I'm out and about all the time (at least weekly if not more) with black women, and wherever we go, I have never had a problem or caught any noticeable attitude from black men (or anyone for that matter). I've been to a number of places I would definitely avoid if I wasn't with them.But, the thing is, they are all 20 t0 30 years younger than me and gorgeous, so I think that most (if not all) of the black men we come across know the score, and know (or at least strongly suspect) that these young ladies are just working, so we don't catch any overt flack because they think we're just doing business.
Several of these young women have become friends beyond business, but we are not at all seriously dating in the traditional sense. Not too damn many fine looking young women I've met will choose to get romantically involved with men 20 plus years older as a matter of first preference.
I don't know for sure, but things might be different if we were more age appropriate for each other and there was a realistic possibility for these men to believe that we were really dating or were lovers.
Sadly, I suspect it is so.
Since this thread is discussing racial/interracial relations I should also mention that I am also attracted to many black women closer to my age (52), but so far, the only older women I've been attracted to have been either off limits, or just passing acquaintances.
Now here's the fucked up thing about me, but this deep into it, there's no point in not being honest.
Even though I know what I know now, I feel the way I do, do and enjoy the things I do now, and was not raised by raging bigots, I still have a fairly deep yet latent reaction to seeing younger black men with their younger Caucasian girlfriends and lovers. Older couples not so much.
It's fucked up I know, and the feeling is a mere shadow of what it once was, but it's something that persists that I need to deal and get right with.
Sometimes I think the way that will happen is to meet and get to know a truly loving young couple that do make it together, and this will over time, show me how right it all is.
It's not that I don't (intellectually) know this already, because of course I do.
I don't believe that true racist inclinations or tendencies are harbored in the pre-frontal cortex. That would make them a fuckin' snap to overcome. A couple of minutes of objective, rational thinking would knock em right out of there.
I believe that racism (at least for me) lies much deeper. Way down in the unconscious mind. It's more a function of almost methodical, long term conditioning of a part of the mind that is far less easy, and maybe in some cases, even impossible to access at will.
It seems to have damn little or nothing to do with true critical thinking, much less original thought.
For me, I feel it must be conditioned out bit by bit, the same way it got down in there.
I've already tried to root out the vestiges of what remains by outsmarting and over thinking it. That doesn't work for me. Tried the same thing with dope and booze. That didn't work either.
Gotta go to the source.
Gotta work on the heart.
That's where the problem lies.
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