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12many
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"Reasons for this hobby??"
 
   LAST EDITED ON 29-Jul-10 AT 08:59 PM (PST)
 
I'm sitting here wondering at what age will i stop this hobby of mine and whats the reason for me to continue...

You fellas with the wifey, what is the reason you continue to hobby? Is it because your wife stop giving you some? You just like to get some p*ssy because your wife won't give you enough? You just like different flavors and varieties? Does it make your relationship easier (less stress and arguments)?. Why do you do this hobby? No offense to you guys.

I am having a hard time fitting this in my sched. because my S.O. knows my schedule.. lol so sad. You guys?

My reason for doing this hobby is because my S.O. (we're not married) isn't giving me enough lol. Even if she was, after getting my first taste at this hobby, i couldn't stop thinking about going to another session.

I also don't know why i keep checking this board so often....

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1. "RE: Reasons for this hobby??"
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   LAST EDITED ON 30-Jul-10 AT 00:57 AM (PST)
 
Best answer I've been able to come up with is the same reason dogs lick their balls....because they can.....

Well, OK, I'll add this: I think men (unlike women) are genetically hard wired to seek variety.

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2. "RE: Reasons for this hobby??"
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   LAST EDITED ON 29-Jul-10 AT 09:46 PM (PST)
 
Everything in life is circumstantial especially mongering. And how we behave in any given situation is a function of practicality, timing and availability of resources. I think we are all engineers and we design and plot a path for ourselves based on our external and internal circumstance.

For example, I feel the itch for pussy – where does that comes from – I don’t know – ask God. But I have the monger itch and then I say to myself “what am I in the mood for”? It is no different than if I am thinking about food – Italian, Chinese, Hamburger, etc. Hell, pussy is a type of food – dick food. Do I want BJ, FS, combo, white, Latin, black, Asian – the menu is very broad.

Then I look at my constraints – time is probably first – do I have the time to do this? Then money – do I have the money? Then I ask myself if I want a street walker or Craig’s List or RB or something from inventory? I weigh these parameters and figure out what is possible. I have limited time and money, so I have to be practical.

There are many data points that have to be inputted in the monger computer - this where good engineering comes into play. Hell, if I am retired and have $10,000 a month to waste – my options are very flexible. But, alas I am a working stiff with a wife and kids and mortgage and payments and on and on.

If I have time, but little money – a SW is a very good option – and as a bonus – exciting to hunt. If I am short on time and have a few extra dollars – CL, RB or inventory can fill the bill. And making love to the ole Lady is still very satisfying.

Sex makes life interesting – spicy. Sex motivates me – how about you?

Sex motivates me because it moves me to action. Action is what brings fruition to life. Fruition brings a sense of justice or completion. I think we are all in need of justice and a sense of completion. We all strive towards it; whether or not we reach it is a matter of debate. But we yearn for “things” and try to apprehend them. Life is full of our yearnings – much more than can be realistically achieved. Even if we don’t realize many of our goals, we should keep trying.

It is the “trying” that makes life real. Having an idea and keeping it to oneself is OK. But culturing a thought or two and sharing it on a forum is a call to action. Action allows for the possibility of fruition and/or growth. Ideas themselves are kind of sexual; in the sense that you can have them alone, keep them to yourself, and it is like masturbating. Or, you can share them and create something more than the sum of the parts – just like good sex.

What motivates me to monger – appetite. Like FriscoJack said it is “genetically hard wired”; therefore it is safe to blame God.

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3. "RE: Reasons for this hobby??"
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   Everything in life is circumstantial especially mongering. And how we behave in any given situation is a function of practicality, timing and availability of resources. I think we are all engineers and we design and plot a path for ourselves based on our external and internal circumstance.

For example, I feel the itch for pussy – where does that come from – I don’t know – ask God. But I have the monger itch and then I say to myself “what am I in the mood for”? It is no different than if I am thinking about food – Italian, Chinese, Hamburger, etc. Hell, pussy is a type of food – dick food. Do I want BJ, FS, combo, white, Latin, black, Asian – the menu is very broad.

