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"can't get off with a condom. no more pro's"
 
   Just wondering if anyone has this issue. The reason that I can't see pro's is because I can't get off using condoms anymore. Admittedly, I did see a pro a couple of time, but I usually get off from BBBJ. That's one of the first things I ask; whether or not they are cool with BBBJ.

Basically, I've been spoiled because of the few non-pro's, my SO, meeting single women in single groups, and sugarbabies I've seen last year and some this year.

Even the thinnest condom feels artificial. I just don't like it. It's like softly jerking off to some bag.

In fact, it's wierd. I rather jack off than fuck with a condom. So, that cuts down my time and money hobbying significantly.

Does anyone at all have this problem?

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1. "RE: can't get off with a condom. no more pro's"
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ur not alone on this..... i would much rather have a girl give me a BBHJ then a covered BJ.......

i just was with this gal who gave me a FBSM then at the end she gave me a HJ but she had a latex glove on when she was doing it and i had the hardest time getting off.....

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3. "RE: can't get off with a condom. no more pro's"
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   Why do they put a glove on when giving a HJ? They do that sometimes at MBOT also and you have a condom on Jr. Slim chance of catching anything unless you have an open wound. And the feeling is all wrong.

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2. "RE: can't get off with a condom. no more pro's"
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   It's all in your head big boy.

Give it some time and you will get used to it

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4. "RE: can't get off with a condom. no more pro's"
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   Since I've been married or in an LTR, I'm not used to using condoms. I can only get off with them when with the "student needs" type of girl rather than a pro. I will say that a good AAMP K or J-girl will do it for me again witha condom.

If I get into an LTR who won't go BB, I bail.

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5. "RE: can't get off with a condom. no more pro's"
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Condoms can inhibit the orgasmic response. I experienced the hobby back in the days before STD’s and Aids when condoms were typically not used in play for pay sex. Only the “good girls” who wasn’t taking the birth control pills did a guy need a condom for.

Add to condom use, a person who over their lifetime have had 1,000’s of orgasms (admittedly some self induced) in hundreds of different ways with women to numerous to count, it take a deeper connection and chemistry to cum, as “to cum” typically means.

There is a good discussion in the Sacramento Lounge about Tantra. While I have no experience with Tantra, I do know it is possible for men to have multiple mini orgasms without ejaculating.

My suggestion is to not worry about “cuming” as in ejaculation, and just ride the waves of ecstasy while enjoying the sensuality and beauty of the woman you are with, in a very intimate experience.

Then go home and fuck the sh*t out of your SO and drop the biggest load on her..........she just might love you for it.


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Too much sex is still not enough

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6. "RE: can't get off with a condom. no more pro's"
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   I go through phases where I can orgasm with a condom and other times when I can't.
I was in a no-cum phase for a while and was offered bbfs twice, when I wasn't able to unload in the bag.

I declined, but the temptation was awfully strong.

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7. "RE: can't get off with a condom. no more pro's"
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   My situation is similar -- comes and goes. I suspect it is more mental than physical. As for physical, you really need a condom that fits you right, and there are so many different kinds out there you need to try.

I've had the opposite experience -- unable to cum during BBFS. For some reason having thoughts of changing diapers and paying for college puts me out of the mood.

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8. "RE: can't get off with a condom. no more pro's"
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Put a couple drops of lube in the condom, it'll change the feeling.

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9. "RE: can't get off with a condom. no more pro's"
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Personally, this has only happened to me a few times. One reason, could be the condom itself. I don't particularly like Trojans, they tend to dry things out, and feel too thick for me. On the flip side, I've never had a problem with Crown condoms, and even had one lady comment that it felt like nothing was there, and had to keep checking on it.

Another reason is lube. Lube is your friend, and makes everything so much better. Put a little on the inside before putting it on, put some on the outside, and have fun.

Lastly, the few times I had difficulties were times when I wasn't 100% present. Either I was stressing about something, or distracted and not completely reveling in the experience.

