My past “Sex Tricks” have been for guys to try on their ladies.
This one is for the ladies to use on their guys. From time to time I see guys complaining about ladies that charge $200 for “only a HJ”. I’m sure that in most of the cases they were right, the service probably wasn’t worth it – but if a lady knows what she is doing – and only a few do – the HJ can be raised to a glorious artform that many would be happy to pay FS prices to experience. Here’s my thoughts on the ultimate HJ and how to do it. This is also a “How To” for the ladies – since in my experience, most need some real training on this.

Introduction/Attitude
Listen up ladies – this is serious stuff – for real experts that want to be the best. This is about Giving with a capital “G”. Giving a man an incredible amount of pleasure. More than he can do on his own and more than he can probably experience through normal intercourse. As the “Giver” you are in control. You lead him step by step up the slope of rising arousal to the peak of ecstasy. It’s NOT about “getting him off”.

What I will describe here should take at least an hour and you need to be totally patient, present and aware of his body and level of excitement for every minute of it. If you don’t have the patience for this – don’t bother – it won’t work well.

My final qualifier: This is my opinion of the ultimate HJ based on what I like and Tantra study I’ve done. I’m sure the expert ladies out there have learned a thing or two I don’t know – Please reply with your suggestions, experience and thoughts! The times for each step are only guidelines – adjust them to fit your situation and partner.

Set Up
Have your man get cleaned up in the shower while you get undressed and changed. A theme of the ultimate HJ is slow teasing, both visually and through touch. So it will include a slow strip tease during the proceedings. You should wear some lingerie that is easy for you to remove. I recommend a G-string, a sexy bra you can remove easily and a see-through outer layer such as a baby-doll or a short robe. A see through body stocking is also good if it allows you to pull down the top without totally removing it.

When he is out of the shower and dried, let him see you in your outfit. Turn around and show it off – think about how sexy you look and how you are turning him on. Then give him a lingering hug to let him feel your body and smell you. Touch him and let him touch you, but don’t let him try to remove any of your outfit yet. Have him lie face down on your massage table or bed and begin a very light touch massage of his back side. You should plan on this lasting for about 10 minutes. Use very slight strokes using only your finger tips. Your flat hand works well on his ass and inside the thighs. The obvious spots to hit are his balls, legs, thighs and ass, but don’t neglect the back, arms and sides.

Alternate where you are touching him to keep him guessing where you will touch next and to keep it interesting. Stroke the legs and thighs just trying to graze the hairs while barely touching the skin. If you are blessed with long hair – use it! Run it up and down his body and between his legs.

Here are a bunch of strokes for the legs balls and anus that are important to know:
Use a single finger to stroke from his balls all the way up the crack of his ass.
Use both hands to stroke the insides of both thighs at the same time.
Lightly stroke the balls and ass with one hand while the other strokes the one leg.
Stroke the sole of one foot while stroking his balls or the crease between his balls and thigh.
Use the spread fingers of one hand to stroke the balls and anus at the same time. You can also use your thumb on his anus while the fingers stimulate his balls. Spread his ass cheeks with one hand and use one or two fingers to lightly brush his anus.
OK – you get the idea. If you have your own favorite strokes – by all means.

If before 10 minutes are up he begins to lift his ass and get up on his knees, reach under and touch his belly and cock, but be careful, with younger guys he may be ready to come just from the pressure of lying on his erection and your light touch massage. After 10 minutes of this, he should be very hard and ready to turn over. On to the next step.

Warmup
During the next 10 minutes, you will continue with the light touch massage, but on his front. Stroke his chest, tummy, balls and thighs with the same light strokes. Only occasionally touch his cock, and only briefly. Make him want it. He can see you now and enjoy the view. Smile at him and let him know you are present for him. Let him touch you, but it’s not time yet to remove any of your outfit. After 10 minutes, we are ready for the next step.

Tease
This next step should take about 15 minutes. Plan on letting him cool down for just minute or two before your proceed. Get a small wash cloth and roll it tightly into a roll that is about 1 ½ inches in diameter. Lift up his erection and place the roll between his cock and his tummy so that the head of his cock is suspended and readily available.

