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duccman2001
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"what to look out for? invite provider to your house/apt?"
 
   Probably a newbie question but looking for input from others.
Besides looking at reviews, what are the gotchas before considering an "in-house" visit by a provider?

I did try a search and could not find much of anything.

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1. "RE: what to look out for? invite provider to your house/apt?"
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   >Besides looking at reviews, what are the gotchas before considering an "in-house" visit by a provider?

You mean beside the obvious?

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duccman2001
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2. "RE: what to look out for? invite provider to your house/apt?"
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   like ROB, bad reviews, have a pimp, ect...? I am more referring to independents that do not have of the above. I am posting here in hopes to obtain any other things to consider. thanks

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3. "RE: what to look out for? invite provider to your house/apt?"
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   Keep all jewlery out of site, and do not let them out of your site.

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4. "RE: what to look out for? invite provider to your house/apt?"
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   Just DON'T do it. You are playing Russian Roulette.

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5. "RE: what to look out for? invite provider to your house/apt?"
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Agreed you live there. Not a wise move. They have the intel on you you have nothing on them.

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21-Jan-10, 06:33 PM (PST)
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7. "RE: what to look out for? invite provider to your house/apt?"
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   I disagree that outcalls are inherently more risky than meeting up in some unkown sleezy incall hotel where who knows who is lurking next door or in the closet (L.E. or thug), having to park your car a few blocks away and walk through a sketchy neighborhood. Plus you can have a few (too many) drinks at home without worrying about DUIs or needing to maintain alertness in an unknown environment. And if you're going to get busted by L.E. it's going to be at an incall, as previously discussed they aren't going to deal with the difficulties and variables involved in an outcall sting when they can just set up in a hotel and let you come to them.

One issue is that there is no getting around having someone waiting in a car nearby a large % of the time, so if you are in a residential neighborhood with nosy neighbors this might be a show stopper.

What you look for is what you always look for - lack of ghetto in the girl you are inviting over. You try to gauge this by the photos and ad copy. I also try to limit my purchases to a fewer number of repeat-providers who I trust a bit more after the first more-nervous intro visit. If you want a different girl every time then the risk increases, regardless of the venue. Once you've had a provider over a couple of times with no problem the risk decreases by 99% (although you can never completely let your guard down).

I've done outcalls for a couple of years now, and there have been a couple of girls that I've been glad to see leave, but overall they just want to get in and out with $$ in hand with as little drama as possible and hopefully a new regular client assuming you are decent to them. If a girl is a disappointment and does something you don't like, you just hurry the visit along and get her out ASAP without getting into an argument, and write it off to an additional expense of the sport.

Am I the only one who looks at it this way?

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10. "RE: what to look out for? invite provider to your house/apt?"
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   Most sensible!

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11. "RE: what to look out for? invite provider to your house/apt?"
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   I read a quote on here: "I'm not paying her for sex, I'm paying her to leave." I know that was in reference to the drama of a mistress or girlfriend that's avoided with a provider relationship, but the point is that if you abide by that saying and have her as a lady on the side, then you are bringing her into your mainstream life by bringing her into your home.

Split the difference between home and away by booking a room yourself and arrange for her to visit you there. You'll know the environment is safe and won't have to worry about the risks of inviting a stranger to your house.

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6. "RE: what to look out for? invite provider to your house/apt?"
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Enormous, super firm breasts. Did I post that out loud?

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8. "RE: what to look out for? invite provider to your house/apt?"
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I personally wouldn't even start considering having a provider over to my place until I'd seen her a few times at her incall. The only places I've done outcalls before were at my hotel room while traveling.

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9. "RE: what to look out for? invite provider to your house/apt?"
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   It can either be perfectly fine or a nightmare,depending on the provider.And how you handle your end.

If it's someone you haven't met before,make sure you talk to them first,that way you can get a sense of what they are like.If she sounds drunk,drugged out,thugged out or desperate,you should pass.
Ask her to dress discreetly,you don't want her to show up in a micro mini dress and thigh high boots,an outrageously dressed hooker will draw too much attention to herself and to where she's going and coming from.

