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Moon_man Moon_man rating
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"Pictures of my girlfriend with another guy!"
 
   Using my computer, I was helping my live-in girlfriend recover pictures from her camera’s memory card she deleted in error. I was able to recover “everything” that was erased as long as it was not “written” over. She was sitting next to me when we were viewing the recovered folder using the medium icons selection (which shows all the pictures in a small thumbnail view). Among the 100 plus thumbnails were pictures of a girl fucking and sucking some guy. Since the pictures were small and at the end of the view window, they did not appear until I scrolled down and were not clearly observable. Although the girl in the pictures looked like her, I said “who’s that”; she quickly responded I don’t know and then said it was so embarrassing for her. She then asked me to close the window, transfer the folder to her removable drive and delete the folder. I did just that but the folder went to my Recycle Bin. Later, she casually mentioned to me that they were just some porn pictures and she's not sure how they ended up on the SD card.

The other day I restored this folder from my Recycle Bin. Lo and behold the girl was her and the guy was not me. Using the properties tab in Windows Explorer, the date these pictures were taken were 4 months before we met. Before you flame me for doing so, I was really curious to know if it was or was not her.

Here are a few aspects that I’d like some input on:

1.) She’s somewhat of a prude, especially regarding “casual” sex. She has stated more than once that she does not have sexual relationships outside a relationship or sex for fun (one night stands, animal instincts, etc.). The date the pictures were taken conflicts with what see told me. No relationship for over a year and does not have “casual sex”, yet these picture were taken 4 months before we met. I wonder why the discrepancy? We have dicussed with each other that we each "lives" before meeting each other. I did not expect her to live the lifr of a nun before we met and she did not expect me to have lived the life of a priest prior.

2.) Should I tell her about my viewing these pictures or should I let sleeping dogs lie?

3.) My libido for her has increased since discovering this and sex has been great. She noticed the increase in my sexual drive and doesn’t question why. She’s enjoying it too!

4.) I'm not sure how I should be feeling about this. I do trust her and was more curious to know rather than having a thought that she was cheating when I decided to restore the folder and view the pictures. Should I even mention that I thought the "smsll thumbnails" were of her (or is this a useless gesture)? Do I ever say anything about these pictures at all any more?

Any other thoughts would be appreciated!


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Mrgetsome24 Mrgetsome24 rating
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1. "RE: Pictures of my girlfriend with another guy!"
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The pictures were before you met her and do not tell her about you getting them out of your recycle bin.Just enjoy your new found sex drive together and pretty soon maybe you'll be taking some pics like that with her. Either way though, don't bring up the other shit.Just let it go.

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30. "RE: Pictures of my girlfriend with another guy!"
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Mrgetsome, ;)I agree. Bringing it up at this point wouldn't benefit the relationship.

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2. "RE: Pictures of my girlfriend with another guy!"
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Shut up and fuck it.

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3. "RE: Pictures of my girlfriend with another guy!"
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There's something I read somewhere about why your libido increasing that way. Something about a drive or motivation, if you will, to secure your "ownership" of your woman. It's some sort of nature's way. Some of you scientists here may be able to come up with some facts about that.

Anyway, regardless of the discrepancy (if I read through it right), it's minor and it's before your relationship with her. And I like what I'm hearing about her, with respect to not having just casual, meaningless sex outside of a relationship. A virtue that's worth appreciating if you've been browsing this site too freaking long. Haha!! LOL!! Hang on to her! She's a keeper!

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4. "RE: Pictures of my girlfriend with another guy!"
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LAST EDITED ON 16-Aug-10 AT 06:55 PM (PST)
 
3.) My libido for her has increased since discovering this and sex has been great. She noticed the increase in my sexual drive and doesn’t question why. She’s enjoying it too!

I think you've answered your own question, I wouldn't bring it up, unless, you need to use it as a get out of jail card, if you get caught cheating, for example...and argument arises, throw that in her face and act distraught. Channel your inner Robert Deniro impression.

I like trying new things like meditation, um, some herbal meditation...and I have been doing a lot of yoga, well, laughing yoga, its helped me relieve some stress...you should try it.


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5. "RE: Pictures of my girlfriend with another guy!"
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   I don't think there's anything wrong with looking at those pics. It's just natural curiousity. Completely normal.

