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Rompe Palle

Go seek the help of a therapist who specializes in sexual addiction. Some form of twelve step fellowship may also be of use to you.

"You cant cure normal".

You are a man. As a normal man, you are going to have a desire to fuck women, usually young attractive women. Now society for many reasons (some valid, some bogus) constrains your ability to act on this natural desire.

You have no choice about the desire. Your choice is only how you deal with that and social restrictions.

One way is to say "fuck society" do what you want openly and without guilt. The price to pay is what you find. Most women will not want a relationship with you in that case (which BTW is also natural to them to want monogamy).

Another way is to control your actions and not act upon your natural desires. This is what society would like you to do and women will accept you.

The third way is to act on your desires secretly and show a different face to society. This is what most men on this board do. The only difference then is how much guilt and stress that causes you.

What is the goal of therapy? Why go? What are you looking for? Self actualization? What's that?

IMHO, fundamentally, one has to be @ peace with himself. Accept who he is and what he does and strive to be a better person everyday. And then, FUCK EVERYONE ELSE, who cares what they think and what they do? The more one cares about what others think and suppresses his own beliefs and principals, the more one devalues himself, and becomes less certain, less confident, and more vulnerable to seek help in others than within himself.

I try to keep my focus on what I can do and what I believe is right. If others can only see what they think they see, it's not my job to enlighten them. In most cases, they do not want to be anyways.

To call this hobby an addiction is saying that things are out of control in ones life. Emotionally or financially, get that fixed first and separate that from what a man's physical urges makes him feel.

Then theres one's perspective in life. I do not see what I do as an addiction. I spend what I am able and keep my priorities/objectives/tasks/responsibilities in my life in tact and up to date.

This hobby is just that, a hobby. Like golf, tennis, bowling, gardening, reading, and being with and learning more about people I care about, everything is taken in context with what's going on in my life and I try to keep a fair balance between everything.

The hard part is not going overboard with certain things @ certain times, but that applies to everything in my life, not just this hobby.

Fundamentally, everyone is unique with their own values, priorities, perspectives, and circumstances. One needs to be able to shoulder their own responsibilities and accept-n-be happy with who they are. Then it becomes easier to understand and value inputs and affects of others around you who's perspectives you value... and less stressful about what others say and think because you're no longer concerned about what EVERYBODY thinks.

I think that's the 1st step towards self actualization?

But then again, I'm...
Just Dick-in-around

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