After finding the girl that piques your interest and you have made the decision that she is the one you're going to call, please follow these simple rules...
First off, do your homework. Read reviews, check if she is posted, do a search for her handle or phone number in the msg boards, etc...
1)Prior the phone call (or inbox) ...
a) Have your references ready and make sure that they are ok with you using them as a reference. It is probably a good idea to ask a girl if you could use her as a reference prior to leaving a session. Inbox works as well and for most is the preferred method.
For those of you that don't know the reasons we ask for these ... Our safety is important to us. We check with others to insure that we are safe from all kinds of troubles that may follow. Nothing personal against you but, we don't know you and this is the best way for us to feel more at ease with you as a potential client. Make sure that your references are reviewed and from handles that are not one hit wonders.
Now, some of you might think that we may get jealous. In most cases this is not true. We have no hold on you and you are not our boyfriends, husbands or some other type of significant (or insignificant) other. You can see whoever you want and that is the wonderful nature of this business.
b) READ THE ENTIRE AD! This is one of the most important things to do. I know that some of these are lengthy and long winded but, there is pertinent information in there you might need to know or instructions on proper way of contact. Some examples of what you can find if you actually take the time to READ are: proper times to call ex: if our ad was posted at 4 pm then it is probably a sure sign that we will not be available at 4 am. Specials: we might be running a special which certain requirements need to be met for you to receive that "Special" price. Most of us require references (see above 1-a).
c) Inbox you references with the following information. Your name, your references (2 references are nice incase one doesn't pull through) and how your references would remember you.
Perfect example of how an inbox should be...
Hi (providers name),
My name is (insert your name). I wish to schedule an appointment for (time and date). My phone number is (insert phone number). My email is (insert e-mail). In the past I have seen (insert references names and ad numbers). They would remember me as or by (insert how they would remember you). Please let me know if you are available for that time. Once I have passed your screening process, would you please contact me at (insert your preferred way of being contacted).
(closing salutations),
(Your name)
d) If calling in your references in please understand that sometimes when you call, we might be a bit busy. Please leave a msg and let us know if we can call you back and at what time. You can even let us know that you will try back later, this way we can expect a phone call from you. On the msg you should leave your name your phone number (or e-mail), your references name, ad number (or phone number) and how they would remember you. Also, what time you might be wanting the appointment. Do not excessively call, for it irritates us immensely. 1-2 calls is acceptable; any more than that, is too much. Again make sure she is working that day by seeing if her ad is displayed.
Example of an acceptable voice mail....
Hello my name is (state your name). I am interested in spending time with you. I have seen (state your references names, and contact information). They would remember me by (state how they would recognize you). When you get this please contact me via (state best way to contact and what time). You can, at this point, skip contact information and simply state, "I will try back again in an hour or so."
After you have passed this process, you will not have to go through it again. Inbox is a good way for references. This way we can refer back to this inbox msg and won't have to take the time to process it all over again. Most girls will save this information.
With phone numbers and contact info, we will not use it until we are asked or told to do so. We do understand that discretion in this business is a priority.
2) The Phone Call....
a) When talking with us on the phone, please refrain from the use of ebonics, slang and slurred vocabulary. Speak clearly and in such a manner that we can understand the words coming out of your mouth. Rudeness and such will not be tolerated and will probably result in a "click", followed by a dial tone on the other end. Leaving you talking to yourself and feeling frustrated.
b) Asking about anything that is stated in the ad is a sure sign that you did not read our ad and puts us on edge. Asking about prices and services is a sign you did not do your homework or, read our ad. Asking about such things will probably result in a sound of a "click" and dial tone on the other end. Leaving you talking to yourself... feeling frustrated.
After all this you are now ready for the appointment. If you have followed these directions then you WILL have an appointment.
3) Pre-appointment preparation....
a) Have your donation ready. If you have done your research there should be no question as to what the amount is. Place it in an envelope or separate it from all other cash. In some cases its best just to bring the stated amount with a little extra just in case you want to leave a tip. Do not buy something and take the amount from your donation amount. Also make sure when arriving you have it on you. We ask for it upfront and if you don't have it, you don't get to spend time with us.
b) If arriving from home, please take a shower no more than 30 min before you leave your house. If you can't take a shower at home, then don't be afraid to ask for one when you arrive. We all have showers available. Most of us will even ask if you need one. Take the washcloth load it up with soap after you get in the water stream and apply it to all crevices of your body. This is especially important around your armpits, ass and balls. In some cases we would be more than happy to join you in the shower and help you with this process. If we join you, it would be considered the start of our time together.
c) Have directions ready and know where you are going. If we want you to meet us at Starbucks then know which Starbuck you are going to. Please follow directions and arrive on time. If you are late then be prepared to have time cut short because we might have another appointment set up behind you. You will be expected to still pay full donation if your late. You are not only wasting our time but yours when you are late.
If you are running late please, give us a call and explain that you are running a bit behind. We are more apt to understand this than if you just show up late. If you don't show up within 15 minutes of the set time and don't call to inform us that you are running late, then you are considered a no call no show. This means that your appointment is cancelled and further attempts to reschedule will be denied. We will take to heart your excuses but it is at our discretion if we will see you or not.
For whatever reason you can not keep the appointment please call and let us know. We really don't need an excuse. Just let us know you can't make it at that time and you would like to reschedule. Be preparred to leave a good tip for cancelling when you do come see us again. You cancelling has left us with an open time slot that could have been filled if given enough time. 2 cancelations in a row and you will be considered a flake and all other attempts to set an appointment will be denied.
e) It is always nice to bring something extra. It is not required but a very thoughtful gesture. If you know our favorite flower, candy, wine, collectible, etc... bringing an acceptable gift will put us in an even hapier mood. Happier mood = happier session. Again this is not a requirement.
4) Appointment...
a) When you arrive please refrain from grabbing and molesting until the door is closed. This is a private affair not a public one. Do not expect us to open the door in lingerie or anything extremely revealing because you never know who is watching. We will be dressed and accordingly to our privacy. If we have a very private entrance lingerie and even in some cases nudity might be a possibility.
b) Please place donation in plain sight. Do not get offended when we check to make sure proper amount is there. Just a formality and we have to do this.
c) Before you get too excited, please pay attention to what we have to say about limitations. If you have done your homework you should have an idea of what to expect. Still, there are in most cases some rules that you will have to follow.
d) Most importantly, lay back and enjoy. You are here for relaxation in whatever form you are looking for. RELAX. We don't bite that hard and only if thats what you want.
e) Don't feel bad if peformance anxiety attacks. We get this all the time. Yours is not the first and it most definately won't be the last. We can be very creative to get juices flowing and you might be pleased with the outcome. If the anxiety causes you to perform to soon, you do not have to leave right away. In most of these cases a second attempt can be achieved. This can be a fun experience in itself.
5) Aftermath....
a) After the session is over get dressed (shower if need be)and if you would like, leave a tip. We appreciate tips but don't require it. Tipping will also help in knowing you appreciated our time together and might possibly see us again.
b) Reviews.... If you decide to leave a review might I suggest keeping details limited in the line that is seen by the public eye. The more descriptive details can be described inside the review.
6) All in all...
Keep in mind that the experience you may have, may not be that of the other people we have seen. Your attitude and demeanor before, during and after a session make the difference between a good session and great session. YMMV. Not all people mesh well, It could happen where we might not click. It happens and such is life.
Just a little guideline to follow and remember, not all of us are the same. Each experience is different and that is just another wonderful aspect of this business.
Kath