I feel like I have let my family down and I am hoping that I will be stronger in the future in avoiding this temptation but my situation feels so hopeless that sometimes I just need an outlet and sorry to say being with a provider or watching porn becomes an outlet.

Just wanted to vent a little.

Thanks for your time.

If you do the same thing several more times, then beat yourself up.

If you haven't done it yet, start the path to learning and appreciating the development of your inner self, as opposed to your carnal self and external pleasures. It's a long and slow path, but ultimately will reward you many times over. Done irresponsibly and to excess, pursuit of external carnal pleasures is surely the path to spiritual ruin.

Be the change
you wish to see

It has kept my 25 year marriage together. Without it i would have been divorced long ago out of boredom and sexual frustration.

I have tried the affair route. Hobbying is way better. For $200 you can get a gorgeous RA to do things your wife will never do. Think about it: $200 for a near Playboy quality Asian RA. This indeed is still the Golden Era. Relax and enjoy. Keep it to a session every few months and you will be fine. Establish a limit on the number of sessions, say like 6 a year and try to live within that number. Don't worry about feeling like its an outlet or being a little compulsive. It is a great stress reliever for me. Just don't let it take over or become addictive. One last thing: don't tell anyone....not even your close friends. Just keep it totally quiet and enjoy the blessings of a young woman from time to time.

Nothing to be ashamed of my friend. We all do things that we regret later on. That's part of life. If you really enjoy that activity, you're going to it again. If you don't enjoy it, it will be easy to stop doing it.

As mentioned in a previous message, this activity can actually be healthy for a marriage, if looked at the proper way.

awareness of the human condition. You our under alot of stress and

our probably having feelings of being undeserving of your family.

You have too remember all that was and is good about life and be

kind to yourself. If you feel you have let your family down, then

this hobby is not for you. Forgive yourself and keep looking

for a job. This will be a positive path to take for you and your

family. We have all slipped, one way or another. Don't look back

at your screw ups, learn from them and move forward. Good Luck.

Being here and avoiding temptation, now that's a workable combination.

Somebody help me!

Don't forget to genuflect prior to entering the pew prior to reciting your 16 Our Fathers and 7 Hail Marys.

Upon completion of your punishment prescribed by God's representitive on earth your sin will be automatically cleansed from your soul.

Don't forget to dip your fingers in the holy water and cross yourself upon entering and leaving the sacred house of something or other.

Look Andy,

Congratulations,

You have learned through your actions that you are a normal human being and no different from the guy sitting next to you.

I also assure you that the guy sitting next to you either did the same thing and if not, acted on some other impulse... Trust Me..

Do not look at this as a transgression but rather as a speedbump in the road of life.

If you feel the what you did was a mistake then recognize it as such and learn from it.

Don't tell anyone about this including your priest and FOR GOD'S SAKE don't tell your wife... don't tell anyone..

Remember the old saying...

"Two can keep a secret if one of them is dead"

I don't think you want to put yourself in a position where you will have to rub out your Priest to shut him up because then you'll really have some explaining to do when you meet you maker.

Learn from this and go on with your life.

One more thing ... If you did anything uncovered go to a local clinic and get tested for STD's

You owe that to your wife...

Nohassles