Then I look at my constraints – time is probably first – do I have the time to do this? Then money – do I have the money? Then I ask myself if I want a street walker or Craig’s List or RB or something from inventory? I weigh these parameters and figure out what is possible. I have limited time and money, so I have to be practical.

There are many data points that have to be inputted in the monger computer - this where good engineering comes into play. Hell, if I am retired and have $10,000 a month to waste – my options are very flexible. But, alas I am a working stiff with a wife and kids and mortgage and payments and on and on.

If I have time, but little money – a SW is a very good option – and as a bonus – exciting to hunt. If I am short on time and have a few extra dollars – CL, RB or inventory can fill the bill. And making love to the ole Lady is still very satisfying.

Sex makes life interesting – spicy. Sex motivates me – how about you?

Sex motivates me because it moves me to action. Action is what brings fruition to life. Fruition brings a sense of justice or completion. I think we are all in need of justice and a sense of completion. We all strive towards it; whether or not we reach it is a matter of debate. But we yearn for “things” and try to apprehend them. Life is full of our yearnings – much more than can be realistically achieved. Even if we don’t realize many of our goals, we should keep trying.

It is the “trying” that makes life real. Having an idea and keeping it to oneself is OK. But culturing a thought or two and sharing it on a forum is a call to action. Action allows for the possibility of fruition and/or growth. Ideas themselves are kind of sexual; in the sense that you can have them alone, keep them to yourself, and it is like masturbating. Or, you can share them and create something more than the sum of the parts – just like good sex.

What motivates me to monger – appetite. Like FriscoJack said it is “genetically hard wired”; therefore it is safe to blame God.

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4. "RE: Reasons for this hobby??"
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   >I'm sitting here wondering at what age will i stop this
>hobby of mine and whats the reason for me to continue...

I'm sitting here wondering what age or reason have to do with this hobby?

However, now that you asked, the age to stop this hobby is 95; Its time to settle down by then, kid.

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5. "RE: Reasons for this hobby??"
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   Way to go George.I won't go against that.

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8. "RE: Reasons for this hobby??"
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>However, now that you asked, the age to stop this hobby is
>95; Its time to settle down by then, kid.

Ah....but let's see what you say when you're 95!

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10. "RE: Reasons for this hobby??"
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I stop after one or two times in a session, depending on whether I can get it up. Then tomorrow's a new day.

This is formulaic and has no end date.

I will fornicate after I am deceased. I am dead certain that day will cum.

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6. "RE: exciting and different"
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An excellent question and I'm not sure how to answer it, so I guess I'll ramble about enjoying exclusivity.

I've enjoyed 3 or 4 hobbies that are out there on the edge. The first has been my main identity for 40 years, and I've been continually plagued by "whuffos" (outsiders) who are always asking "whuffo you do dis and whuffo you do dat?" We in the sport just smile because if they have to ask, they'll never understand any answer we could offer. So, I don't talk about it with the whuffos.

As for this hobby, yes, it's exciting and different, but actually, I've been amazed at the community here. And at my age, if it wasn't for this RB forum, the girls wouldn't be on my mind that much and my "to-do" list would be pretty phuquing short. Hard to believe, I know.

Truth be told, as soon as I get Teddi, Fable and Ray all together in a pile, I'll be done.

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7. "RE: Reasons for this hobby??"
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   I understand the need for variety, but the real question is why did you get married in the first place?? Does having someone to come home to, grow old with, have kids with outweigh the freedom and variety you were suppose to give up? I'm not married, but I guess if my wife originally was attractive, more sexual and just plain nicer and all of that changed, I'd feel it was a bait and switch and I'd probably be tempted to monger.

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9. "RE: Reasons for this hobby??"
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>I understand the need for variety, but the real question is
>why did you get married in the first place?? Does having
>someone to come home to, grow old with, have kids with
>outweigh the freedom and variety you were suppose to give
>up?

YES...

