The other day I restored this folder from my Recycle Bin. Lo and behold the girl was her and the guy was not me. Using the properties tab in Windows Explorer, the date these pictures were taken were 4 months before we met. Before you flame me for doing so, I was really curious to know if it was or was not her.

Here are a few aspects that I’d like some input on:

1.) She’s somewhat of a prude, especially regarding “casual” sex. She has stated more than once that she does not have sexual relationships outside a relationship or sex for fun (one night stands, animal instincts, etc.). The date the pictures were taken conflicts with what see told me. No relationship for over a year and does not have “casual sex”, yet these picture were taken 4 months before we met. I wonder why the discrepancy? We have dicussed with each other that we each "lives" before meeting each other. I did not expect her to live the lifr of a nun before we met and she did not expect me to have lived the life of a priest prior.

2.) Should I tell her about my viewing these pictures or should I let sleeping dogs lie?

3.) My libido for her has increased since discovering this and sex has been great. She noticed the increase in my sexual drive and doesn’t question why. She’s enjoying it too!

4.) I'm not sure how I should be feeling about this. I do trust her and was more curious to know rather than having a thought that she was cheating when I decided to restore the folder and view the pictures. Should I even mention that I thought the "smsll thumbnails" were of her (or is this a useless gesture)? Do I ever say anything about these pictures at all any more?

Any other thoughts would be appreciated!

Anyway, regardless of the discrepancy (if I read through it right), it's minor and it's before your relationship with her. And I like what I'm hearing about her, with respect to not having just casual, meaningless sex outside of a relationship. A virtue that's worth appreciating if you've been browsing this site too freaking long. Haha!! LOL!! Hang on to her! She's a keeper!

-Oryx

I think you've answered your own question, I wouldn't bring it up, unless, you need to use it as a get out of jail card, if you get caught cheating, for example...and argument arises, throw that in her face and act distraught. Channel your inner Robert Deniro impression.

I like trying new things like meditation, um, some herbal meditation...and I have been doing a lot of yoga, well, laughing yoga, its helped me relieve some stress...you should try it.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eXgdSOxaCGI

Live. Love. Play. Relax.

I wouldn't put too much stock in the 4 months vs. a year either. Time can play strange tricks on a human mind, especially if she's happy with you now. She may very well believe, in her own mind, that those pics actually were more than a year before she met you. My wife passed away a bit more than 5 years ago, sometimes it seems like she was lying next to me just last night, sometimes it seems like I never even knew her.

As long as the two of you are happy with each other, I don't see any point to pushing this any further. To do so will very likely drive a wedge between the two of you.

If you bring it up to her, she will almost certainly become defensive. Neither one of you needs that. Not now, not ever.

P.S. Do you ever fantasize watching her with another guy? There's nothing wrong with that at all, but this may have unleashed a deep desire you have. My wife and I were married for 25 years, it wasn't until the last couple of years that I discovered that I like to watch her pee. We all have secret fantasies.

Perhaps this is the reason she is a prude. (Bitten once, twice shy)

Make her job easier-be a fuckable john.

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Perhaps Fernleyguy is somewhat correct that it's been a turn-on for me to have seen these pictures and thus the increased libido!

Mum's the word and I'll enjoy the journey!

Who cares. So you saw them. Big whoop. Is she embarrassed; probably but maybe because she doesn't want to be that way with you. She might want to be 'proper' and 'nurturing in the relationship.'

Just because someone says they are not one way doesn't mean they are not that way for when they're feeling it. Keep in mind it was her SD card, not the dude's.

(Reg'd in '01, retired in '04, back in '08)

But, if your GF has male friends that she sometimes meets for lunch or whatever, you may want to keep one of those pictures buried in your hard drive just in case one of her current "friends" is the same guy and they meet on a regular basis. I doubt she would have the same feelings for you knowing that you were still being "friendly" with a gal you were fucking just a few weeks before meeting her.

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>2.) Should I tell her about my viewing these pictures or
>should I let sleeping dogs lie?
Unless you like unnecessary bullshit, keep your mouth shut. Forever.

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>3.) My libido for her has increased since discovering this
>and sex has been great. She noticed the increase in my
>sexual drive and doesn’t question why. She’s enjoying it
>too!
Awesome!

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>4.) I'm not sure how I should be feeling about this. I do
>trust her and was more curious to know rather than having a
>thought that she was cheating when I decided to restore the
>folder and view the pictures. Should I even mention that I
>thought the "smsll thumbnails" were of her (or is this a
>useless gesture)? Do I ever say anything about these
>pictures at all any more?
Never speak of this again. Ever. Enjoy the renewed libido, and let it be.

IMHO - you're fucking her now & if you figure out she's cheating, dump her and move on.

Oh - and try not to waste too much $ doing cheating on her with whores when she won't put out~

I bet you'll tire of those pics in less than a year and then move on.

In the meantime, enjoy that fuck and please give her a few extra thrust's, on me!

Rachel Sonoma

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