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grnblu
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"The SO's of RA's"
 
   I prefer TAMPs because of the adventure of the unknown. Over the years I have met many RAs who are married or have serious SO's. I have always scratched my head about this not quite understanding how the SO goes along with the RAs line of work. Is it denial about what goes on, do they just not care, or is their love on money (household income) equal to or greater than their care for what their SO is doing? Perspectives?

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1. "RE: The SO's of RA's"
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   Most of the girls work for TAMPs is licensed professional (CMT). It is a recognized legal profession not prostitution. What goes behind the closed door is not scrutinized critically by the SO's. Of course, the SOs of CMTs are no angels. Most of them are gamblers, ex-con men or druggies/alcoholics. Money is always in need with those SOs not the love or fidelity. Almighty Benjamin is winner again in this relationship.

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2. "RE: The SO's of RA's"
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   LAST EDITED ON 02-Jul-10 AT 01:55 PM (PST)
 

Thanks, drifter. That's one of the funniest posts I've ever read in this forum.

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3. "RE: The SO's of RA's"
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   You should read some of your own.



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11. "RE: The SO's of RA's"
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   I tried but they're way over my head.

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13. "RE: The SO's of RA's"
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   You gotta start somewhere; it's really funny stuff. Here, sit on this one for a while...

http://forum.myredbook.com/dcforum2/DCForumID19/43885.html#11


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7. "RE: The SO's of RA's"
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>
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>Thanks, drifter. That's one of the funniest posts I've ever
>read in this forum.

Funny?, but was revealing. Took me a moment to insert the proper words(in the right sequence), verbs, ect.

An RAs SO = pimp, that's what I'm thinking. Understood the "gambler, substance abuser, ex-con", but how much money does it take to live on a couch or in car?, and KFC in a box isn't that expensive, is it?

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20. "RE: The SO's of RA's"
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   You are welcome, Papa. Unfortunately, some pimps don't get the fun when things get right on. They need to understand english grammer instead.

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4. "RE: The SO's of RA's"
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I dont know anything about so called "SO's" of RA's. To me, thats an oxymoron term. I don't really call customers/"boyfriends", as Significant Others. Those maggots are lower bottom feeders and don't deserve an endearing label, if you asked me! There's nothing glamorous about being a glorified ATM machine for an RA. Really. What's so good about that? And the fact of the matter is, YOUR so called "girlfriend" fucks about ten guys a day.
Tell me that doesnt eat you up at night when she's working and you're all alone?

The worst of these SOB's are the already married kind!
And I'll even go one step up further: Married and currently have kids!
AND in love with an asian hooker?
Oops!

That's fucked up.

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5. "RE: The SO's of RA's"
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I have had 2 provider girlfriends....

For me it's simply that the girl has a job and it's just business, not personal.

It took me about a year with SO #1 to figure that out, but in reality there's no emotional connection for the most part.

Gamblers and all that? I'm not even close to a gangster, gambler, or any of that. That kind of blanket comment is fulla poop. RA's have SO's from all over the career spectrum.

tra

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6. "RE: The SO's of RA's"
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Doesn't really matter in my opinion. Either the RA lies about her job, or the so called SO may not care as long as she makes money and is allowed to go and do what he wants.

I thought we are all in this to have fun; not philosophize on anything further than the fantasy game.

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8. "RE: The SO's of RA's"
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GrnBlu:

I fell in love with, and married, a TAMP girl. She was in this line of work when I met her (as a customer). I do not have (or make) enough money to to fully support both of us. She makes about the same per month as I do. She pays more than half of the household expenses. She has NEVER asked me for money.

I'm not in denial about what she does behind closed doors, but that is her job. I don't like it, but I tolerate it.

You can also read my musing on the subject in this related thread from the general forum:

http://forum.myredbook.com/dcforum2/general/44065.html

Never Ask Why ........

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9. "RE: The SO's of RA's"
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There's a whole range of SOs...

I actually know of two situations where the guy doesn't know... (think she leaves town for work... or he lives in another city...)

Some women hook up (generally temporarily..) with a customer... (I've also known of a few of these.....)

Most of the time these guys have legit jobs... (Cisco in one case..)

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10. "RE: The SO's of RA's"
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There was one RA I became quite fond of, and if circumstances were different I would have been more than interested in a relationship ++.

But there are to many differences in her life style/culture as well as mine.

