It's the constant 'we were the better team" stuff I'm a bit more disappointed in. I think their dog pile of wins in the worst division in the game really made them over-confident. I saw something a couple of weeks ago, I cannot recall where, that rated teams with a weighted formula mean a win over, say, Tampa was weighted higher than a winner over Seattle, and in that case, the Angels weren't a top 5 team. I was never blown away with this club, our crumby little team always played them tight and I think they really went into the post season beleiving their own hype while the Sox are playing like they have something to prove in the post-Manny era. As for "the play" I will toss in a 3rd option. I would consider it similar to a second baseman dropping the ball on the transition of a double play. The runner at second is still inarguably out. On the base path you are out the moment you are tagged. This isn't a receiver in football "maintaining control" of the ball or anything.
Varitek got the tag, made the out, then as he fell the ground causes the ball to pop out well after the out is recorded. If the ball popped out AS he was making the tag, their may be room for argument, but not as the play went down.
The Angels blaming their post season failure on a single play is silly. When Byrnes failed to slide in 2004, when Varitek recovered the ball he tagged Byrnes with his glove, while holding the baseball in his bare hand. A's fans didn't bitch about that one afterwards because, much like with the Angels, it was the teams overall repeated failures that was the problem, not just a single play.
...and that's, one to grow on.