Never give out your home address!
You should meet a provider at least a block away from where you live.
That way,if she isn't dressed appropriately,has a "driver" or there's some other red flag comes up,they don't know where you live.

Always walk her into and out of your building.
Make sure of this.You don't want her wandering the halls of your apartment,or hanging out on your front step making phone calls.Call her a cab or walk her back towards her car.

Take her directly to your bedroom.Skip the grand tour of your home.Don't show off your valuables.Hide your weapons (even kitchen knives) if you have them.Same thing goes for drugs and booze.

Let us know how it turns out!

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15. "RE: what to look out for? invite provider to your house/apt?"
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Heh, heh. You said how you handle your end.

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12. "RE: what to look out for? invite provider to your house/apt?"
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   >Probably a newbie question but looking for input from
>others.
>Besides looking at reviews, what are the gotchas before
>considering an "in-house" visit by a provider?
>
>I did try a search and could not find much of anything.
>
>TIA

Look like I am in the minority. I think having people over to my place the safe route. I live in a secure and safe place so I am not worried about someone casing my joint and coming back later to rob it.

A lot of good advice is on here already about not using ghetto chicks at all. I just don't even bother with black chicks. I like them. But I can't trust them at all.

The key with the first meet is to just do it person somewhere else close by. Not your place. If I think they are cool and the don't give me a weird vibe, then I take them back to your place. At this point the girl has to really trust you. So you better not come off as nervous or weird. This way there is zero risk of LE. My two cents.

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13. "RE: what to look out for? invite provider to your house/apt?"
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   One other thing I forgot to mention is for outcalls I don't give them my apartment number, I ask them to call me from the front of the building. And I don't buzz them in, I walk down to the front (locked) door to meet them. Then I take them up the side door and stairs, to maybe disorient them on even how to find my apartment. So they hopefully don't know my apartment number (unless they paid attention walking in), I can scope them out before even letting them in the building, they don't have my home phone #, and they don't know my name. Certainly not fool-proof, but just another layer of security until I better know them.

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14. "RE: what to look out for? invite provider to your house/apt?"
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   Sorry about the multiple postings, but just want to clarify that in my earlier post I didn't mean to imply by using the term "ghetto" that I'm advising against black women. Every single one of my outcalls except one have been black, I've met plenty of nice sweet black girls on RB & CL, my ATF is black. In fact the idea of finding myself hosting a white-trash white chick makes me the most nervous,not sure why. (Hope I'm not being too non-PC talking like this, I'm white). It's not so much about race as it is research and screening.

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16. "RE: what to look out for? invite provider to your house/apt?"
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When incall at a motel I always check the restroom behind the curtins in bathtub. If there is closet I'll put my jacket in there. Usually I get there early so that I can check the area and parking lot out. Then I check inside the surroundings of room.

Preferably a car date is safer to me where you get to pick the location a dark parking lot or hidden dark quiet area you have planned but this would just be for BBBJCIMSW as it's uncomfortable and awkward to do it in the car
Also meeting at a designated location of your choosing that's neutral or for example at a hot tub place (granted it will cost you more for the room)so then she doesn't know where you live and less likely any problems from LE.

I have had a provider at residence (less likely LE will be there)before and everything turned out just fine as she was a nice person. Of course someone drove her there and waited outside. You do take your chances.

The other area is the AAMP (more discret) but I LE could be sitting up shop surveillance nearby.

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17. "RE: what to look out for? invite provider to your house/apt?"
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   Thank you to all for the advice, warnings and suggestions. I will let you know what I decide but for now I am leaning towards what toskan suggested...at least for the first meet until I get a better feel of the provider.

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18. "RE: what to look out for? invite provider to your house/apt?"
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   With all these risks and precautions mentioned, you still think it is a good idea? The walk away, get to know a well known provider first, then maybe you will get that GFE.

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19. "RE: what to look out for? invite provider to your house/apt?"
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   On rare occasions only have I invited my ATFs for an overnight at my residence.

With that said and understood, it is only my ATF ladies( those that I have known and consistently met with for a few years), that I trust. They get to know me a bit more, but not a lot more.