...with the following qualifications: your wife should continue to be as committed to keeping romance alive as long as you shall live. And by that, I don't mean that she has to defy nature and not grow old physically -- we all do that -- but she must NOT let her HEART grow old.

I started hobbying this year, after eighteen years of marriage. I didn't spend seventeen years saying to myself, "gosh, I missed out." This was the year that the frequency, intensity, and pointlessness of the arguments that she has started with me simply became too much to bear. I wanted to spend some POSITIVE time in a woman's company.

>I'm not married, but I guess if my wife originally was
>attractive, more sexual and just plain nicer and all of that
>changed, I'd feel it was a bait and switch and I'd probably
>be tempted to monger.

That's pretty much correct.

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11. "RE: Reasons for this hobby??"
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   How about a serious talk.

Explain how you are depressed and how sex is so important to you as a part of relationship and an expression of love that you would like to work with her so the relationship will be good for both in long term basis.

Also how you believe accepting and nurture sexuality of both partners is essential in good intimate relationship.

There are many sex and intimacy related workshops and classes for couples offered in many areas...google is your friend.

Just so you know, ultimately real connection and love is what some of us treasure in hobby. You have that already, take courage and develop
sex part with your SO.

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12. "RE: Reasons for this hobby??"
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   >I also don't know why i keep checking this board so
>often....

Well if you haven't realized this yet this will most likely be the most addictive activity you will probably ever partake in...it really drives home the saying a dick has no conscious, he is in control. You know they say a man thinks about sex every 7 sec. or so, so when you feed those thoughts(easily obtainable hotties,rb website) it becomes a self feeding endless cycle.

IMHO Stop before it ruins your life and you regret wasting your hard earned money on these trollops

Good Luck

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13. "RE: Reasons for this hobby??"
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One reason for all seasons, I'm just horny.

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14. "RE: Reasons for this hobby??"
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   Here's a new one, I have this hobby because I have two somewhat rare but interesting fetishes. I have a belly fetish, a fondness for slim and tight female bellies in particular and I also like to play doctor. I fantasize about being able to give hot, young and slim women thorough but realistic physicals.

Weird, I know, but compared to some of the other things out there that get people off, I don't feel so awkward...not that I'm judging.

Sure, over the years I have had some girlfriends and sex buddies that have let me indulge in this, but when I discovered that most of the providers on RB are very open to this sort of thing....nuff said.

The only problem now is that I have a girlfriend, a very loving and sweet woman who has no idea about my hobby and very little idea, if any, about my fetish. She is very attractive but not my slim ideal, and I must say, I am not sure what to do. If she ever found out about my activities....let's just say I would be ruined in more than one way. I also have no desire to hurt her. Advice?

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15. "RE: Reasons for this hobby??"
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i know what your talkin about, a slim and tight belly on a female is very sexy.
my advice is get her ass in the gym so you can have your cake and eat it too then you wouldn't have to have this hobby and no worries of getting caught...easier said then done, I know
But your probably gonna have to join her in her new fitness regime and give support so she doesn't think your self centered

just some .02 worth of advice

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16. "RE: Reasons for this hobby??"
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Personally, my reason for participating in this hobby is due to a few different reasons:

1. To spend time with a beautiful woman. Each time, I hope to ideally make a physical, emotional, intellectual and natural connection with them (although it is quite rare to develop all of that).

2. To appreciate and enjoy female companionship and pay homage to the beauty of the female form.

3. To avoid the mind games, BS, lies, and fake posturing of the dating scene.

4. To learn about, explore, express, experiment, and push the boundaries of my sexuality.

5. To address and satisfy my sexual needs and desires.

If I do someday find someone to commit to, I'll gladly "retire" from this hobby, as I'll have found someone to address all the reasons why I participate in this hobby.

