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12-Oct-12, 12:59 PM (PST)
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"Am I wasting my time?"
 
   I created an account with a sd website. I started communicating with a guy there and we seemed to have hit it off. So, we made arrangements to me. Then he asked for a face photo. I refused due to my desire to be discreet for my family, friends and career. His response was backing out of our first date.

Have either of you girls had problems with guys not wanting to meet without a face photo? Guys have you ever met a girl on a sd website without a face photo? It seems as though RB guys are most trusting when I say that I am very attractive. However, most are not looking for a sb.


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12-Oct-12, 02:18 PM (PST)
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1. "He is finding an excuse to back out whether you sent face pic"
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   or not. He just chickened out.

For Christ sake, meet & greet is exactly that >>> don't like what you see, walk!

NEXT.

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12-Oct-12, 03:01 PM (PST)
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2. "RE: Am I wasting my time?"
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As someone who primarily sees just SB's, I would tell you that I won't waste time meeting someone who won't show me recent pics including face & figure as well as talk on the phone first. Just to many game players out there & I don't like wasting my time.

I just move on to the next lady. Plenty of them will show their face.

I guess I would offer up a couple of alternatives for you...

1) Move on to the next guy or next guy until someone agrees to meet you site unseen or...

2) Maybe take some more time to communicate with your potential SD to the point you're comfortable showing a face pic.

SD/SB relationships are more involved & intimate than the 1 hour wham bam thank you mamm meets you encounter with RB guys at your incall. Those guys just want to fuck you & move on. Facial appearance isn't quite as important.

As a SD, I'm going to be spending a fair amount of time with my SB in public and I want her to be attractive and not a "butta" face. If you're uncomfortable showing your face, you might want to stick with providing. This issue along with many others is why I don't think providers make good SB's. I do wish you well in your search though.

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12-Oct-12, 05:14 PM (PST)
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5. "RE: Am I wasting my time?"
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   " If you're uncomfortable showing your face, you might want to stick with providing. This issue along with many others is why I don't think providers make good SB's."

I will not show my face because of family, friends and my career. I have respect for their privacy as well as mine and do not ever want to get fired for a hobby that is not socially acceptable. A sd is actually my preference. I have actually found quality friendships on rb where we enjoy our time in public and private for months. But it is no longer as frequent per week as I desire. So, I am trying to find someone else on rb with similar chemistry but less schedule clashing. Then I will be unavailable for months again. Ha, ha. Until then, I hope to continue having some fun along the way! I understand that guys choose to not meet a girl who will not show face photos. I see now that it is culture for sd websites for girls to show their face. So when I refuse a face photo, they say bye. Based on what you said, I think I am wasting time with sd sites. So, I will most likely meet another guy on rb or in person....Too bad they are missing out!

Thanks for the advice.


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12-Oct-12, 03:44 PM (PST)
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3. "RE: Am I wasting my time?"
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   LAST EDITED ON 12-Oct-12 AT 03:48 PM (PST)
 
On SA for about 6 Weeks and agreed to see someome without face photos it was a mistake, one I will not make again, lets just say she was not very attractive. It is a waste of time and money, I think to meet up if looks are important and then it prevents the later awkwardness of conveying to the sb you dont want to see her again, assuming she is into you.

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12-Oct-12, 05:26 PM (PST)
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6. "RE: Am I wasting my time?"
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   Evolve to the Finest. AW89.

We spoke for a couple of weeks. After he wanted to go for a date I suggested a meet up just for coffee (not filet mignon) and chit chat . Then if he chose to date, he would contact me by phone or email on another day. We were not going to even discuss dating at our meet. I made the suggestion so that we wouldn't have to worry about feeling obligated or put on the spot... I did not have his face photo either by the way. He did not want to send one due to his career and privacy. Yet he insisted on mine knowing how important my career and privacy is to me...

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12-Oct-12, 05:41 PM (PST)
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8. "RE: Am I wasting my time?"
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Why can't you email a picture to him via private email address? That's how I did it with a couple girls from SA, and it worked fine. Some don't want to put their pics on the actual website but Seeking Arrangement does have a VIP photo feature where you can "give permission" to someone to see your photos.

If you aren't comfortable emailing pictures to someone then you probably aren't cut out for this sort of thing. I definitely would have to see a face pic before meeting in person.

