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tamie_tamie tamie_tamie rating
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"why do so many guy have the need bring up family ..?"
 
   Johns hand book 101..
Why do so many guy that want to meet for a play date have to let you know that they have a family at home.

I would think that is the last thing you would want a working gal to know, so be smart and keep it to your self, it can lead to a lot of problems for you.....as in black mail,

and I would think most gales would not want to know
I don't, an don't need to know ,,..
Hi I have a wife and three kids and need get home soon.
try... this>>> when can we meet , 6pm can we meet at 4pm I will have time then.

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slowpoke94133
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1. "RE: why do so many guy have the need bring up family ..?"
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   Maybe a sign of guilt?

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Autumnbreeze Autumnbreeze rating
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2. "RE: why do so many guy have the need bring up family ..?"
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Shrug,

I can see what you're saying, with it maybe being ill-advised to bring it up. But personally it doesn't bother me. I've actually had guys talk about their relationships with me, it's part of their lives, and stuff comes up. When I was dating, I would occasionally mention talk about mine, though only with my long-standing regulars, with whom I had something of a relationship built.

I like being real with the people I meet, being comfortable and at ease. It doesn't always happen, but it's nice. I like them to be able to feel the same. Most of the hobby is fantasy, but not all. There's real intimacy there too, and some real vulnerability. And the pleasure of being able to say just anything, because in the end, we're just strangers and there's a freedom with a stranger.

Dunno if that made any sense, but...

Love as thou will.

Gwenyth

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3. "RE: why do so many guy have the need bring up family ..?"
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Perhaps it is their way of trying to make you feel more at ease. They're not some loner stalking psycho, just an average person with a real life. Just a guess.


Work hard, play hard...

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tickettoride1958 tickettoride1958 rating
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4. "RE: why do so many guy have the need bring up family ..?"
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exactly, letting them know that we are ordinary guys,
just looking for a good time with a good provider.

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sexytgirlforyou
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5. "RE: why do so many guy have the need bring up family ..?"
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   I think they do it so we view them more as a "family man" that we can trust.

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steve_tslvr
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6. "RE: why do so many guy have the need bring up family ..?"
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   I agree with opinions expressed by the wonderful ladies on this topic. I believe that most of us that enjoy this activity have a certain need to be taken care of that we cannot get done by a GG. That's probably why most of these posters generally treat the gurls in a relatively positive manner. The ones that we establish a relationship really fulfill a deep seated need for us... Just my own opinion

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02Z28
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7. "RE: why do so many guy have the need bring up family ..?"
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   Some of the most notorious serial killers were married with children. I would like to speak on behalf of single people. When I meet a girl, they almost always ask if I'm married with children. When I say I've never been married, they either think I'm lying, or I must be weird. At least when I'm with one of you girls, I have a clear conscience because I'm not cheating on anyone. No one will be hurt. I'm not trying to bash anyone, but I think it's time someone spoke for the single person, talk about stereotype!!! I've had to listen to that shit all my life!!! BTW I consider the old sitcom: Married With Children one of the best shows ever!!!LOL.

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8. "RE: why do so many guy have the need bring up family ..?"
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>BTW I consider the old
>sitcom: Married With Children one of the best shows
>ever!!!LOL.

The ideal dysfunctional family...LOL! Christina Applegate as daughter Kelly was HOT! Ed O'Neill as as the bumbling and clueless Al Bundy was perfect. And he had a job that most leg and foot men would die for if not for the low salary...a women's shoe salesman! High heels fetish, anyone? And how about the peeks up the skirts?

Deanna

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9. "RE: why do so many guy have the need bring up family ..?"
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   It's probably part of the guy's vernacular Tamie (one's daily speech and choice of vocabulary).

He (or she) considers you someone he can confide in (to a point) hence he says he has to go because his family (or kids or w/e) is waiting for him.

Unless you are actively sponging information Tamie, I doubt knowing how many children or that a client is married will compromise him -- unless you're going through their phones and PDAs.

Take it easy, and don't reveal too much yourself as well. I have a feeling you yourself aren't an open book.

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tamie_tamie tamie_tamie rating
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10. "RE: why do so many guy have the need bring up family ..?"
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   It's probably part of the guy's vernacular Tamie (one's daily speech and choice of vocabulary).

so your saying he, picks up a cup of coffee , and tells the help
got to get back home, to take care of my family ..LOL

no it not that ....

it that most men need to feel that they have , something to do ..

I am saying sharing that with a escort is not smart..Fortune Cookies said not to give out personal information to Stranger..!


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11. "RE: why do so many guy have the need bring up family ..?"
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Well..

I don't know. I feel that most folks feel a bit more intimacy with a provider than they do with the help at a coffee shop. More time is spent together and it's way more personal. I actually really enjoy chatting with clients, and they seem to get a lot from it too. With my regulars, it's always something more than just a professional relationship. And a lot of guys are looking for that bit of personal connection.

Seems like all you are doing with this thread is throwing out a big reminder to all your clients:"Hey, remember, I'm not your friend, I'm just your escort". Might not be intended that way, but that's how it seems to come across from my perspective.

Love as thou will.

Gwenyth

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tamie_tamie tamie_tamie rating
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12. "RE: why do so many guy have the need bring up family ..?"
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   you got it baby my friend come with time we share and it not over a sex date next time you think a john is a friend ask hem to ask you over to dinner with his family and if he dos you got a good friend

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KathyRose
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13. "RE: why do so many guy have the need bring up family ..?"
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Similarly, a drunk coming out of the alley at daylight yells to the onslaught of workers how great a family he has to go back to.
Great original question, tamie.

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14. "RE: why do so many guy have the need bring up family ..?"
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LAST EDITED ON 27-Aug-10 AT 07:10 PM (PST) by (moderator)
 
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siebon siebon rating
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15. "RE: why do so many guy have the need bring up family ..?"
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I never offer marital status or kids but I am often asked if I am married...then if I have kids...I never take my ring off....but still they ask....

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16. "RE: why do so many guy have the need bring up family ..?"
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Same for me Siebon.

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02Z28
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17. "RE: why do so many guy have the need bring up family ..?"
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   That's what I'm talking about. Unless they ask, I don't tell. When they ask if I'm married, and I tell them no, which is the truth. Next question: Divorced? I say no. Next question, Have you ever been married? Answer: No. Next question, any kids? Answer: No. Now they look at me in a different way, I can see it. This sounds weird but, I was actually discriminated against by the San Mateo County first time home owners program. I was on a waiting list for a new condo back in 1999. My realtor told me I was number 12 with 8 units left. Not to worry, your credit's better than most. A week later, I got bumped from number 12 to 52. Reason: People that applied after me, were married with children! That's what my realtor told me! So they got put ahead of me! There's all types of discrimination, never thought being single was one of them!

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