Now you need to give him some instructions that he –must- follow in order for you to please him the most. Tell him that you want him to help you know his level of excitement so that you can prevent him from cumming too soon. Explain that you want to know his level of excitement on a scale of 1-10, with 10 being an orgasm and 5 being a hard erection. Tell him that you don’t want him to go pass 8 right now and if he reaches 8, he is to signal you immediately by squeezing your leg, butt or one of your toes if you are sitting by him. Agree on the signal and have him try it.

Now reach under your see-through robe and unhook your bra and take it off. You want him to be able to see your breasts during this next step. If you have him on a bed, sit next to him cross legged on one side. I recommend his right side if you are right handed since you will later probably use your left hand to stroke his cock

All of this should have taken a few minutes and will have let him cool off for a little while. Ask him to tell you his level before you start. It may be 3-4 or 5. I would recommend not starting until he’s at 5.

Now use your right hand to softly stroke his balls and thighs. With the left, lightly tease the head of his cock just using your fingers and NO lubrication. Don’t start stroking up and down yet – it’s not time to start jacking yet! Just use loose relaxed fingers to explore all the parts of his cock head. The coronal ridges are specially sensitive and the spot called the frenelum which is on the under side of the cock below the tip. This will be the side facing up. Just stroke softly and slowly. From time to time, use the other hand to stroke his belly and chest.

If he signals you, immediately stop stimulating his cock head and his balls and legs. Stroke his belly and chest for about a minute and then continue. If he signals you again rapidly, stop for longer. Have him close his eyes and breathe and then open them when he gets to 6. If you get to the end of the 15 minutes without him signaling, that’s fine too.

Peaking
This step should take 15 minutes and will be the most difficult step for you and take the most concentration on his arousal. Get some lubrication for stroking his cock. Use what you or he likes. I find the water based lubricants suck for good hand jobs. They dry out and get sticky. I recommend first applying a small amount of Vaseline and massaging it into the cock and then using baby oil. The Vaseline under the baby oil makes for a much more slippery mix that lasts longer before more baby oil is needed.

At the start of this step, stop all stimulation and ask him to close his eyes and take relaxed breaths and to open his eyes when he reaches 6. When he opens his eyes, take off your robe or baby doll so that you are nude except for the G-string. Tell him that it’s very important to breathe naturally during this part and that if you see him holding his breath, you will stop. And if you do see him holding his breath – stop.

Remove the rolled up wash cloth, lubricate his cock and begin gentle strokes with one hand while the other strokes his legs, balls and body. Ask him to signal when he reaches 7. Use the thumb and ring finger of your stroking hand to encircle his cock and stroke fully from the base to the tip of the cock. Use slow strokes – a full up and down should take a second or slightly more. When he signals, stop stroking his cock and only stroke his chest and tummy with the other hand. Ask him to close his eyes, keep breathing and open them when he reaches 6. When he opens them, start again. What you are doing here is bringing him up to little peaks and then cooling him down to the last level. It’s a like a rising up and down zig-zag. By stroking his chest and tummy between peaks, you are getting him to re-direct sexual arousal away from the genitals to the upper body.

After he reaches 7 for the second time and cools down to 6, ask him to signal when he reaches 8. At 8 stop and ask him to cool down to 7 as he did before by closing his eyes and breathing while you only stroke his chest and tummy. If you find that it is taking too long to cool down to the previous level, stop stroking is chest/tummy. If the lubrication gets low – add more – you need to keep it slippery. Repeat level 8 twice as you did with 7, except for cooling him down each time to 7. Then go up to 9 twice, cooling down to 8 each time. At 9, each time squeeze his cock head hard when he signals to prevent him from tipping over to orgasm. This doesn’t hurt and it stops an approaching orgasm. At level 8-9 you will find that only a few very gentle strokes many be needed to push up a level, so go slow! Also be aware that at level 9, your strokes of his balls and thighs can push him over the edge easily.

If an accident happens and he starts to come, don't worry. Take his cock and stroke him through the finish. If you are an expert, you may know ways of stopping him if he hasn't gone too far, but that's too advanced for this lesson. After reaching 9 twice, it’s time for the finish. If your man is a real expert with excellent control and a strong PC muscle he knows how to use, you could try for two trips up to 9.5 - this will take only a few strokes each time.