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12-Oct-12, 04:00 PM (PST)
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4. "Send the guy a picture like this"
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   Guarantee he'll drool all over you.

http://forum.myredbook.com/dcforum2/User_files2/53exy6w0i0tzb6w4.jpg

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7. "RE: Send the guy a picture like this"
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   Evolve to the Finest. AW89.

Ha, ha. I'm actually considering giving that a try. But not for that guy.

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12-Oct-12, 07:04 PM (PST)
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9. "RE: Am I wasting my time?"
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   LAST EDITED ON 12-Oct-12 AT 07:11 PM (PST)
 
With a body pict and a ph#, I've never hesitated to text/call/meet for coffee.

Its easy to be a high roller on the internet until it's actually time to meet. Easy to use bogus profile pictures (guys AND girls) too.

BTW if you are worried about him finding out if you are/were a pro and he's a RB guy with any savvy at all, he'll figure it out.

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10. "RE: Am I wasting my time?"
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   Pro? Some people said that I am considered a very low-volume semi-pro or elite. I do not really know how to label myself appropiately. But being a companion (rather two people in a month or a week), feels like hobbying with "extras" to me. I have fun meeting people around my job/school schedule. I am playing hookie from school as of late. But that is a story for another day. ....I told him about sites that I used to find someone. He shared the sites that he used. I feel honesty is really important. So, no worries...Thanks for the information. You are giving me motivation to give sd sites a second chance.


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13-Oct-12, 00:28 AM (PST)
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11. "RE: Am I wasting my time?"
In response to message #10
 
Plenty of fish ( I mean SD) in the sea. Do what you feel comfortable doing, it may limit your opportunities but you will still have plenty of them.

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14-Oct-12, 06:51 PM (PST)
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14. "RE: Am I wasting my time?"
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   >Pro? Some people said that I am considered a very low-volume
>semi-pro or elite. I do not really know how to label myself
>appropiately.

There are some UTR (under the radar) girls who have NEVER advertised on Redbook, Eros etc. I call them 'part-timers." You are a professional escort no matter what you want to believe.

Many of the UTR girls used to answer my ads on the old CL. They were more fun than pros, but Sugar daddies want civie girls.

My lawyer is a fellow Sugardaddy. As soon as they give their phone number, we usually know where it leads to. Civie girls never use prepaid phones in fake names

> But being a companion (rather two people in a
>month or a week), feels like hobbying with "extras" to me. I
>have fun meeting people around my job/school schedule. I am
>playing hookie from school as of late. But that is a story
>for another day.

LOL. Real sugarbabies are in school full time. It is easy to verify school and employment. We have legal and business databases to tap into. I'm not going to tell you how all this is done, but you are not going to fool any legit Sugardaddy. You will most likely attract test drivers and fakes.


> I feel
>honesty is really important. So, no worries...Thanks for the
>information. You are giving me motivation to give sd sites a
>second chance.

If you are such an honest person, why are you trying to pass yourself off as a "sugarbaby" when you are a professional hooker? Many SD sites make it perfectly clear that escorts are NOT welcome.

The only reason I bother to post on RB ( after leaving for about 4.5 years ) is to find out why there are so many hookers on the SD sites. Maybe after all these years I'll hang around for shits and giggles.

Is business that bad for you girls? Why not do what Lily is doing? Post for a Sugardaddy on RB.

That is all.

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15-Oct-12, 11:08 PM (PST)
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15. "RE: Am I wasting my time?"
In response to message #10
 
AW,

Just do what makes you happy.

I've been on SA for 9 months and partake in the RB world. Both make me happy in different ways. On SA I've met women who are straight as arrow civies, women who seem like part time providers/escorts, and women who are on RB. For SA I prefer the former two since the latter is on RB!

Your guy just flaked or found someone else or maybe thought his SO found him out. Who knows. It is his loss.

Scotch

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13-Oct-12, 11:20 AM (PST)
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12. "RE: Am I wasting my time?"
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   I've had 3 sb/sd relationships with women I met site unseen. Not a problem for me, it's part of the fun.

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13-Oct-12, 02:25 PM (PST)
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13. "RE: Am I wasting my time?"
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   "Wash her, then bring her to my tent"

There are hundreds of SB's for every SD on those sites. It's a real buyers market, and I'm told it is all the rage with the college crowd.

You have a lot of competition, young girls who do not hesitate to show their faces. In not doing so, you limit your potential pool of SD's. But that must be your choice.

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