellectual exchange.

8. Has a nice smile, nice face, kind eyes, and is reasonably physically attractive.

I like "curvy guys" - but that's my preference.

8. Chivalrous - opens doors for me, contributes at least HALF of all household income (should he get laid off - I take up the financial slack without anger/resentment as long as he is always working hard/trying his best), takes out the trash, mows/waters the lawn,garden, trees & all plants on the property, works on the vehicles & machines, fixes anything that's broken around the house, is a computer/Internet wizard , runs to the store and buys "certain things" for me when I need them the most (Pamprin, etc), dispatches and employs whatever measures necessary in order to take care of "the team", gives me a massage at the end of my day, texts me during the day,
"Wub You" - just because he "misses me."

---- In turn - I love on that man like a porn star, cook for him and my family like an Iron Chef, contribute at least half of the household income, grow and harvest wonderful vegetables in the garden and from our fruit trees (which I incorporate into all of our family meals), wash/fold/put-away his laundry with care, encourage him to hang out with his brothers and friends for "man-time", make "Hors D'oeuvres" for all of them when they gather over here in front of the big screen/theatre system for Monday night football, etc. etc.

For all of the "bad" ....Life has a way of balancing it all with "good.

Sometimes - even when it all seems so dark you can barely see the hand in front of your face - Fate hands you a flashlight so you can find your way out of the "hole."

Blessings to Everyone.

It's always Summer at my place! xoxo

The only thing different on your list would be #9 (Though it's listed as #8). All that stuff would be more my contribution, not so much hers.

I was married to a gal for 25 years who, sadly, lost her battle with bi-polar disorder. When she was on the 'up' part of her bi-polar cycle, she was very much like what you've described. A true pleasure to be around. Boy, do I ever miss that!

She actually was pretty much into #9 as well. About 13 years ago, we built our house together. Me, her, and the kids (12,10,and 2). We did about 95% of the actual work ourselves; she was happy to work right alongside me.

In the end, maybe guys and gals are really not much different after all!

P.S. I'm all those things too (well, except for the computer wizard part, and I'm not very curvy. lol) Wanna get hitched?!?? lol.

Yes, we know most of your business is CMT, FBSM, etc...

Make her job easier-be a fuckable john.

Derf
If it fly's floats or fucks, rent it