There are a number of reasons that FBSM is so highly rated. First and foremost are the providers themselves. The personal qualities and life styles of the FBSM providers reflect a great deal of compassion, intelligence, human interest, and a commitment to caring. Through their services they communicate that they enjoy working with their clients as much as we enjoy them. In other words, they like their jobs and it shows. This is infinitely more satisfying than being with a provider that doesn't like what she is doing, or who is in the business because of lifestyle or substance abuse issues. For these providers, it too shows in their work, through lack of attention, rushing, poor interactions, loss of intimacy, emotional instability, inability to relax or focus in the moment. The excellent personal qualities of the FBSM providers alone makes FBSM the 'Grand Dame" of the services.

Then there is the massage itself, which many have described as unrushed, nurturing, intimate, caring, healthy, relaxing, erotic, unashamed, deeply open and honest, and with no great expectations from either participant other than to relax and to be relaxed. It is this marvelous lack of expectation that is so terrific about FBSM. So often, the expectations for a particular experience mess up the actual experience, causing frustration and dissatisfaction that leaves us wanting something more--FBSM doesn't do that.

But wait, there's more. Other advantages are that we rarely see posts about FBSM providers not showing up or certainly not with the frequency of that for SWs, escorts, etc., and at any rate, no-shows are not considered to "come with the territory" in FBSM as in the other areas. You will also find that FBSM providers are much easier to contact (unless they are very busy) and are very responsible about their contacts. Also, we almost never hear the typical ROB stories such as: "I paid the money, got a 10 min. half-assed massage, and then she told me to leave or she would call her boyfriend." You also don't get hit up for tips or for more money after the session is started. Attempts to 'upgrade' the service or to renegotiate for more money, are a complete turnoff and you don't see it in FBSM. I think many guys would agree with me that, with FBSM providers, you simply don't get that feeling of being manipulated or pressured about the money. It's been my experience that the business end of FBSM is typically very, very low key.

Many FBSM provider appear more stable in their living situations. It seems that FBSM providers typically have their own apartments or homes and keep the same phone number and contact info for a long time. Even better is that they are emotionally stable and emotionally available and open to their clients. Most of the time you can carry on a serious or educated conversation with them and they will surprise you with extraordinary life experiences of true value. Or they will talk about school, their own life or friends, giggle, laugh at you, etc. In essence, in FBSM you get more of the whole person and that, in turn, makes me feel like a more whole person. So, when the focus of the session is FS only, a lot of what I just described is left out. This is way I think FBSM is so terrific.

"Once our hearts are open, all existence appears naturally beautiful and harmonious." Tarthang Tulku

If you want a good therapeutic massage as well as sensuality, you usually can't get that from a FS provider. Sometimes I really need the nurturing and the healing of the therapeutic part. My body gets very tense stting too many hours at this damned computer.

I agree that the FBSM women I've met are generally (but not always) nicer people than the FS gals. It's a very big deal for a woman to be fucked by lots of men she has no feelings for. That's very likely to harden her heart.

Also (and I'll probably get flamed for this) most of us hobbyists are either too lazy or too emotionally wounded or too shy or too inept to seduce and have good sex with women we don't have to directly pay for that (I know, we pay anyhow indirectly through gifts etc.). Let me temporarily call those women "amateurs."

When I get FBSM, the woman seems more like an amateur to me. It reminds me of the time when I was young and I could engage in heavy petting with my dates but no intercourse. An extreme example of that recently was a FBSM provider who let me finger-fuck her while she jacked me off.

Queen of the Magical Forest
Where love the magician knows this little trick, whereby two people walk in different directions, yet always remain side by side.

Agboy

"It's up... and good!"

~Paulina~

The only thing I would add is the spiritual aspect.

On rare occasions, you connect on a level, beyond the physical, beyond the emotional...you find a safe place within each of you where you can just 'be.' After this type of experience (my term is oobe) sensations are heightened to the point of the surreal.

Everything you touch seems more intimate, the taste of food more nourishing to palate and soul, the sound of music completely fulfilling. Your vision is clear, your mind is open, relaxed and focused.

It is a rarity, not often expereinced by either in a normal FBSM experience. I first felt it a few years ago and most recently, a couple of weeks ago....surely worth seeking out again and again!

...jd

Warmest regards,

jorge

Very insightful and inspiring.

"If it's wet and it's not yours, don't touch it!"