Finish
This should be the last 10 minutes. Before you start, it’s now time to take off the g-string and let him see the pussy his fevered brain has been longing to see. Give him a little show. Step away from the bed or massage table and let him see you. Show off your sexy body for him. Think about how you have him ready to cum and he wants you to finish him now. This is a good time to rub your body all over his and let him smell you and kiss your body. Just be careful not to cause an accident. For the finish, you can sit between his legs or astride one of his legs so he can see your pussy while you finish him.

Before you start again, you want him to cool down to 8 or even lower. Then start. Ask him to signal you as he reaches 8.5, 9 and again at 9.5 and insist that he needs to breathe normally. I wouldn’t recommend stopping if you see him holding his breath though – just tell him to “breathe for me”. Begin slow gentle strokes. Speed up a little at 8.5 and more at 9. At 9.5 speed up to fairly fast strokes, about twice the original speed. Don’t jerk or be rough. Steady strokes are what you want. Keep going until he shoots. Expect a back-arching, screaming orgasm. Some guys – like me – are often super sensitive right after orgasm and I need the strokes to stop, but I like the girl to grip my cock just below the head with a circle made by her thumb and forefinger and to jerk gently while stroking my balls and thighs. Stay with him for a minute after he cums, stoking him gently all over. If you are a really special girl, you can clean him up and snuggle with him for a few minutes too.

One alternate finish that I once experienced could be used here too. When he reaches 9.5, hold his cock with one hand while you use the other to make small circular stokes right on the very tip of his cock. These strokes should be fairly fast and firm and can even be done with the flat of the palm. This almost made me faint when someone first did this to me.

There are other obvious enhancements. A prostate massage can be added to the “Finish” if desired.

Anyway – I hope the ladies can learn some things from this. You don’t have to use all the “signaling” that I describe literally. If you are good at reading your mans arousal, you can do it on your own. If people have other ideas about the perfect HJ – let me know – I’m always interested in learning new tricks!

Shyboy

I learned several great techniques (worth $$) from a TV show called "The Orgasm Special: A Real Sex Xtra" on HBO which aired in 2001.

The main feature was sex educator Lou Paget.

I had never heard of her before and this HBO special showed one of her HJ seminars.

In the special she taught some specific techniques like the "Hand Cross", "Basketweaving" and "The Heartbeat of America" which have all been very popular with my friends!

I guess she has been a sex educator for 15 years (in the LA area) and may have some videos available if anyone wants to try to research these techniques for the ultimate massage.

Kind Regards,
Ruby Tulips

When I was getting close to finishing, she spread her free hand (the one that wasn't stroking) wide and flat, with the thumb separated from the fingers, and used the web of flesh between her thumb and the rest of the hand right at the junction of my scrotum and my shaft. She pushed down toward my anus, which had the effect of stretching the skin of my penis, and it felt as if I were pushing really deep inside her pussy, without closing her hand to clutch my balls, which I think would have been painful. That resulted in the most powerful orgasm I've had in my life.

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I had wonderful session with a provider recently during which I showed her some of the fun things I like. She liked them too and urged me to post some of them. So here is the first - The Fur Mitt

A number of years ago I purchased a rabbit fur mitten from the mail-order adult toy catalog Xandria collection. Sadly this item is no longer available from them.

This is a huge hit with women. It's a soft fur mitten that is used for sensual massage. Women love to have their breasts caressed with it. Usually us guys are too rough with womens breasts and this is a great way to make sure you are touching them softly. One GF could have orgasms simply from me stroking her chest with it for about 10 minutes. Of course, it feels great everywhere else too. Try stroking your GFs or ATFs face, tummy, and butt with it too. Very sexy and sensual.

I have also found that it's greatin a AMP setting where I have the girl use it on me during a HJ. The feeling of having my inner thighs stroked with it in the final few minutes before cumming when my body is super-sensitive is amazing.

I don't know if good vibrations carries something like this - but if they don't they should.

Enjoy