I wouldn't put too much stock in the 4 months vs. a year either. Time can play strange tricks on a human mind, especially if she's happy with you now. She may very well believe, in her own mind, that those pics actually were more than a year before she met you. My wife passed away a bit more than 5 years ago, sometimes it seems like she was lying next to me just last night, sometimes it seems like I never even knew her.

As long as the two of you are happy with each other, I don't see any point to pushing this any further. To do so will very likely drive a wedge between the two of you.

If you bring it up to her, she will almost certainly become defensive. Neither one of you needs that. Not now, not ever.

P.S. Do you ever fantasize watching her with another guy? There's nothing wrong with that at all, but this may have unleashed a deep desire you have. My wife and I were married for 25 years, it wasn't until the last couple of years that I discovered that I like to watch her pee. We all have secret fantasies.

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6. "RE: Pictures of my girlfriend with another guy!"
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   >>[...]She’s somewhat of a prude, especially regarding “casual” sex. She has stated more than once that she does not have sexual relationships outside a relationship or sex for fun (one night stands, animal instincts, etc.). The date the pictures were taken conflicts with what see told me.[...]<<

Perhaps this is the reason she is a prude. (Bitten once, twice shy)

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7. "Consider yourself lucky to have a GF like her"
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   LAST EDITED ON 17-Aug-10 AT 08:59 AM (PST)
 
Be a gentleman, bury it and NEVER EVER bring it up again. Using it in anyway is despicable, even in cases of trying to cover own a$$.

Make her job easier-be a fuckable john.

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8. "RE: Pictures of my girlfriend with another guy!"
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   Should at least post the pictures here.;)


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Moon_man Moon_man rating
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9. "RE: Pictures of my girlfriend with another guy!"
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   Thank you all for your comments. I agree that no good will come out of discussing this in any way with her for either one of us.

Perhaps Fernleyguy is somewhat correct that it's been a turn-on for me to have seen these pictures and thus the increased libido!

Mum's the word and I'll enjoy the journey!

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10. "RE: Pictures of my girlfriend with another guy!"
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   >Mum's the word and I'll enjoy the journey!

There's probably other pictures with other guys that she had managed to discard properly. I'm just saying. And just think of what the next guy will think when he sees the pictures of you and her. Mindblowing, the mere thought of it... ;)

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11. "RE: Pictures of my girlfriend with another guy!"
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Time to take your own camera or video cam out.

Who cares. So you saw them. Big whoop. Is she embarrassed; probably but maybe because she doesn't want to be that way with you. She might want to be 'proper' and 'nurturing in the relationship.'

Just because someone says they are not one way doesn't mean they are not that way for when they're feeling it. Keep in mind it was her SD card, not the dude's.

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12. "RE: Pictures of my girlfriend with another guy!"
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What was not in your year, should not concern, affect, or upset you at all. Get rid of those pictures to prevent she ever, even by accident, finding them again in your possession and thus a motive for a fight you do not want or need. Enjoy your time with her however long it may last, which is entirely up to the two of you.

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13. "RE: Pictures of my girlfriend with another guy!"
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LAST EDITED ON 18-Aug-10 AT 10:09 PM (PST)
 
Don't be a fucking drama queen and let it go. It's probably none of your business in the first place anyway. However, the least you could do is post those pictures so we can check them out.


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14. "RE: Pictures of my girlfriend with another guy!"
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   Move on and let it go. Best of luck to you

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15. "RE: Pictures of my girlfriend with another guy!"
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   The question I'd like answered, was the photo taken by a third person?

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16. "RE: Pictures of my girlfriend with another guy!"
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   Better hope she had the time and date set right on the camera. Mines never set right.

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19. "RE: Pictures of my girlfriend with another guy!"
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   Exactly what I was thinking...could have been 2 yrs ago or 2 weeks ago.

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17. "RE: Pictures of my girlfriend with another guy!"
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   What she did before meeting you is none of your business. She probably made the comment about no casual sex because she likes you and hoped by embelishing her past, she would be more desirable to you. Lots of people do that, especially men.

But, if your GF has male friends that she sometimes meets for lunch or whatever, you may want to keep one of those pictures buried in your hard drive just in case one of her current "friends" is the same guy and they meet on a regular basis. I doubt she would have the same feelings for you knowing that you were still being "friendly" with a gal you were fucking just a few weeks before meeting her.

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18. "RE: Pictures of my girlfriend with another guy!"
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   I think you should forget those pics and think about how you and your gf are going to make some new pics together.

