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"When you send a thank you to a provider..."
 
   ...do you expect a response?

When I do not get a response, like 'you're welcome', I have to really think about whether she would really like to see me again or not.

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1. "RE: When you send a thank you to a provider..."
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   I usually send a thank you note to those I want to see again. If I don't get a response, I get the hint. If THEy don't get a thank you note, THEY should get the hint.

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f6biker
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2. "RE: When you send a thank you to a provider..."
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   LAST EDITED ON 16-Dec-09 AT 10:33 AM (PST)
 
Before you leave, you should thank her, by dropping a tip. Usually the hug at the end of the session tells you whether you're welcome or not. I used to drop the tip ahead of the session, but I found it was better after as many of the girls only look at the donation after.

Each provider, has their own communication style. Some respond to emails, some texts, some calls, RB Inbox, private email, chat rooms...lots to manage.

They tend to respond to new money, not money they already have serviced. It also varies by age...the older crowd understand that thankyous set up repeats. The younger crowd tend to live in the now and have to learn some of these lil marketing tricks.

Love the one you're with

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3. "RE: When you send a thank you to a provider..."
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Many providers are flaky when it comes to responding to anything that isn't a request for a session. Unless your hygiene was bad or you're gross in some way, most providers will be very happy to see you and your $$ again.

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4. "RE: When you send a thank you to a provider..."
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   I agree Neal, but without the response I feel less welcome and would pick another provider before going back to the non-responsive one.

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5. "RE: When you send a thank you to a provider..."
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Bently, they not your girlfriend, they just want your $$$$. Even with note, email,etc they just being kind to get more money from you. They all like and miss us when wallet full of $$$$. When finished, leave it at the door.

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7. "RE: When you send a thank you to a provider..."
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   Huh?
I know this is about money, but I would much rather spend my money where they welcome me more.

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21. "RE: When you send a thank you to a provider..."
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   you are allowing yourself to be vulnerable when this game requires none of that. WTFO

none of these girls care about "you" and surely think less of you for being a john. it's ironic, but just the way it is. i suggest you take a break from the hobby and come back only when you realize that this is about seeing professional girls.

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6. "RE: When you send a thank you to a provider..."
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   LAST EDITED ON 16-Dec-09 AT 02:58 PM (PST)
 
If she was a lot of fun I'll send a note afterwards once in a while.

It isn't just a "It was nice seeing you type of email" (I don't waste time on chatter and keep it business related primarily), but always is something indicating that it is OK to contact me in the future by email or phone when she is going to be in the area again or, if she doesn't work often, to let me know when she plans to be available again.

Seems to work out reasonably well for girls that travel and visit the Bay Area and gives the gal a chance to test the waters and see if a return to the area is going to be worthwhile. Gets you on the list and priority at times.

In terms of replies... probably 1 in 4 remember to contact again or when back in the area over the years.

Much more likely that I will get a "thank you" type of note before I send something out which is just good customer service.

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8. "RE: When you send a thank you to a provider..."
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   Generally do not send text msg thank yous. I prefer calling and do so before I leave the vicinity (parking lot). Or if she came to c me I'd call within 5-10 mins to express my appreciation.

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9. "RE: When you send a thank you to a provider..."
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LAST EDITED ON 16-Dec-09 AT 05:09 PM (PST)
 
I always say "please and thankyou", simple manners for me even if I don't plan on seeing someone again. Doesn't matter to me if there is no response, limited english whatever.

Thankyous can come in many ways, a soft warm kiss goodbye, firm yet gentle squeeze of a hand, a hug, a smile, eye contact, I don't expect a response but it's nice when it happens.

There have been a few indy regulars I call back and let them know I've had a wonderful time, I will see them again.

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10. "RE: When you send a thank you to a provider..."
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   I've learned not to have any expectations. If they send a thank you, great. If not, there are so many variables in play. I've found that if you've had a wonderful connection, the ladies tend to communicate more with you. Plus, you know you've found a gold mine when a thank you is waiting for you when you get home.

The thing that communication does for me, is that it puts the lady to the forefront of my mind. Sometimes we gentlemen get going down a certain path that we only focus on that path. One lady, whom I hadn't seen in awhile, recently sent an inbox asking if we were ever going to see each other again. Of course I immediately scheduled a session with her. I've always had wonderful sessions with her, but the inbox brought her to mind. Another lady, whom I hadn't seen in over a year, recently inboxed asking how I was doing. I tried twice to see her, but she's mostly outcall now, so that one didn't work out. Another lady was in the process of moving when I saw her. I knew I wasn't going to get a response to my thank you, and that was cool. She actually did respond, when she was settled in.

All of these ladies understand the value of staying in touch. A thank you response doesn't always have to come for me to reschedule, but it does keep a lady in my mind.

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11. "RE: When you send a thank you to a provider..."
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   I used to email a thanks once in awhile but these days I refrain from it. While I usually got reply it was too easy to read something negative into it when I didn't, when I know it has nothing to do with me personally.

I once drove to Sac to see a girl and when I was about halfway home she called me to say thank you and what a wonderful time she had. Now something like THAT will get a lady a return visit almost every time. Smart girl. She also emails from time to time just to say hello knowing full well it's nearly impossible for me to see her more than a couple times a year.