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17. "RE: Reasons for this hobby??"
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   curious777
As so often, Blue Lantern has said it all. Much wisdom here. My advice to you is to lighten up a little or rather A WHOLE LOt. Get out there and just enjoy being with these remarkably wonderful women we are lucky enough to have on RB. HAVE FUN.You can learn so much from them. Try a bit of adventure. Don't be so serious and sombre and worry. Don't feel that everything has to have some deep OTHER meaning or significance. The grave comes soon enough. Don't hasten it on.

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18. "RE: Reasons for this hobby??"
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   It is about variety. At least that's why I do it. My wife is of a certain ethnic type, and the providers I see are of other ethnic types. I don't have an ATF because, again, I want variety. I use my hobby name, hobby phone and tell them about my hobby career. I believe most of us married types keep the emotional part of the encounter out of the date.

As to the individual who asked why we got married if we like variety - First, there is no guarantee that if you are single that you will get variety. It takes a lot of resources and effort to "bag" that first civilian. Then, if you want variety, you have to break up with that one and find another or do it behind her back. There is potential for a lot of drama. When you’re single I guess that could be o.k. Frankly, I’m too old to deal with that. I would still see providers if I’m single. Second – there is something to be said about having someone to share your thoughts, dreams, loves...blah, blah, blah, even amongst the occasional bickering, nagging, bitching....blah, blah, blah. That’s really the emotional aspect of the relationship - something that you share with an SO that you don’t with a provider.


So keep working through your relationship with your SO, make sure your smart about your hobbying, and realize that the encounters with the providers are just what you said they were - sessions.

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19. "RE: Reasons for this hobby??"
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   12 many-- i am 81 and still active[my motto is if you want to and can why the hell not].i am on r b because at my age there is no free pussy--unless you are a milionare.as for why men do hobby inmo men are basickly an educated anamal.very few anamals are momandrous-including some early men.[in the bible].some where along the way some genius and society decided.that man should have only one mate.[and it is in the new testement-mentioned]but deep down most men still have that anamal instinct to mate with as many females as they can.few men[if any]can resist this urge.this is why prostitun has been around from time eternal. [i also am going to live till i die.i

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20. "RE: Reasons for this hobby??"
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   I like your outlook i bet you can relate to that old joke about the young bull and the old bull standing up on a knoll looking down on a field of heffers and the young one says to the old one lets run down there a fuck one of them there cows and the old one responds, lets walk and fuck them all, hahahaha!!

Just so you know there is no free pussy for anyone...your not alone no matter what your age

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21. "RE: Reasons for this hobby??"
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IbUxePfsoWE

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22. "RE: Reasons for this hobby??"
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   My SO is way hotter than any provider I have ever seen, she wants sex all the time, and it's unbeleivably good sex. Put aside the physical for a moment, it's the best relationship I have ever had -- by a mile, there is not even a second place. Yet I used to wake up every day wondering what the hell she sees in me, now I wake up and my first thought is which providers I am going to visit this week.

I thought I have always had a reason, either when I was single or with other girls where I have been left unfulfilled one way or another. Now? I really don't know why I do it. As I find myself in a stretch when I am hobbying quite a bit, it's been a troubling question for me.

The answer, I think, is what FriscoJack wrote:

>> I think men (unlike women) are genetically hard wired to seek variety.<<

It's that simple. I don't think I would be as interested in sex as I am if I had to do it with just one woman for the rest of my life, no matter how incredible she is or how much I love her. Variety keeps it fresh. I wish I wasn't this way, and I hope to try to quit at some point, but it is what it is.

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23. "RE: Reasons for this hobby??"
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"after getting my first taste at this hobby, i couldn't stop thinking about going to another session."

I would say that describes about 98% of us.

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24. "RE: Reasons for this hobby??"
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   I'm a young single buck , women my age want to get married , settle down and have kids.
I never was big in the dating scene and saw my college days of free sex and dating dwindle
so providers make it up for that . Besides its exciting , fun and you meet interesting people.

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25. "RE: Reasons for this hobby??"
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   Man I totally agree with what you're saying!! I started hobbing about a year ago and I cant get enough flavors. I try to limit to twice a month but sometime I cant wait for the next session.

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