It's obvious, she kinda gets off on this stuff

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20. "RE: Pictures of my girlfriend with another guy!"
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   Yeah, it happened before you met her...I would let it go...BTW, does she have a sister?

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21. "RE: Pictures of my girlfriend with another guy!"
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   This thread is useless without pictures.

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22. "RE: Pictures of my girlfriend with another guy!"
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Moon man, are you sure the dates on the camera are accurate? I never set the dates on mine and the usually end up all over the place.

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23. "RE: Pictures of my girlfriend with another guy!"
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   Sounds like your life is good. WTF would you want to risk messing things up by embarassing her. Do you really not have any secrets from her?

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24. "RE: Pictures of my girlfriend with another guy!"
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   >1.) She’s somewhat of a prude, especially regarding “casual”
>sex. She has stated more than once that she does not have
>sexual relationships outside a relationship or sex for fun
>(one night stands, animal instincts, etc.). The date the
>pictures were taken conflicts with what see told me. No
>relationship for over a year and does not have “casual sex”,
>yet these picture were taken 4 months before we met. I
>wonder why the discrepancy? We have dicussed with each other
>that we each "lives" before meeting each other. I did not
>expect her to live the lifr of a nun before we met and she
>did not expect me to have lived the life of a priest prior.
Everyone has casual sex. Even women. Even women who say they don't have casual sex.

>
>2.) Should I tell her about my viewing these pictures or
>should I let sleeping dogs lie?
Unless you like unnecessary bullshit, keep your mouth shut. Forever.


>
>3.) My libido for her has increased since discovering this
>and sex has been great. She noticed the increase in my
>sexual drive and doesn’t question why. She’s enjoying it
>too!
Awesome!


>
>4.) I'm not sure how I should be feeling about this. I do
>trust her and was more curious to know rather than having a
>thought that she was cheating when I decided to restore the
>folder and view the pictures. Should I even mention that I
>thought the "smsll thumbnails" were of her (or is this a
>useless gesture)? Do I ever say anything about these
>pictures at all any more?
Never speak of this again. Ever. Enjoy the renewed libido, and let it be.

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25. "RE: Pictures of my girlfriend with another guy!"
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   When you discuss it with her mention that you posted this thread on a hooker board!!!

IMHO - you're fucking her now & if you figure out she's cheating, dump her and move on.

Oh - and try not to waste too much $ doing cheating on her with whores when she won't put out~

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26. "RE: Pictures of my girlfriend with another guy!"
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   Thanks to all for your input

As far a this JimiChnaga being "only" a hooker board is far from the truth. The relationships forum has alot of sound advice & support.

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27. "RE: Pictures of my girlfriend with another guy!"
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LAST EDITED ON 03-Sep-10 AT 09:17 PM (PST)
 
Enough already. Post the damn pictures. Oh… shit, if the is response #27 the thread will lock. Too late.

But it didn't lock. You still have a chance.

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28. "RE: Pictures of my girlfriend with another guy! Picture!"
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   Ok, you all win (and he's so big!)

http://forum.myredbook.com/dcforum2/User_files2/t32785dxy2y1q9nq.jpg

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34. "RE: Pictures of my girlfriend with another guy!"
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   LMAO!! Good One!

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29. "RE: Pictures of my girlfriend with another guy!"
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Nah!
Sounds like you get fickled just like the rest of us PL's.

I bet you'll tire of those pics in less than a year and then move on.

In the meantime, enjoy that fuck and please give her a few extra thrust's, on me!

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31. "RE: Pictures of my girlfriend with another guy!"
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Hey moon_man, how did you get a picture of me?

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32. "RE: Pictures of my girlfriend with another guy!"
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Moon man bottom line is she lied to you and got caught.

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33. "RE: Pictures of my girlfriend with another guy!"
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   You are enjoying cuckolding. The thought of her w another man excites you, making your reproductive system produce a double load of sperm, to compete w the other guy. Fpr more info, check xtc forums.

Rachel Sonoma

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35. "RE: Pictures of my girlfriend with another guy!"
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   I'd say don't talk about it, since (a) she obviously doesn't like to, (b) it doesn't serve an identifiable purpose, because (c) you already know everything you need to know about those pics. Enjoy fucking her, and if it helps you keep interest up, keep those pics in a safe place.

SD

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