I read the ads, but fear two things: 1] going into dicey neighborhoods in Stockton and 2] having a provider in my house.

Opinions, please, and this is really important. Incalls? Outcalls? Which is safer?

thanks
rob

MissCaliRed.....maybe not the best but its wide open and I feel safe there. I had the same concerns you did and I find it OK. BBW. If that ain't your style don't go.

I think you should maybe do a quick google search of the good & bad hotels in your area. Then when you are talking to a provider, ask where the incall is and don't be afraid to stop booking when she tells you it's a motel in a sketchy area. If it's a decent hotel, ask about how the lobby is set up. I've found bigger hotels easier since it's a big lobby and there's a lot more foot traffic for them to bother you. G'luck.

I am of the opinion,,,I host,,, I control,,, I defend...And I cum! LOL

I perffer incalls.. but thats me...

if it is outcall see someone that has reviews

dong

Always be cautious in both situations. Don't leave valubles out, take only the cash you need, don't wear your watch, leave your wallet at home.

I also took this idea from a SW doing an outcall at my place: Call someone you trust and tell them 'I'm seeing "Lucy" at this hotel, in that town, if I don't call you in an hour, somethings wrong.' (You obviously have to admit to a friend that you see prostitutes. A good friend should be cool with that)

i have done outcalls only 3 or 4 times and in each instance, i either have seen her once or she was a well respected gal whom i communicated with extensively. even still when i've had someone over, i hid all valuables and anything that featured my full name. the less they know of me, the better imho. if i lived in an apartment complex where you need to buzz someone inside in order to get to my front door, i'd probably do outcalls a bit more often. that first layer of defense is comforting to me.

happy hunting and good luck!

If you use your place of residence as the outcall location, you have to worry about people you know seeing her arriving and leaving, watch her so she doesn't rob you, worry about her scoping out your place so she/friends can rob you later. Then you have to give her directions and wait for her to arrive. You will probably clean the place up a little so it doesn't look like a dump (it's almost like dating). She'll know where you live and may have your info on her cell so may be a problem later if she is busted. It's better to get a hotel room and meet her there. Works if you are traveling for business and have a hotel room anyway. If you are at home, extra expense to get a hotel room but safer. If you don't like her, you can send her away. But then you would have wasted all that time and if you can't schedule another "date", would have wasted the hotel room.

If you do incall, not safe if in bad area. But easier to schedule another appt if original RA does not work out and you "walk".

.:. quality not quantity .:.

Most people prefer incall (provider provides location), because it's more convenient and much more discreet. In your case, you don't have a wife to worry about hiding anything from, but you still have neighbors who might wonder about the black Mercedes dropping off a blonde in front of your house at 1am.

It's a balance. Both have inherent risks. Generally, if you meet with a reputable provider in a decent or upscale hotel location, you'll be pretty safe.

It's first-time incalls to private residences that give me heebeejeebies sometimes. Even with a reviewed provider, before I go in, I:

1. check for exit routes before going in;
2. Keep my clothes always in sight
3. take the cash for the session only and leave the wallet in the car

Bush Sucks.

I have never, not once, had an issue with a girl doing Outcall to my place. As I've posted in other related threads about this, I have a lot of people in my home from maids to carpet cleaners etc. Why should I automatically assume an Escort is going to rip me off? Hasn't happened yet, but I wouldn't invite a 20 something with less that a couple dozen SOLID reviews over.

Quite a few threads on this topic if you want to search. Here is just one other.

http://forum.myredbook.com/cgi-bin/dcforum2/dcboard.pl?az=show_thread&om=42819&forum=general