"I asked what made this woman different? Of course it's sad, very sad. It's sad that three little children were being raised in such an aggravated dysfunctional environment to begin with and that no one stepped in to take them away! That there wasn't a hope of happy childhood for them! That they had a daddy that was an asshole and a mommy that couldn't do more on her own! Yes, it's sad. It's very very sad. It's sad that most apparently there was malicious control and evil abuse."

Now you presume to know what type of environment her children were raised in? Or are you simply saying that because she was a provider she should have had her kids taken away?

Are you also saying that her death is an alternative to their unhappy childhood?

I don't know who you are, even more so I really don't know why you are here. You have such a negative attitude and ugly outlook! What do you do to your clients, belittle them? Hey, I guess there is a market for those seeking humiliation and you my dear are perfect for that.

By the way your statement was much more than simple my dear it was a clear reflection of your own exasperated, higher-than-mighty self worth! And like you have the right to voice your self righteous opinion we have the right to respond. Take your double standards honey and shove them where the sun don't shine, which in your case seems to be all around you...

Have a nice day!

Edited to add...

After reading your reviews and seeing your pictures on your ad, it is clearer to me where all the negativity comes from! Learn to love yourself for who you are. There is so much power in self acceptance and honest advertising. Next time you feel the need to judge others and put them down try to ask yourself where that is coming from and look in the mirror and say something nice to yourself until you can learn to say nice things to others as well!

“It always seems impossible until its done.”

I feel sorry for BAE and think the semi famous Billie Holiday quote may apply here: ""Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle." Some of us just hide our battles and battle scars better than others.

You do not know the girl so you have no room to judge her.. She is with the lord now and he is the only person that can judge her.

There used to be a saying "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all".. I would stick to that a little more often..

Although I know she didn't want to go - I am sure there is peace, light and love at the end of "the struggle."

Blessings to her family in her physical absence - her spirit will continue to comfort them all in times of trouble.

Thousands of mothers fill the ranks on this "adult entertainment" site and countless others.

My former sister-in-law informed me that my daughter's father still had another family (he is a firefighter in another part of the state) about four months into the marriage. I had the marriage anulled and my daughter's father signed his rights away. However, he still sends a $780 check every month toward her college fund out of some sense of obligation.

I wanted that $$$ to be her nest egg and certainly didn't want to live off of it when my mortgage company and the job market collapsed.

I've said it many times before, although I came into the FBSM world out of desperation, I managed to turn my business into something really beautiful and made a lot of friends along the way.

NO PARENT should EVER have their child taken away because they "provide."

Only parents who are neglectful and/or abusive toward their children should have their children taken away for their own safety.

As for myself and the providers that I know - we work only when our children are at school and/or in the care of others.

Shoot.

Most of of the providers I know are are involved in their children's school/sports activities, Girl/Boy Scouts, take piano lessons, etc.

Some of the more successful providers are able to put their children through college and private schools as a result of the people we love and friends we make along our journey.

Idiot crackheads who f*** strangers in their own homes with their children locked in another room should DEFINITELY have their children taken away.

However, to assume that the above horrific situation is a blanket assessment of any provider's life (who is also a mother) is sheer stupidity.

It is because of what we do that our families do not live along the riverbanks, in cars and other crappy situations in this sh**can economy.

Women like us are stronger than a lot of people will ever know.

TO ALL THE PROVIDER-MOMMAS EVERYWHERE!!

It's always Summer at my place! xoxo

Moving on...

Any loss of life due to domestic violence is a tragedy. There should be none, period. But there is. In this instance the surviving children are left to bare the loss of not one, but both parents. It should have and could have been avoided.

Nuff said.

Life is what it is, we make our choices, select the people we want in our personal lives, and there you have it. As a past victim of extreme domestic physical & emotional violence and abuse I am more than familiar with the patterns of physical and psychological control, which in essence is brain-washing. I understand and know it takes a very strong mind and a very strong will to sever that connection, and I am very sorry for any woman or man that is entangled in such a life shattering downward spiral. To see the inevitable ending and to get out of it before it is too late is why we have rescues, safe houses, etc. I am not a mother but if I were I would make sure I provided the safest, happiest and healthiest environment I possibly could for my children, even if I didn't care enough about myself, I would make DAMN certain my children were safe and never let them near a violent situation.

Peace.

"Renew yourself completely each day"

This thread moved fast and I missed staying on top of it. This thread is full of examples of flames and drama that is typically discouraged. The thread is now locked and there is little point in trying to moderate it now.

Perhaps it’s just as well that the thread was allowed to run its course as hopefully if gave people a chance to vent some very strong feelings which under the circumstance is understandable.

On a positive note Abigail_Bangs gave some insight about the mother who so tragically lost her life. I thank and applaud her for coming forth in what must be an extremely difficult situation.

So let’s move on and direct our thoughts and energies to surviving loved ones and the children who must now continue on without what was the most important person in their lives.