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New York (CNN) -- Could letting your man sleep with another woman help your relationship?

Author and former mistress Holly Hill thinks so.

"One of the main things that I have learned is that a woman that negotiates infidelity with her partner is far more powerful than a woman who is sitting home wondering why he's late from the office Christmas party," she says.

"It's better to walk the dog on a leash than let it escape through an unseen hole in the back fence."

Hill's memoir, "Sugarbabe" details her yearlong adventure with a series of so-called "sugar daddies." The book sold 24,000 copies in her native Australia, according to her publisher, and has just been released in the United States. Holly Hill is a pen name.

If a man isn't getting sexual satisfaction from his wife, for whatever reason, and has sexual needs, which is better for the marriage, particularly when there are kids involved?

Divorce or discreet hookups with paid professionals? Whether or NOT the wife knows about it. If the marriage is otherwise going OK, I say there is no contest.

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FriscoJack