I'm new to the forum and new to "this". Having never used an escort before, I'm wondering what are some do's and don'ts that I should follow to be safe, ensure a positive experience, etc. All advice appreciated.

Thanks,

http://forum.myredbook.com/cgi-bin/dcforum2/dcboard.pl?az=list&forum=DCForumID15&conf=DCConfID1

Get out now.

Be the change
you wish to see

Ultimately, it'll cost you a ton of money, largely because Bay Area prices are so high in this business relative to other cities.
Perhaps not at first, but at some point, you'll regret the amount of cash you have thrown at these appointments.
In the end, it's just not worth it.

Try to think through your approach and interest in the hobby. Are you just looking to bust a nut with a hot chick by getting in, getting off, and getting out. Or do you want a romantic fantasy with a lady who will be your girlfriend for an hour. Neither of these are right or wrong, just different. The experience you are looking for guides you in what to look for when search ads and reviews. At some point you will want to seriously consider getting VIP membership.

Think about what level of confidentiality and security you feel you need. A married guy typically has a need for a higher level than a single guy. This can determine if you need a hobby phone or if you can do outcalls.

For starters you don’t need to disable your profile. You have an anonymous handle so putting in the City or area you live or a city you will be doing most of your hobbying could help if you ask a question that a potential responder could give better information if they knew the area of your hobby interest.

It looks like you were able to keep both your review handle and your message board handle as jmooreS4. Not something I was able to do when I came on to the message board. I had to plead my case to administration to get the HighStepper handle on the message board. I use to just cruise the ads and read the reviews, especially after I wrote and posted a review, I could see the full detail reviews. Then one day I discovered, wow, they got a discussion board on RB. The problem came when the mods researched my request they thought I was some weirdo trying to hijack the HighStepper handle. Finally somebody I met at a mixer explained to the mods that I was weird and HighStepper is weird, so they put it together for me.

The point of this longwinded shit, is there are two schools of thought about making your review handle different from your discussion board handle.

Back in the days before internet review sites it was rough out there. Answering a newspaper ad a hobbyist didn’t know what to expect. A lot of ROBs and fakes. So in the beginning the reviewers had to come down hard on some providers for the safety of bros which required a bros before hos posture. Understand why the suggestion to keep the handles separate?

Today we are a much stronger community blessed with a lot of wonderful ladies who are true treasures that make living worth living. Instead of bros against hos we can strive to become brothers and sisters in the hobby together making it better for all. A lot of work yet to do on this, but we can focus on the well established sweetheart providers, that with due diligence in their research a hobbyist never has to come in contact with the shit that the pioneering hobbyist had to contend with, along with whatever harm might come to him. Some of these guys are still around and they may show their figurative battle scars in the tone of their posts.

To sum up, the school of thought to keep the same handle for both reviews and message board appears to be the prevailing dominant one, just an opinion, Some people act embarrassed when owning up to having two different handles. It’s not like it’s wrong, but gives the impression of hiding something or being two face. They have no need to as it’s their choice and nothing wrong with having the two handles, not to be confused with fake handles… ..later.

We also touch on 2 ways to get at reviews and mixers. Current thread in this forum:

Writing a review and approaches to the hobby

http://forum.myredbook.com/dcforum2/general/43517.html#11

Mixers, and an example of a newbie pushing too hard to quick

http://forum.myredbook.com/dcforum2/general/43515.html#11

The number one rule in the hobby is DISCRETION!!!

Hopefully you got a flavor of what kind of experience you can shape here. BTW, the guys telling you to get out before you get in and save your self are touching on potential pitfalls of hobbying which can be said about anything in life. So keep the big head engaged until you are in the bedroom with the door locked. The danger that will sneak up on you was expressed with a simple GET OUT NOW, with a book of experience and knowledge behind it, came from a “Posting Whore” a sort of play on “Attention Whore.” lol. Posting whores are the people with high post counts. Like if one has over 500 posts, you got to ask yourself WHY? And people with over a 1,000.……….well hang around you’ll see.

In addition to the very useful link Lefeu gave you here are two more.

RB posting guidelines

http://forum.myredbook.com/cgi-bin/dcforum2/dcboard.pl?az=read_announcements

RB site user manual

http://forum.myredbook.com/cgi-bin/dcforum2/dcboard.pl?az=help

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Too much sex is still not enough

cost, level of service, etc. will give you different advice (I have settled into the amp places, with great satisfaction and minumal stress on the budget)

p.s. would love to see your first post on how-it-goes!

and foremost.

2).Do not fall in "love" with an RA unless you want too throw #1 out

the window. Love the experience not the person.

3). Get VIP membership and only go with well reviewed RA'S.

4). Enjoy yourself, but don't flatter yourself into believing that

for a moment the RA has any interest beyond your donation. Stop

paying her for her service and see how much time she has too

spend with you, that should wake you up too the reality of this

"Hobby".

I started a few months ago...some thoughts..

1. Get the VIP membership and see only reviewed providers. Let the vets of the site TOFTT. They know better and aren't as shy was you/I are to ask questions, and most importantly, to walk away.

2. Go to the chat room. You'll be a lot less nervous with a provider with whom you've bantered with.

3. Treat the ladies with respect. You'll be much better treated. They are like you and I...just trying to make their way through the universe.

4. You're going be thinking about sex ALL DAY LONG when you first start. (I'll let the vets comment on whether this goes away!)

5. Like any other hobby, you'll get carried away at first. Blow too much dough. But that's OK. There are worse things to blow your dough on.

6. After you settle down...you'll get the hang of it...and you'll have a great time.

7. Re: Mixers. I've never been to one. But, based on the etiquette, it sounds like they are preferably platonic. (WARNING: I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT I'M TALKING ABOUT.)

Others have said to walk away now...WTF? This can't be worse than golf!! (BTW: I swear a lot less doing this than golf!) The reason we're here is because this fills a need in our life. Go for it...but just don't let it consume you.

I've been a member since 2004 and ... sorry to say ... I'm still clueless!

No really, check it out...
Read every post and response made in RB in every forum (don't forget the archives) and sooner or later your third eye will just open up and you'll be enlightened!

Okay, seriously...are you still with me? Get a gf or get married. The chicks here ain't worth it, man! They've all got cooties!!!

Allright, no more bs...I'm going to be outright honest here so listen carefully. DO NOT TRUST ANYONE HERE. We can advise you all we want but nobody (and I mean NOBODY!!!) will get your back if you fall. You can come back here and tell your bad experience and people will only sympathize with you. Truth is, there is no surefire way to be "safe" because hobbying is risky business...and ultimately it is YOU who will have to suffer the pains or enjoy the good experiences of this hobby. Your only hope is to read reviews and hope that the person(s) whose reviews you are buying are not shills or liars or the providers themselves. And if you can weed out all the scams and robs, you will have awesome experiences with those lovely ladies who are out there!

Have fun!!!!