A couple of them have inadvertently met my housekeeper the morning after , quite funny actually.

Otherwise, I have kept my meetings to their incall location or elsewhere. So far, so well.

Good luck and enjoy,
Lance

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20. "Very few precautions needed."
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Can't speak for others, and some of the paranoia out there notwithstanding, I have been having various ladies come by my residence for years now. Never had a problem at all. None.

Probably worth noting that all the ladies have been reputable escorts with good reviews and who run quality businesses. Picking well-known independents may be part of my good luck. But ultimately, I have never had a problem at all and I have never had to take any special precautions.

If you found an escort you like and she has a good reputation (e.g. well reviewed), then I'd recommend you just have her over, have fun, and quit worrying about it. Just my 2 cents ......

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21. "RE: what to look out for? invite provider to your house/apt?"
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   If you are married, she may leave her mark. its a subconscious thing I hear.

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22. "RE: what to look out for? invite provider to your house/apt?"
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>If you are married, she may leave her mark. its a
>subconscious thing I hear.

Point well made. Women tend to even if unconsciously leave some tell tale sign behind. And women have an uncanny knack at detecting that another woman has invaded her territory.

BTW, I’m single and have been doing outcalls for years without a problem. If you feel compelled to meet her and surreptitiously bring her back to your home, you may want to reconsider doing outcalls. I always have them park in the driveway, like any guest to my home.

Now if your very paranoid you might want to consider that if she has your address and you own your home she might be able to obtain your real name through various identity search engines. Again not a concern of mine.

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Too much sex is still not enough

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23. "RE: what to look out for? invite provider to your house/apt?"
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>>If you are married, she may leave her mark. its a
>>subconscious thing I hear.

>
>Point well made. Women tend to even if unconsciously leave
>some tell tale sign behind. And women have an uncanny knack
>at detecting that another woman has invaded her territory.
>
>BTW, I’m single and have been doing outcalls for years
>without a problem. If you feel compelled to meet her and
>surreptitiously bring her back to your home, you may want to
>reconsider doing outcalls. I always have them park in the
>driveway, like any guest to my home.
>
>Now if your very paranoid you might want to consider that if
>she has your address and you own your home she might be able
>to obtain your real name through various identity search
>engines. Again not a concern of mine.
>
>...........................................
>Too much sex is still not enough

Leave their mark? You got that right like perfume or her scent.

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24. "Sound Advise for Incall Appointments"
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If you do decide to have a provider you don't know come to your house for an incall then allow me to offer some advice. Let's say you have to go to the bathroom or have some other reason to leave her out of your sight. Tell her that for that duration she has to clap her hands together continuously until you return. That way, as long as you hear the clapping, you can rest easy knowing she isn't ripping off your wife's jewelry.

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25. "RE: what to look out for? invite provider to your house/apt?"
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   I prefer outcalls, have them very often, and have yet to experience any problem. I'm also single.

If married or if you have a S/O, don't do it for some of the reasons mentioned earlier.

If you stay with well reviewed girls who have been around for some time, and preferable over 30, they tend to be much more Professional.

I find it much much more relaxing in the early evening and can't beat the convenience.

In the "old" days, so to speak, all girls were doing Outcalls compared to when the Internet Hooker with a cell phone came along and then started cranking them out doing Incalls. Most of the "old school" Escorts I see ONLY do Outcalls.

Clean the house or apt. up, have a few beverages available, and you should have a better time than dealing with a long drive somewhere, parking, and other issues.

Sadly, some people do believe that if you invite a Hooker to your place that you very much need to be on the look out for her stealing items. This shouldn't happen with any of the long term highly reviewed girls.

As an aside, I have numerous people in my home for various repairs, carpet cleaners, that sort of thing.....so why should I automatically believe an Escort is going to be of the mindset to rip me off compared to others that I have in my home? Why the automatic distrust?

Some girls work out of their own home and I doubt they have a tremendous concern that a client is going to steal something of value while at her home.

This has been a good thread with many good tips.
You could also search "outcall" here in the General Forum and receive about 1/2 dozen or so similar threads if you do an archive search.

L4B

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