Is there a protocol that should be followed or is this something that is kind of expected?

Do you get offended if a regular of yours has someone call about them as a reference?

Color me curious....

All I need is the name the client used with me, the phone number he used to make his appointment with me, and the exact date he saw me. So there is no need for any real identifying information.

Give those three data points to the lady you want to see, and tell her to call me.

Different ladies have different methods; this is just mine. Also you should know that not every lady will accept every reference. In other words, your reference has to be credible. If a particular lady thinks my reputation in the community is not good, for example, she may not accept me as a reference.

I do not require references. I do, however, screen every call.

Gretchen

My experience with references is that the ladies of RB are incredibly quick to respond. It's important to get more than one name and Gretchen's comment about the credibility of the provider is valid. I would suggest giving ladies three or four names if you have them and I am always extremely impressed with an introductory email from a gentleman providing detailed information of his references (RB handle, ad link or number, phone number, date/time/location of last session and how she will remember him) to make it easy for me to contact them and easy for them to recall him and verify him to me. I also read reviews and contact ladies in that way.

The problem is that many of our callers are NOT RB hobbyists. They may be from out of the area and their references are unknown to us. Some do not have handles, or are seldom seeking favors so they may not have seen a lady in 3-6 months and that makes it very difficult for them to get and maintain a foothold for reference purposes. My suggestion to them is to book a couple of FBSM sessions to gain the trust and refernces of ladies who will vouch for them or to sign up with P411, DateCheck or some other website that will keep their information private while allowing a lady to confirm that he is not dangerous or the law.

It's always sad to have to decline a date, but without solid references that can be verified before their requested time, I don't think our safety is anything we can gamble with. For the most part, the callers are respectful and understanding of the need to protect ourselves. Other methods of screening used to be sufficient but with the stings, I don't think that email communication or even face to face meetings prior to a session will suffice any longer. These guys are NOT playing by the rules and unless someone calls them on it and fights the charges, we are subject to this abuse of power and lack of adherence to protocols by le.

xoxo
Ray
I can't help it, I LIKE sex!

I am happy to give a reference and do NOT view it as a slight if one of my regulars needs one to see another lady. I agree with Shannon, I read about busts all the time and I would prefer not to be caught up in the LE roundups, plus my percentage of flakes has been considerably reduced since asking for them.

In most cases if someone is considerate enought to READ the full ad,look over reviews then send his reference he is most likely not a time waster or voice yanker.

Sorry I just view my safety is more important than a quick buck.

The Smartest Diamond on RB.

I clear references for gentleman 3-4 times every week and it makes me feel good that other ladies are actually taking time to check into who they are seeing.

I have had a few use me as a reference that I have NEVER seen or even heard of, they do not get a 'green light' from me because I do remember all that I have seen.

Since requiring references nothing bad has happened, before this quite a few scary things did. I feel great about the reference system.

~Have you tried the Alyssa.Rose.Experience?!~

It confirmed what I thought. ( that this is a fairly tight knit community, not a cutthroat one. ).

The feedback and insight is very much appreciated, and welcomed!

And just to reiterate, I'm all for whatever you need to do to keep everything safe and sane.

For most women it is the only contact they have with the one another.
Perhaps it could be the first step for them to meet and share note and network.

I hope ladies who do not use reference are also treated with respect because they have their own reasons and they do screen clients regardless.

I give references gladly!!
xoxox