Leia F.

I am the Mistress of my Soul

Not surprising to me in the least. A number of the dommes I have known are what one might call "perpetual students". They have a love of learning and will take many different classes to feed that hunger.

Rikenn

Mistress Kajun

"The true sign of intelligence is not knowledge but imagination." A.E

I've had clients who ranged from (I am not kidding) a stockboy at Target, to a judge. The stockboy was nicer. Not as smart, not as potentially interesting and certainly not well educated, but much more pleasant to spend time with because he was so very polite and nice. The judge was arrogant, demanding and I gave up seeing him because he seemed to have the idea that he was entitled to grope me just because he was paying me. I've always been upfront that this was NOT okay with me.

I think, just because it is an expensive hobby, the caliber of our clients self selects as more likely to be well educated, intelligent, and potentially well traveled. Certainly, I can think of only a very few clients who held really menial jobs; eg. the stockboy. Those with menial jobs can't afford to see prodommes with the frequency of those who have better paying jobs. Of course, there are a number of men who will save up or make sacrifices to indulge a fetish. But it's certainly easier for someone who makes $100,000+ a year to afford us than for someone who makes $30,000 a year. And it's more likely that higher paying jobs require better education.

Lilith

"...and you know that she's half crazy..."

I think you need to qualify that overly broad assertion, and state it as a generalization, not a fact that is true in all instances.

I think it is accurate to say that *quality* prodommes are usually (or often, or tend to be) highly intelligent, creative women who keep learning more; or perhaps that *many* prodommes are.....etc. I would certainly agree with that.

However, some prodommes are dumber than dirt. I've seen a few like that, only a few, fortunately, when my screening procedures somehow broke down and failed, or I foolishly ignored a red flag. But there was never a second session. (And I'm talking about prodommes. If we broaden it to include *all* dommes, pro and lifestyle alike, then a bit of browsing the profiles at collarme.com will disabuse anyone of the notion that *all* dommes are highly intelligent.)

I would also note that those few prodommes who have done (or started to do, before I stopped them) the most stupid, health-threatening (and potentially life-threatening) things to me were both intelligent and experienced.

Of course nothing is absolute, but I think you can almost bank on these qualities being present in a Mistress who you have seen around for a long time, that is long established & well respected.

You definitely will find the exact opposite searching the craiglist ads where ghetto level escorts are also "open to domination." And I'm honest & unapologetic, I find interactions with them to often be fun & worthwhile as well, even when subjecting myself to something definitely too dangerous & not well thought out for my own good. Danger is exciting. But you can really let loose & go to extreme places with confidence with a more experienced & reputable Mistress, and yes, you will end up finding Her very intelligent & interesting.

I guess it doesn't surprie me that sub customers are across the board. They are definitely a handfull, that's for sure. We require our sex providers and girlfriends to also be half therapist with considerable ability for melodrama performance, and we wonder why it's hard to keep what we want when we finally find it! But that is our condition, and the good times experienced feeding this addiction tend to overshadow the bad times, in my opinion.

As for dick heads who claim to be subs and then try to grope the Misresses, and cop an attitude because they paid & their the customer...absolute fuck heads, and I will tell them all about it to their face while I wipe the pavement with them. Submit to these kicks to the teeth, you douch bag!

Hot. Very hot response. excuse me while I go wank now.

Catherine
Never mistake my kindness for weakness.

& That was from the hottest Mistress to ever grace this forum!! That turns a lousy Friday right around!!!

Catherine
Never mistake my kindness for weakness.

I don't know. I never felt I was a dickhead, asshole or douchebag as a prodomme customer. I'm always invited back, whether it was the Gates or various other indies. Of course, there's also the sessions where she gives off a no touch vibe and then I don't even dare think about making a grope move. It just depends on the dynamic and I like and appreciate both dynamics.

Not to mention, I am a huge fan of bondage for many reasons but like you suggested - it prevents wandering hands effectively.

Then again, I have to be honest and share that I have had sessions where I look at my partner and ask "what the fuck just happened?" after groping and being groped - what the hell?!?!

I love being a kinky pervert but for me, touching is not ok without consent no matter the reason, and you were not a dickhead. That is why everyone welcomes you with open arms!

Catherine
Never mistake my kindness for weakness.

Perhaps I am a little sadistic, but its hard to find reasons for punishment sometimes when guys just behave perfectly from the beginning. Dont get me wrong, I cannot stand topping from the bottom. But when a guy is SOOOO turned on he cant resist... NOW THATS HOT!

The way I see it, with the leeway I give her for control and discipline, if she can't prevent, take care of or just accept a grope than she's not at a level acceptable to me. Same goes with a little playful resistance on my part, given all the tools I've authorized her. It's plenty for her to run a session, her way. Add to that presession communication, which is important, and there just isn't really reason for anyone freaking out. Just prevent it in the first place (physically or just a general icy demeanor) if it's a big deal or take care of it or incorporate it.

I might resist or test and I do have limits, such as ballkicking. However, it wouldn't prevent her from all restraint she feels necessary, corporal, CBT, faceslapping...there would be a variety of ways to take care of any issue. Truth be told, though, it takes incredibly little to put me in line. It all, though, becomes a part of the interaction as a whole as the session goes off on it's own. Nothing worse to me than a session that follows a straight line, a script. I crave improvisation, all the way around. A little resistance can fuel improvisation. Also, I do my best to communicate beforehand the type of player I am. Sometimes it helps, sometimes not. As I said, I like restraints from the beginning. It eliminates the issue of her wondering if I can be restrained! So, therefore, I just don't see that as anything near topping from the bottom. It's just an improvisational play style I enjoy. There's no bullshit or underlying passive aggressiveness to it. It's very sincere, another key difference.