Shop at your price point and select who you want, then pay the asking price. Don't bargain. Even if she seems to accept it, don't. She may go along, but you will always get a lower level of attitude and service.

Let her have the lead time she asks for. She is preparing herself and her space to look good and have everything ready for you. Don't ask her to rush that.

Basic etiquette carries over well from normal life into hobby life. Bathe or shower, brush your teeth, be well groomed and dressed, smell good, put on your happy face, be charming, be sweet, flirt, make the provider feel good.

Show up on time.

Use some sensitivity about the way you touch her. Give her a moment to check in with her boundaries before you use your hands. No sudden grabbing and pulling.

Preserve the fantasy by letting her keep her personal life to herself. Don't dig into her by asking things like "Why are you doing this?" "What's your real name?" "How much money do you make?" "Did you have a bad childhood?"

After the session starts, see if you can articulate what you want in a respectful, fun, exciting way. This is the part where you tell her how you like it. Language is good for this.

Let her keep her self-protections in place. Don't ask her to abandon her own safety for a little extra cash.

Express appreciation if she's doing a good job. Language is good for this too.

Don't fall in love. If you do, chill out for awhile and see someone different. Don't think that you can control what the worker does with her free time. A jealous client is soon a former client.

See, it's really not about being a big spender with hunky good looks. The men who are out there having great times are the men who are doing these things. There. The secret is out.

In fact, I'd go so far as to say, you can BE a big spender with hunky good looks, and if you are NOT doing these things, you are not getting the most out of your hobby dollars. You are wasting your money on mediocre sessions with shut-down resentful providers who won't tell you why. And shopping around won't help, because you'll run into the same thing everywhere you go.

Did I think of everything? Is there anything you'd like to add?
Take away? Am I wrong, girls?

Gretchen

It obviously isn't. Some guys may be new here and this is good info.

>Service is always better if the server likes you. She
>doesn't want to lose you as a client, so she may be
>reluctant to tell you what you're doing wrong. I, however,
>have no such compunction. So here you go.
>
> Shop at your price point and select who you want, then
>pay the asking price. Don't bargain. Even if she seems to
>accept it, don't. She may go along, but you will always get
>a lower level of attitude and service.

Not all ads specify the rates or correct rates. Nor location or at lease close.
I always have a set budget and will stau with that, no neg from me, but impossible to find out unless call.
Location as well, I have a specific location and has to be close, most ads states cities that all the way from North to south bay.

>
> Let her have the lead time she asks for. She is
>preparing herself and her space to look good and have
>everything ready for you. Don't ask her to rush that.

Of course.

>
> Basic etiquette carries over well from normal life into
>hobby life. Bathe or shower, brush your teeth, be well
>groomed and dressed, smell good, put on your happy face, be
>charming, be sweet, flirt, make the provider feel good.

Always.

>
> Show up on time.
>
> Use some sensitivity about the way you touch her. Give
>her a moment to check in with her boundaries before you use
>your hands. No sudden grabbing and pulling.
>
> Preserve the fantasy by letting her keep her personal
>life to herself. Don't dig into her by asking things like
>"Why are you doing this?" "What's your real name?" "How much
>money do you make?" "Did you have a bad childhood?"
>
> After the session starts, see if you can articulate
>what you want in a respectful, fun, exciting way. This is
>the part where you tell her how you like it. Language is
>good for this.
>
> Let her keep her self-protections in place. Don't ask
>her to abandon her own safety for a little extra cash.
>
> Express appreciation if she's doing a good job.
>Language is good for this too.
>
> Don't fall in love. If you do, chill out for awhile and
>see someone different. Don't think that you can control what
>the worker does with her free time. A jealous client is soon
>a former client.
Can't help this there.... Guilty every time...
>
>See, it's really not about being a big spender with hunky
>good looks. The men who are out there having great times are
>the men who are doing these things. There. The secret is
>out.
>
>In fact, I'd go so far as to say, you can BE a big spender
>with hunky good looks, and if you are NOT doing these
>things, you are not getting the most out of your hobby
>dollars. You are wasting your money on mediocre sessions
>with shut-down resentful providers who won't tell you why.
>And shopping around won't help, because you'll run into the
>same thing everywhere you go.
>
>Did I think of everything? Is there anything you'd like to
>add?
>Take away? Am I wrong, girls?
>
> Gretchen

Always Seeking.

Get dressed and say goodbye when your alloted time is over.

You might not think that a lady will remember this, but she will.

Gretchen

Providers need to realize that clients are trying to make decisions based on the copy contained in the provider's ad and the limited conversation when setting the appointment. We understand the necessity for being cautious and carefully selecting our words. So the providers should not be offended if a boundary is crossed when it was not clearly defined.

Providers who are disingenuous in their marketing efforts (fake, stolen, old or significantly retouched photos and stating services are included when they are not) should be understanding if a client's attitude changes during a session when he/she was lead to believe specific amenities they were expecting are being denied for no other reason than it was actually a form of bait and switch.

Nor should a provider who has employed such unscrupulous tactics be offended if the client decides to renegotiate. If I spend the money on a benz there's no way I am going to accept a Honda.

You say clients should "... shop at their price point ... and then pay the asking price." I agree and think it is even more important that providers remember what they write in their ad in regards to price and service. I don't know how many times I have contacted a provider and set an appointment based on price and service only to hear the provider say something like, "Oh, that was an old ad ..." or "... that special only applies to ...". That is crap! If you post it ... honor it or remove it.

Providers should put the cell phone away and turn it off, or to silent mode, after they have arrived and checked with their safety person. The client is paying a premium price for the provider's time. Answering calls and or sending text messages is wasting the client's time. Plus it is just friggin' rude.

Speaking of time ... if the client compensates the provider for an hour it is not okay to just get up and leave after 30 minutes. That is unless the client agrees. Maybe the client's SO will be arriving soon and they want to introduce you.

Providers should respect the client's privacy (boundaries) just like they want the client to respect theirs. Don't rifle through the medicine cabinet if you use the lavatory. The contents are none of your business. If the provider decides to look around they should not be offended if the client looks through their purse. (I can't believe I said that ... yuk! But hopefully you get my point.)

Please understand that I am not saying this with hostility or with malice. It is just that I think there's more than one way to look at this hobby and perspective is important. I say this because I follow the guidelines you put up and even go several steps further to try and insure the time spent together is comfortable and fun. But I have experienced everything I have mentioned and worse.

Hopefully clients will heed your words and providers will consider mine. I'm not foolish enough to think they will make a difference. But maybe they will be considered.

3rail

Xena Zen

So on the mark and well said.

Thanks!

Another point is, don’t take it personally if you just don’t click. Sometimes the chemistry isn’t there and you never get comfortable with each other.

Don’t walk through the door with your shoulders up and your chest out like you’re a member of the WWF. You’re a stranger to her, and if you’re trying to look intimidating it just might work in ways you never bargained for. Try to enter the room relaxed, smiling, and make eye contact. A hug and kiss (if she’s receptive) are good way to test the waters, it helps to break the ice. Take some time to chat, at times a little giggling can set a nice tone for the rest of the session.