I for one could and would not 'tolerate' her continued line of work, I'm selfish and wouldn't want to share her with anyone. Being from the old school, the man is the bread winner, I couldn't feel good if she brought more $ home than I.

This woman is the sweetest, kindess, giving person I've had the pleasure to spend time with. Although she hated her job, she did it very well. We had a special bond. She has since retired, and married, I hope the very best for her.

I think of her often(sigh)and wish her much happiness. Gosh I miss her!

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12. "RE: The SO's of RA's"
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   Very well said. I did the same and miss her too

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16. "RE: The SO's of RA's"
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   jsthavnfun, its not selfish to want your SO to be with you and only you. Where I come from that's a natural element of a relationship. Its my whole point with the post; I just don't know how those SO's "go along" with the program. I would clean pools or mow lawns or clean public bathrooms before I would concede to allowing my wife/gf be an RA knowing what RAs do.....what kind of man does allow it?

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19. "RE: The SO's of RA's"
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   <what kind of man does allow it?


The answer to your question is given in my first post. However, I forgot to mention the worst off all kind - the 'pimps'!

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25. "Pimp?"
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   Hate the game, don't hate the player.
It is hard out here for a pimp...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OtIOHw80dFg

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23. "RE: The SO's of RA's"
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   Darren,

Kudos to you bro. Just let us know who your wife is so that we treat her nice.

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14. "RE: The SO's of RA's"
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   I call them "wife".

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15. "RE: The SO's of RA's"
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>I call them "wife".

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17. "RE: The SO's of RA's"
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   LAST EDITED ON 02-Jul-10 AT 11:07 PM (PST)
 
There are many reasons why a guy would date or marry a working girl, but I've found the most common one, by far, is she is often better than what he would get in the outside world. This isn't true for all guys, but most I've seen.

I had a lover for a few years who worked in a SF AMP. I was with her because I genuinely loved her and for the novelty (and the sex), but I knew I would never marry her and I knew I could do better with a woman that was never a working girl, which I have. During this time, I met many of her friends SO's, both husbands and BFs, and they only confirmed in my eyes what I've said above. Most of these guys would still be paying for most of their sex if they weren't with these girls. Or they'd be in a relationship with a woman that they'd wish they weren't in.

As for the subject of what the SOs think of the girls working, surprisingly most just accept it. I did. I would pick her up after work and when we'd get home she'd still have her "war paint" on. She's spend 15 minutes washing it off while I watched TV and then she's come walking in the living room a completely different woman than I'd picked up from work just a half hour ago.


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18. "RE: The SO's of RA's"
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   Great topic, great answers. The one option in the OP that is hardly touched on is denial, and I've known such a case. It's just amazing to watch someone (the male) talk himself around the subject in so many ways just to avoid admitting that what the woman does involves actual sex.

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21. "RE: The SO's of RA's"
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Known some SO's of RA's,strippers,bartenders etc. & as I see it. They're very clear cut about their boundaries within the relationship in order to remain solid. Egos can't get in the way. Whatever it takes to sustain the relationship especially if there're offsprings from their past or present. Its a very fine line & not everyone can do it. I certainly don't have the tolerance.

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22. "RE: The SO's of RA's"
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I've thought about a serious relationship with an RA before. For me it would be challenging enough to sustain a relationship with an RA that subsequently retired. To have a relationship with an RA that was still working?? Couldn't rationalize it away and wouldn't try.

Two roads diverged and I chose the road down south

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24. "RE: The SO's of RA's"
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   Interesting topic but in a sense kinda funny and truly judge-mental.
I stress mental.
We are a group of guys that buy a lot of pussy(myself included)
Food for thought (some might eat it, some not).
When we look at them (RA's) and their work, we call them whores and unworthy of trust.
So many of us posted about " how we could not maintain a relationship with them, etc".
Hey that is just a personal choice and every one is entitled to their opinion.
Before anyone becomes sensitive, read the above line again.
We have money to sample many RA's but I guess that makes us exempt from "whore status"? Really?
Sorry I am a realist.
I am a whore.
I am just lucky enough that the woman(outside of this hobby) that wants to be with me has no idea of the whore I am.
Maybe she would not consider me untrustworthy and unworthy of a relationship if she knew.
I wonder how many of us think we are such "good catches" outside of this one little habit that we have (hobbying).
Does this hobby really define you?

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