What I do personally is this;

I normally do not place all my fetishes & playstyles on my ads due to the fact that everyone has different likes, fetishes and desires.

If someone wishes to know what I do personally in a session, they may ask, inquire or view my websites for further information. We shall then speak in person on a more personal level to determine compatability.

I normally get back to all my client inquiries' within 24hours. Hopefully this answered some of your questions as stated in your inquiry.

In the interim, if you'd like to know what I do, just in-box me and I shall give you all my wonderful favorites.
Good Luck in your search!

Dominately Yours,

Supreme Mistress Kajun
Pro.Domme of Fetish & Fantasy
http://www.supremekajun1.femdommesociety.com
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I would not answer further emails since I learned by experience that there were a certain number of guys who would whine at me about those items if I allowed a correspondence to develop. I don't believe that anyone ever turned into a client who started from a place I wouldn't go.

And I did, occasionally, when someone seemed just a little too "expecting" in an email, ("...and of course, there will be a happy ending to my session...") I didn't bother to answer at all. Rude, maybe, but my answer would have been, "Don't ever "expect" anything to happen in a session with me." And I would have felt annoyed at having to answer that because I've always been clear about where I was with things like that.

And I don't look down on anyone who wants to do it differently. I just reserve the right to do sessions my way. The general expectation of some sort of sex in sessions is what finally caused me to quit. I got so TIRED of negotiating a session, and then having that deal breaker popped in at the end as a "given." I see a very few of my old clients these day--very few--only the ones I really like and who are into the same things I am. I have always been lucky that I never depended on this for a living. I make and sell BDSM toys, and that's my main income. Prodomming for me was something I did because I loved it. Not that I couldn't use the money, but I did enjoy my work.

"...and you know that she's half crazy..."

There are many possible reasons. It's an unfortunate part of the game, but it is what it is.

Be the change
you wish to see

If you're confident that your messages are reflecting well upon you and the Lady doesn't respond, then I'm sorry to say that Oralio is probably right. However, there are a lot of real professionals in this area so hopefully you wouldn't need to contact too many before you would find someone who not only returns your first email, but who may very well surprise you with her intellect and charm.

I would very gently ask you to be aware that Ladies in this business get a lot of crap emails. You would hardly believe the number of emails I get that say, "What is your rate??" with no introduction. Or how about "What do I get for my $250 an hour?" Hardly the sort of inquiry that makes one leap to reply. Think about it. If a contractor or a therapist or anyone else in business received an email like that, s/he would hardly be eager to produce a quote or take that person on as a client. It's no different for sex workers, especially as the risks are higher. No, I don't blow off clients because their emails are misspelled. But if I think someone is just mass-emailing the same message to every Domme on the net, or seems completely insincere, it gives me pause.

I have actually received emails from people who say they want to spend a whole weekend in my dungeon but who can't write more than eight words when they initially contact me (I usually assume they just want to consume my time without actually desiring to play). Dommes get a lot of email from people who aren't serious, so it's important to take some time when contacting a Lady who doesn't know you yet, so she knows you aren't just looking for wank material to be delivered by her to your email inbox. It's true that pro-domination is a business, but unless one wants one's sessions to feel like the Lady is working (not very sexy!), it's probably best to treat initial contact the way you would if you were inviting someone out for the first time. Not seductive (kinda creepy), but polite and forthcoming with some information about your experience, interests, and why you chose that Lady in particular.

If you do those things and she doesn't respond, well, then I guess it's fair to assume that she's bad about replying to email (if I get a terrific email from someone I don't want to play with, I always reply, even if it's to say, "No, thanks."). I'm optimistic, however, that you'll have better luck if you're a bit persistent.

Best of luck.

Miss Grey

Some Dommes are very rigid about the opening e-mail. They expect you to read their ads or websites, gather all the necessary information from that and then send the appropriate inquiry. Some Dommes are very specific what your initial e-mail should contain. If you don't pay attention to the details, they may decline even to answer your e-mail.

You could try again. Before you do, though, make sure that you have thoroughly red the Domme's ad(s) and/or her web page and follow the guidelines or requirements set forth there. If you don't follow the reuqirements and aren't respectful, don't expect a reply.

Then it's time to move on.

In fact I just took my ad down because I need a little bit of a break...

So there are probably plenty of people who think I'm a flake but I'm really just an incredibly busy person with vanilla priorities.

If she doesn't email back don't take it personally. Just try someone else and maybe try again in the future.

Dakine12- The reviews? You should go by what SHE states her offerings are, not bunch of random guys. Don't assume just because it's mentioned in a review that it is something to ask for, or expect. much less ASK about in an email! xo bd

As for the above providers' reply about ignoring emails where the question of a "a happy ending" was implied by the prospective customer, certainly it is your prerogative to not offer any sexual play during your sessions, but from my perspective as a horny customer who likes a little sensuality with my bdsm, most men are the same as me: we want our moneys worth, and with so many ROBs out there these days, we need some sort of assurance before hand that a release is included in our session, hence an email query.

The issue about asking for specifics sounds like a catch-22. Providers like me, who _don't_ offer hand releases (you're welcome to do so yourself, and I might even masturbate myself {or let you touch my breasts, or do anal play on you, or use my strap-on} while I watch you, but I don't do handjobs) are perfectly comfortable getting polite questions about them in emails. I just explain, nope, sorry. Providers who _do_ offer hand releases (or more) sound as though they tend to be really coy about talking about them.
Maybe this has something to Catherine's comment in an earlier post on this thread about girls getting arrested and leaving the business...

Mistress Tatiana Belodyne
of FantasyMakers

PS You say "most men are the same as me: we want our moneys worth", and I completely agree with you there. Most human beings want and deserve our money's worth in anything we pay for! However, in the fifteen years I've worked as a pro Domme, it hasn't been my experience that "most men" consider getting a hand release THE deciding factor for whether or not they've gotten their money's worth. (Is a bad session with a woman who doesn't like her work, her clients, or herself, doesn't have the equipment she claimed, doesn't resemble her photos, or is boringly or dangerously incompetent REALLY going to be salvaged by a handjob?) Maybe my sample set is a little skewed because I'm really clear and honest upfront about what I do and don't offer...