But that's just me personally...

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15. "RE: can't get off with a condom. no more pro's"
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>Another reason is lube. Lube is your friend, and makes
>everything so much better. Put a little on the inside before
>putting it on, put some on the outside, and have fun.

>But that's just me personally...
>
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>Hope burns bright!

WTF, do we have an echo going on here? Nice going miracle ear. I post the lube part on the post right before you.

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10. "RE: can't get off with a condom. no more pro's"
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   "Basically, I've been spoiled because of the few non-pro's, my SO, meeting single women in single groups, and sugarbabies I've seen last year and some this year."

Me too. I also find it difficult to nut with my johnson encased in latex. On the other hand, though, it does allow me to fuck for an extended period of time, which is great as long as things end up with an enthusiastic BBBJTCIM!

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11. "RE: can't get off with a condom. no more pro's"
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time to time i've had issues with condoms. once out of frustration, i lost my erection during the deed and the provider had to get me off with a BBBJ. lately if BBBJ isn't on the menu i probably won't see the provider.

on the side when i've hooked up with women or couples who swing, i've had issues there as well. i screwed this girl for 90 minutes straight in all possible positions and never got close to cumming. she got off with several O's but eventually became sore so we had to stop. i blamed the thick trojan condoms she had in her drawer. and another time i kept losing my erection every time i rolled one on. i think i went through 4 rubbers. i was partially nervous because i was having sex with a another man's wife. she did get me off with a sloppy bj while her husband watched.

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12. "RE: can't get off with a condom. no more pro's"
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I'm with you on this one Viph. I'll go one step further, I tend to lose my erection during the putting it on phase, and once that happens there is no getting it back while "wrapped". BBBJs are a must for me hobbying, and the majority of times I go just for that, maybe with a little DATY thrown in. I've been an oral guy all the way back to my 20s so I don't miss the CFS.

"God knew what he was doing when he created Women"

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13. "RE: can't get off with a condom. no more pro's"
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   Seems like a general trend. I used to have a similar problem but now I do not. I'd suggest you see a sex counselor. It worked for me. Now I see her on a regular basis. She has taken good care of me for the past 2 years. With or without a condom.

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14. "RE: can't get off with a condom. no more pro's"
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I always had trouble cumming with the wrapper on, but starting a year or so ago it has gotten so bad, that I have slowed down hobbying. I guess it has to do with getting older, because even SO-BB's give me trouble now-a-days while it was still easy in my fifties. Just my experience.

A man has to eat, drink and be nice to women.

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16. "RE: can't get off with a condom. no more pro's"
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As a child of the 70s who grew up during the AIDS explosion, I just can't relate. (Be sad for me) My very very first time, she knew I was a virgin and let me see how it felt, but put the hat on for completion.

It really is all in your mind. Try going without for 2-3 months; you'll be able to use a terrycloth sheath and still get off.

Do I really have to ask you two more times?

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17. "RE: can't get off with a condom. no more pro's"
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   It's all about the girl. If she's kissing and fucking me with wild passion like we are long lost lovers (even if she's putting on an Oscar winning performance) then I would cum like an explosion regardless of the rubber.

But on the other hand, if she just lying there, like a fuckin dead fish, unenthusiastic, I would go soft, especially with a rubber on.

I tried Viagra which usually works well for me, but with a dead fish chick and tight condom not even that helps much.

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18. "RE: can't get off with a condom. no more pro's"
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   Too many guys go limp because of a rubber. They just don't like condoms. Many many guys have this problem, and all the girls know it. But what pisses guys off about most of the providers out there is that when they start going flaccid, the ladies too get passive...they slow down...and look at guys and their cocks like they're waiting for something. And guys are sitting there thinking...fucking do your job! What the fuck did I just pay you $300 for?

I believe that it is 1000% up to the girl to keep the guy aroused throughout the session. Unfortunately, most of the girls out there don't work hard enough to arouse the guys and keep him erect.

