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davidkopkin
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"Sex addiction?"
 
   With Tiger entering a clinic for rehab for sex addiction, when do you know you need to go into rehab? Does everything need to be classified as a disease? ADD wasn't even heard years ago, people think kids just have a short attention span. If I wasn't married and I like seeing chicks and like going to strip clubs, am I addicted to sex or playing the field? Is being horny = sex addict? Are Wilt Chamberlain, Magic and Warren Beatty and John Edwards sex addicts?

http://www.medicinenet.com/sexual_addiction/article.htm

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JackJelly
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1. "RE: Sex addiction?"
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   being a man = being a sex addict. Until you lose your boner.

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3. "RE: Sex addiction?"
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   ...and then there's Viagra, and other ED meds, to take you across the finish line - so, basically, for life.

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2. "RE: Sex addiction?"
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   For me, it is just an activity that I enjoy quite a bit, and therefore, it makes perfect sense for me to do it as much as I can.

I also enjoy other activities that have nothing to do with sex. For example, I love to play soccer. I generally play 3 times a week, and I have been doing it for a long time. Does that make me a soccer addict? if yes, is that a bad thing?

Mongering as an activity can be bad if it causes health problems, financial ruin, or other serious problems. But if practiced with moderation, I don't see any problem with that.

I have a friend who loves to gamble and has been doing it for a fairly long time, but he always has a budget and seems to stick to it. Would that be labeled an addiction? He certainly does not think so and I don't think so either.

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4. "RE: Sex addiction?"
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What's the difference between a sex addict and the rest of the men in the world ? Opportunity and means. With Tigers 'means', it's a wonder why he did what he did with who he did as there are several on RB that would put his 'stable' to shame for sure.

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JackJelly
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6. "You're an addict, me too."
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   "For me, it is just an activity that I enjoy quite a bit, and therefore, it makes perfect sense for me to do it as much as I can."

Clearly you are a sex addict.

"For example, I love to play soccer. I generally play 3 times a week, and I have been doing it for a long time."

Clearly you are a soccer addict.

I am a sex addict, according to others, and I am happy as hell about it. Been able to sample so of the most beautiful and sexy women that god has put on this earth. Thank you geeezusss!

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Rockout click here to view user rating
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7. "RE: You're an addict, me too."
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I grow weary of everything being an addiction. I think that way that everyone gets to say, oh shit, it's not my fault. I'm an addict. Fuck that.

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Shadysquirrel click here to view user rating
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5. "RE: Sex addiction?"
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Sounds like a primo way to hook up with civvies for a little "in out in out"

Again, high five Tiger!


Yeah.. I'm addicted.

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8. "RE: Sex addiction?"
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   I think it isn't an addiction if you just do it because you like it. It would be an addiction if you can't stop. For instance, you get married, you plan to stop, but you find yourself going to amps anyway. Another example, you spend money you don't really have to see escorts and get yourself into financial trouble because of your mongering.

So when you are self-destructive in pursuit of sex, then you are an addict, like me. d'Oh!

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9. "RE: Sex addiction?"
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   This was just what I was going to say only said a lot better than I woulda said it.

"when you are self-destructive in pursuit of sex, then you are an addict"

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16. "RE: Sex addiction?"
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With that definition of sex addiction, Tiger Woods fills the bill. It's not so much the volume of women - obviously many of us have had many more - but how he treated them. He went out with many of them numerous times, made professions of love and future commitments and, in one case, made one of the girls wear a wedding ring because he was jealous and didn't want other guys hitting on her.

Add that to what he was risking - marriage, family life & professional standing (i.e., lucrative endorsements) - and we have a guy who isn't like most of us. We, for the most part, understand that we're paying for a woman's time in exchange for a service. An intimate service but still not a relationship or real feelings.

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10. "Well, fuck"
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   I'm addicted to food, water, and breathing air. I guess I need professional help to get over that.

Jeebus fucking christ.

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11. "RE: Sex addiction?"
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I would have thought, that after 10 posts, _someone_ would have understood what an addiction is, and what one isnt.


Now ignorance is addictive as well you've all enjoyed far too much of it.

Somthing you enjoy, not an addiction.


An addiction is an obsession, compulsion, or excessive psychological 'need'. Including, to the point of an activity that causes personal harm, and harm to others against better judgement. Sometimes chemical (endorphine rush after sex?) or a physical one..psychological? Im unsure..but..I'd say that RB has a highly representative population of sex addicts based on any number of accepted definitions of an addiction.

