Thank you ladies.

You know, I'm not trying to hijack the thread, but I feel the need to play devil's advocate. In getting screened to see one of the top rated ladies on RB, I recently learned that my handle is known for being hard on ladies in my reviews. The provider in question had read a thread that stated that I've never given a positive review and she didn't bother to check my reviews for herself. When she asked me why I have so many negative experiences, I countered by tallying the number of positive reports in my review history. When she did read my reviews, she stated that the instigating provider must have had an ax to grind, as I clearly didn't withhold positive reviews, as suggested. I found the whole thing rather humorous.

Maybe the hobbyist in your example really was a creeper. I've heard stories of uncomfortable types visiting ladies who I consider very easy going and I have no doubt that many are absolutely accurate. That said, also realize that saying that a client was creepy is a very easy way of dismissing any responsibility on her part. Three sides to every story: yours, mine, and the truth.

All that aside, yes. These ladies deserve a lot of respect for being able to withhold their true thoughts and feeling from clients so effectively. I recently asked an RA which of the three locations where she's worked was best and she told me that the majority of gents in one of the three are very rude and demanding. It was a disappointment to hear that negative behavior was so common.

Edit: /off soapbox

What?

Further to most of these ladies' credit, they don't just freely share such information just to anyone and just to gossip. Not until they become more comfortable with you, establish a trust relationship, and as you see them more regularly might they vent out such things. From our standpoint (the men), it's nice to know such information, too. Why? Because you don't want to befriend "creepers" around here. Almost half the time, references are also exchanged between the men around here. One wouldn't want to make the mistake of referring a "creep" to one of their ATF's, correct?

-Oryx

Of course I realize it's just one woman's opinion/experience, but I am curious as to how she broke down and presented this "work areas vs. general behavior" thing for you.

Can you give it to us in a nutshell?

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It's not until we meet or see someone who makes us look good that we can really appreciate what an incrdible thing these ladies are able to do sometimes. 9s and 10s, GFE+CIM.

FTMFW - more than I could handle.

"...genetically wired to be whores..."? WTF? There are all sorts of reasons they enter into the profession. I dispute this genetically-wired BS; females are wired to bear children from the alpha male, but this signal has been long-obfuscated by cultural and societal influences. Now, bearing children has no significant relation to being "whores".

If there's any genetic wiring in this direction, it's males who are wired to spread our seed.

"Whores", while a dictionary term, is not the nicest. But again, I am not trying to be overly PC and will therefore leave sharper arrows on this to others, should they choose.

-Oryx

On the flip side, I've seen a few spectacular looking women only to find out later they were screwed up in the head.

It's a two way street here.