My suggestion: try to find a girlfriend who will go on the pill so that you can fuck her in the raw. You wil save a lot more money and you will also get your senses stimulated.

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19. "RE: can't get off with a condom. no more pro's"
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   LAST EDITED ON 25-Mar-10 AT 09:43 PM (PST)
 
Same problem. I only come 20% of the time with condoms. Condoms reduce the sensitivity significantly. Times I came, the RA is really hot and tight. BBBJ is many times better than CBJ, too. Think it is due to age and spoiled by BB with SO.

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20. "RE: can't get off with a condom. no more pro's"
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LAST EDITED ON 25-Mar-10 AT 11:57 PM (PST)
 
At times, condoms are a necessary evil. For some guys, the act is so powerful I think that they have trouble actually discriminating the sensation, so don't really notice the condom as much as some who have more awareness of the actual sensations. With condoms, no matter what kind, there is decrease in sensation--almost like wearing nothing at all is not like wearing nothing at all. As for CBJ, that is useless and I will not see someone if they advertise this--it does not have the necessary sensation and implies to me that the lady thinks you are really a dirty cesspool. None of the tricks really work--not putting lube in the condom, not using ultrathins, not going without to get more horney, not use of non-latex. Even with Viagra or Levitra to help ensure the dick stays hard and the rubber stays on, I still have a hard time coming because the sensation is so poor. At times, I think some of the providers post as guys to try to justify the use of condoms. Some of the ladies realize that condoms are a problem, period, and do their best to help you have a good time in spite of them. For the guys with premature ejaculation, of course, condoms might be welcome. Let's face it. Use of condoms is not sexy, is not fun, does not feel good, but can be a necessary evil.

Wayfaringstranger39

Stranger in a strange land.

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21. "RE: can't get off with a condom. no more pro's"
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LAST EDITED ON 26-Mar-10 AT 00:31 AM (PST)
 
Interesting points of view. I would add that for me, and I think for most men, all orgasms and ejaculations are not the same. For me, condoms are not desirable but I agree that they can be necessary. They are not a good solution, but they are what we have. Some providers (and perhaps some guys) seem to feel that if the guy has an ejaculation, then this proves that the condom was not a problem. However, they do not realize that just because the guy has an ejaculation, the pleasure and the orgasm may be much less intense. The road, at least for me, is just as important as the destination. With a condom, the road is much rockier and the destination with a condom is often less than fully satisfying. For the providers who know this and are up front about it, I thank you as you are then much more sensitive about the situation and are much more likely to help the guy have a good time in spite of the cover.

Mattboy

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22. "RE: can't get off with a condom. no more pro's"
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I'm kinda weird....

The only time I'm using a condom is when I'm with a provider. In these situations, the excitement of being with someone I've never been with before, as well as the element of doing something "naughty," usually leads to a more stimulating experience despite the condom.

Then... when I'm with my S.O., I don't use a condom. Unless... she's messed up on taking the pill, in which case we fall back to a condom. In these situations, I have a strange kind of Pavlovian response. Putting the condom on actually excites me a little.

I told you I was kinda weird...

-Pork Sword

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23. "RE: can't get off with a condom. no more pro's"
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   I can't stand condoms. When I lived in NYC, my atf (Cici at Choi's) would lube herself up from her breasts down to just above her vag and slide herself back and forth over me. Not quite as involved as in those nuru videos, but a bit more than a russian. It was amazing - better than sex with a cover. I'd love to find someone in SF with those skills.

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24. "RE: can't get off with a condom. no more pro's"
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A female condom with lube might offer a little more sensation then a regular male condom. Worth a try.

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25. "RE: can't get off with a condom. no more pro's"
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   uvas13
I find the same problem with condoms. It is made worse when the gal uses too much lube and friction is reduced.The problem has become more pronounced as my age has increased.

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