That's a good question. Becoming less of a sub and slightly more dominant, in a firm yet sensual and sweet way. I want to be "in the moment", rather than trying to create a fantasy in my head. I really enjoy talking and sharing thoughts in sessions. I might just be less kinky than in the past.And I'm becoming more attracted to the average looking woman, the one who in everyday life you would not think of as engaging in kinky activities, though I now realize that most people have these tendencies, at least a little.
It matters less to me what a woman wears in session, and more about the passion and focus that she brings to our time together.
And it seems lately, that these thoughts are always with me, but in a good way. In the past, they seemed to surge and then go dormant. At present, they have led me to a completely conscious way of living. I find myself having happier interactions with everyone, flirting more, making more connections, becoming more physically fit and finding a new energy from within. In general, I am enjoying my life much more.