I was moved by drifter09's initial thread. The compassion, the generosity, the trust he gave, the selfishness in wanting a virgin and making sure his purported love was indeed one, and flying all the way to China to see why the one he spent over $150K was dropping him like a bad habit.

Fact is, it took courage as well as the compassion and generosity that ultimately allowed him to share his story here.

I just wanted to say there are better women out there for you drifter09, and hang that head up high pawdner, as she lacked the conscience and integrity to cut it off sooner.

I ask all of you this: Is this the first time a male has been burned? I've heard countless stories of guys losing half their nest egg in this country to women who take them for a ride and then drop them off at the divorce bus stop. Women change their minds, some can be in relationships simply for the money, and some just have no integrity whatsoever. Some can be greedy, materialistic, egotistical, emotional, snobs who think their greatest accomplishment is playing men.

I once had this American born chinese gal go out with me and all she was talking about was material stuff and comparing herself to others in the rat race. She insisted we go to this fancy, high-priced restaurant in SF for our first date. After we ordered, i made an excuse to go to the restroom and went back to my car and bolted. This chic was raised by her parents to milk guys like me. Met her online and left it at that after i bailed on her. I can smell a golddigger a mile away. I always had that innate and uncanny ability to detect a morally and ethically bankrupt female.

Anyways, to a brother who tried to give his female soulmate all he could, and lost. Here's to you dude, hope you came out of that stronger and thanks for the brave warning you gave all the readers here.

Why are you "moved" by his being selfish and wanting a virgin and wanting to document her genitals were consistent with a virgin ?

Drifter, it is tough to go through. I can truly sympathize with your situation and know how you feel. Albeit your situation went much further than mine and apparently more costly. As noted in previous posts, this is the first step in the healing process. It will take time. I am still dealing with it to an extent. As time goes by, it does get easier to deal with. When guys tell you to "get back in the hobby to find an RA to help you forget", it doesn't work. Each person needs to heal in their own way. Maybe it will work for you, maybe it won't.

Keep your head up brother. Inbox me if you need to talk to someone that speaks from experience and won't flame you for falling in love with an RA.

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>I was moved by drifter09's initial thread. The compassion,
>the generosity, the trust he gave, the selfishness in
>wanting a virgin and making sure his purported love was
>indeed one, and flying all the way to China to see why the
>one he spent over $150K was dropping him like a bad habit.
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>Fact is, it took courage as well as the compassion and
>generosity that ultimately allowed him to share his story
>here.
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>I just wanted to say there are better women out there for
>you drifter09, and hang that head up high pawdner, as she
>lacked the conscience and integrity to cut it off sooner.
>
>I ask all of you this: Is this the first time a male has
>been burned? I've heard countless stories of guys losing
>half their nest egg in this country to women who take them
>for a ride and then drop them off at the divorce bus stop.
>Women change their minds, some can be in relationships
>simply for the money, and some just have no integrity
>whatsoever. Some can be greedy, materialistic, egotistical,
>emotional, snobs who think their greatest accomplishment is
>playing men.
>
>I once had this American born chinese gal go out with me and
>all she was talking about was material stuff and comparing
>herself to others in the rat race. She insisted we go to
>this fancy, high-priced restaurant in SF for our first date.
>After we ordered, i made an excuse to go to the restroom and
>went back to my car and bolted. This chic was raised by her
>parents to milk guys like me. Met her online and left it at
>that after i bailed on her. I can smell a golddigger a mile
>away. I always had that innate and uncanny ability to detect
>a morally and ethically bankrupt female.
>
>Anyways, to a brother who tried to give his female soulmate
>all he could, and lost. Here's to you dude, hope you came
>out of that stronger and thanks for the brave warning you
>gave all the readers here.

Thanks for standing by me. I wanted to make sure you did not get me wrong on the virginity issue. I never wanted her to have a brand new pussy. She insisted on me and withheld sex until I gave her the engagement ring. That was a weapon in her shed but not the most powerful one. I never had an intention of putting off our wedding even if she were not what she claimed.

I kept thinking all the time what the hell I was thinking during the past two years. I am respected by most of my known people as a very intelligent and capable person. Many envy my material success. I am no Brad Pitt but no Shrek either. I had a very stable LTR with one of the best person I have ever met in my life. I lost her because of my wrong decision. I guess I need to associate more with you bros for a hassle free sex life.

Those of you have skepticism, I don't blame you. It is an incredible story. But I can assure you that my story is very light compared to some of the victims I have recently met with at my therapy center. Please inbox me if any of you would like to share more information. I hope I'll get over with it sometime with your solidarity and no one in this forum has to endure the same pain.

Drift Away