Namely, someone you've met in your life that you made an incredible connection with -- but because of circumstances in your life, their life, or both, you couldn't continue that connection/relationship -- and you had to go your separate ways. It was cut short or cut off completely. Maybe you never see them again.

But YOU KNOW if the circumstances had been right, they could have been a long term, or perhaps life long soul-mate. And to this day you still wonder (occasionally) what might have been or where they are. Not in a "grass is greener" type of way. But the kind of connection that you just never stop thinking about no matter how happy you are now or what you're life is like now.

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I've had a couple of these in my life, and every now and then I lose myself in thought about it.

One dates back to college, right before I graduated. I met a lovely young girl who was a only a sophomore. We had about a month or so of a very tender, yet passionate relationship. But she had a boyfriend (back home) with two+ years still to go, and I was about to graduate and leave the state. I have no doubt that under different circumstances we would have absolutely been in love, devoted ourselves to each other, and perhaps been together a long time. It was the first time in my life to that point that I felt that sort of connection -- even though I'd had a number of "girlfriends" in my college years. I missed her when I left school, and I've often wondered what happened to her and where she is now. I still remember her full name at the time. That was close to 20 years ago.

Another one happened about 8 years ago when my then marriage was coming to an end... we met totally randomly. Her marriage was also in shambles. We no doubt came together partially out of "misery loves company" circumstances. But there was something about her. We had an electric connection and a ton of things in common. We spent hours making out like teenagers. And to this day she's probably the best kisser I've ever had the pleasure of kissing. Over about a two month period we saw each other only 4-5 times. But it was magic every time. We "got" each other. She eventually mended things with her husband (I think) and moved up to the Seattle area. I lost touch with her about a year after the last time we saw each other. Under other circumstances I think we could have been soul-mates.

RM