Fujiwara tofu rocks!

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12. "RE: Sex addiction?"
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   escort4us is correct.

Harm is the key word here. If you can afford it and you harm no others...then I say...peace be with you...enjoy and indulge your
addiction. It's only sex, big deal.

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13. "RE: Sex addiction?"
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   Addiction is the vicious cycle that develops when you are trying to meet a need with a substance or behaviour that doesn't really meet that need, it just masks it for awhile.

So if you're healthy and honest about your own sexuality and your own choices, sex meets real needs in real ways, no problem. But if your real need is something else, look out.

Most of the time, you're the only one who can really make that call. Every once in a while, someone else can see something you don't.

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14. "RE: Sex addiction?"
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   LAST EDITED ON 26-Jan-10 AT 03:29 PM (PST)
 
For me there is just something about providers. I am a good looking guy, there is pussy on tap at my job, but I like hookers. Maybe I just like the annonimitity and being able to leave when I'm done and know that she wont call me.

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15. "RE: Sex addiction?"
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   When I was younger and better looking and didn't ever pay for sex, I was friggin addicted! And now, paying for it is close to a cure-certainly keeps it from becoming too harmful...

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18. "RE: Sex addiction?"
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Seems like the media is confusing promiscuity with sexual addiction. The time spent on sex has not compromised his professional work ethic or diminished his game. If he were single, everyone would be patting him on the back for scoring so much tail while still managing to dominate golf.

Gossip columnists are quit to cite Tiger's current clinic stay as evidence of addiction. However, his visit may be motivated purely by a desire to make things right with his wife and get some of his endorsement deals back. Think who would get more sympathy and support from the media and public -- the guy who says, "I have a problem and I need help" or the guy who says "I have loads more money than you so I get to f*ck around whenever I want."

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19. "RE: Sex addiction?"
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>Seems like the media is confusing promiscuity with sexual
>addiction. The time spent on sex has not compromised his
>professional work ethic or diminished his game. If he were
>single, everyone would be patting him on the back for
>scoring so much tail while still managing to dominate golf.
>
>Gossip columnists are quit to cite Tiger's current clinic
>stay as evidence of addiction. However, his visit may be
>motivated purely by a desire to make things right with his
>wife and get some of his endorsement deals back. Think who
>would get more sympathy and support from the media and
>public -- the guy who says, "I have a problem and I need
>help" or the guy who says "I have loads more money than you
>so I get to f*ck around whenever I want."

Nobody calls Derek Jeter a sex addict. He's probably doing as much as Tiger.


Do I really have to ask you two more times?

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20. "RE: Sex addiction?"
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   Sex addiction is a term some poor sap came up with to explain to his wife why he couldn't be faithful. Other more familiar terms are womanizer, and "he is a ladies man". Most men with the means (money) will dabble with infedelity at least once in their lives, and some guys just never stop. Men that are happy loving one woman and never straying are extremely rare. And before you all claim that there are more faithful men than not, most men never admit to cheating with their wives or other men. I didn't find out until I was in my 40's that my dad and all of his married friends and co-workers would frequent private clubs (brothels) when I was a kid. Most of those men are still married to their first wives, so I think it's a lot more common than most people think.

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21. "Are you out of control?"
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There are many easy to research guidelines to what constitutes an addiction.

But the more important question is this --

Does it bother you enough that you feel unable to control it?

If so, it doesn't matter what you call it, addiction, or a mere problem.

If you feel out of control, then seek help. Too many times, when things get out of control, they spiral into the ground, where the impact can be abrupt, catastrophic, and often irreversible.


Be the change
you wish to see

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22. "RE: Are you out of control?"
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   It only becomes an addiction if you're caught. Otherwise, it's guys being guys.
I have a relative who got drunk and dropped his cell on the floor. Wife looked at it and found out. It's not Tiger, but similar circumstances.

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23. "RE: Sex addiction?"
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   Believe it or not I told my wife she new something was wrong with me at the time I felt so guilty and full of shame. She was Pissed!!! But we worked it out thank goodness I love her to death. It was my first and only time. I have had a few massages over time but never again full service for me.

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24. "RE: Sex addiction?"
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   "Believe it or not I told my wife she new something was wrong with me at the time I felt so guilty and full of shame. She was Pissed!!! "

And yet here you are on a whore board again.

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25. "RE: Sex addiction?"
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   If you wonder, you are addicted. I am sure we are all addicted to pussies.

I clicked on the link above, a popup on Do you have low sex drive? There are ad catering to addicts.

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