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13. "RE: When you send a thank you to a provider..."
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   All the worlds a stage, and all the men and women mere players...

Just because a girl/lady has found herself currently assigned the role of whore/courtesan/escort, doesnt mean she doesnt hurt, love, have needs etc. Please and thankyou, even to a "skanky bitch" maybe enough to help her turnaround and improve herself. She was more highly evolved before she became a fallen angel and there's hope someone will help her in the future...

We're all pawns in the chess game of the gods....the way you treat other people, does more damage to your own character, than to theirs...they may get pissed off, and retaliate, but something in yourself gets more and more rotten...

Please and thankyou...very simple...its good karma...

Bad karma...makes you attract more bad karma until it fries your self-image of yourself..good karma may be a get-out-of-bad-karma card as it attracts more good.

Go down the street and smile at someone...they'll smile back.
Go down the street and spit at someone...the reaction may be violent.
Simple decision...vastly different reactions.

Karma explained http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Karma_in_Hinduism

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17. "RE: When you send a thank you to a provider..."
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   thoughtful reply.

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12. "RE: When you send a thank you to a provider..."
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   The more you hobby, the more girls you see, the more times you get burned, I've learned that you shouldn't expect anything and be suprised when you get even what you think you should get.

Remember your just a ATM to them.

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14. "RE: When you send a thank you to a provider..."
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   In addition to what others have said, you could also call the PO back and let them know you had a good time and to let the RA know. They will be more likely to remember you next time.

tav

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15. "RE: When you send a thank you to a provider..."
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I expect the provider to send the thank you, not the John. Would you send Macy's a thank you for selling you a nice shirt?

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16. "RE: When you send a thank you to a provider..."
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   If I have an enjoyable session, I will send a 'thank you' e-mail to her. I will tell her what I really liked about the session. On occasion I will also mention something that didn't work for me so it can be corrected in a future session. (Be careful about that - I've sent 90% fawning thank you and briefly mentioned a small complaing, such as the session time included a shower she requested even though I'd just showered, and they have become offended by the criticism.)

At first, I was disappointed that the best response I'd get would be a couple of sentences. But when I thought about it, I realized it doesn't make sense for them to spend much time on a reply. A quick reply is good marketing as no one likes to be ignored. However sending a chatty, friendly e-mail risks the PL client reading far too much into it. It can make him think that he has moved out of the client zone and into the friend zone, and therefore the services will be expanded and the fee will be reduced or waived. Not good for the provider. The 'thank you' e-mail is unsolicited from someone who likes her and is willing to pay for her company. She, on the other hand, is willing to see the client if he's willing to pay a significant hourly fee for the time. Other than the good PR affect from a brief reply, it makes no sense (or dollars) for her to spend her time as a pen pal.

So, in response to your question:
When I do not get a response, like 'you're welcome', I have to really think about whether she would really like to see me again or not.
If you had a good session and she was friendly at the end, especially if she said she hoped to see you again, then yes, it's a safe bet she wants to see you again. She probably gets a lot of unsolicited mail and may choose only to spend her time responding to appointment related e-mails. If you really want to know if she wants to see you again, ask her. She will let you know.

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18. "RE: When you send a thank you to a provider..."
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   wtf? do you send thank yous to the wrenches that service your car and the crew that cleans your carpet? this is the funniest thread i have read on this forum. THANK YOU for lightening up my day! but seriously, grow a pair and accept that it is the green that keeps those whores smiling.

...you can catch the drift but not the drifter

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19. "RE: When you send a thank you to a provider..."
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   Dear Mr. Toad,
As a matter of fact, I DO express my gratitude to as many people as I can who do things with me or for me. I also thank my suppliers in business and those people are also in it for the money. I also pay my bills on time as thanks.
That being said, I appreciate your lack of consciousness and compassion.
If thread brought a lightening of your day, then I am grateful for that as well.

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20. "RE: When you send a thank you to a provider..."
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   Miss Manners says that it is not necessary to respond to thank you notes.

I could not find an original entry, but she mentions it here:
http://lifestyle.msn.com/relationships/article.aspx?cp-documentid=16110696

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22. "RE: When you send a thank you to a provider..."
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   If I had a good time with a provider,I thank her before I leave.No need for follow up inboxes,emails or phone calls.Unless something went terribly wrong in the session,I'm sure the provider would be happy to see you again for a fee.She just might not want to spend her free time communicating with you.

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23. "RE: When you send a thank you to a provider..."
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   Generally send a quick "thanks for a great time" txt when I have met a provider I plan to see again. I've always got a response so far but don't think I would be offended if I received no response.

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24. "RE: When you send a thank you to a provider..."
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   I usually send a response if I had a good time and want to see them again to help them remember me. Most of the time they respond. If they don't, no big deal.

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25. "RE: When you send a thank you to a provider..."
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My way of "thank you" is to rebook another session with her directly after just finished the awesome session instead of with her PO. The next session should be a better session or I will stop seeing her again. After all, our donation is what they are looking forward too so it is better to dangle another carrot in advance esp. she is still fresh from the session and she also enjoys your company. Make sure she has your future appointment all written down and also she has your hobby phone no. to call if she needs to re-schedule. This is what it is. Cheers

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