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"3 Questions to Ask Yourself if You Get Angry"
 
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Xena Zen

Is it important?

Is it reasonable to react in this manner, would other people react to this in the same manner?

Can I modify this situation?

Reason being is that if you react in an angry manner to every little thing in life, including road rage: your blood pressure goes up, your blood pumps 20 quarts vs 5 quarts a minute, blood clots can develop, also neurotransmitters can be affected in a negative way.

So try not to get mad or frustrated as often. Easier said then done as I work on this in my personal life like everyone else.

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41 posts		 13-Feb-10, 01:44 PM (PST)
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1. "RE: 3 Questions to Ask Yourself if You Get Angry"
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Ah Xena, you always post a very good topic. I used to be a very angry person. I even received a restraining order because of being stupid with my ex-boyfriend. I finally got myself my very own counselor. She is so wonderful. Thank goodness for her. I want to share this to your readers. It made me a better person.

1. Breathe deeply.
2. Pray.
3. Meditate.
4. Listen to a relaxation tape.
5. Exercise.
6. Problem solving.
7. Stop and count to 10.
8. Confront others/share feelings. Never try to confront/talk to someone who does not want to talk/listen though. If you have no one to talk to, there are tons of counselors/doctors who are willing to. Professionals are better people to talk to anyways.
9. Go enjoy nature.
10. Writing/Journaling.
11. Talk to friends. Again, don't force yourself into friends who aren't willing to talk/listen. There are professionals who can do the job.
12. Find humor in the situation.
13. Get more rest.
14. Exit/Leave or Wait. Totally walk away from the tragic situation or avoid being around the people involved. Ignore. Forget.
15. Avoid physical force.
16. Avoid threats. This is going to bite you back.
17. Focus on what is important. Important thing is to continue living. Move on.
18. Restore Good Feelings.
19. Stop and think to make a good choice.
20. Forgive. Forget.

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3. "RE: 3 Questions to Ask Yourself if You Get Angry"
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LAST EDITED ON 13-Feb-10 AT 05:24 PM (PST)
 
Alot of people say "I can forgive but I can't forget" but forgiving means to forget.

I have always been a very forgiving person but I have to ask myself sometimes if I've really forgiven the person when I still have resentments. Something i need to work on.

Good list, thanks.

"My sexual preference is all the time"

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9. "RE: 3 Questions to Ask Yourself if You Get Angry"
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   LadyScorpio88,

I like this list! Thank u.

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2. "RE: 3 Questions to Ask Yourself if You Get Angry"
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Also it's good to ask yourself if the person who made you upset had intentions on doing so.

Hope all is well

"My sexual preference is all the time"

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4. "RE: 3 Questions to Ask Yourself if You Get Angry"
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I got a restraining order because I tried so hard to find out what the intentions of my ex-boyfriend were for doing something that made me really upset, to the point that we broke up. I tried all the ways to talk to him, to see him (even went to his work), to encourage him to stay connected or be "friends," that I didn't realize I was acting like a stalker already. I even sent him messages that I didn't see as a threat, but for him they were. He filed for a police report supported by all the numerous threatening emails I sent, even voice message to his phone. That was the thing that bit me. Karma I guess. I viewed things differently against the whole world. It was bad I admit. And it was all because I was so angry that some things didn't go my way. (So don't let anger rule your life or you will regret it at the end.)

Sometimes, there are reasons behind some things that should not be known and just let them go. Now that I am looking back at it, it makes me wonder why I even wasted my time trying to connect with him. If he does not want any part of me, I don't want any of him either. I'm better off without him. At least, that's what I learned from my numerous counseling visits. It felt good letting go.

There are a lot of other men out there anyways. Women shouldn't chase men. They should chase women. We just have to be a better person, a better friend. All the good men will come. :-D

Sorry for the long message here. This topic is very dear to me. Thank you again Xena for posting it.

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5. "RE: 3 Questions to Ask Yourself if You Get Angry"
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good advice... LS88 ....

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6. "RE: 3 Questions to Ask Yourself if You Get Angry"
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I stop take a deep breath or two. Before I do anything! Then everyone better watch out! I am just kidding kinda...

Good advice Ladies

I am ganna go read it all again...

Lots of love
Christy

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7. "RE: 3 Questions to Ask Yourself if You Get Angry"
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Its funny when I was reading this I was like omg why is xena talking about me. She don't know what she is talking about, I got all red faced and mad.

So I was like okay she must be right! Dam it!!!
Okay Fine deep breath step one: is it really important? Yes I better check my bad attitude. So My blood pressure is cool...

Step two! No other more mature people who are in tune with themselves would not.

Step three HUGE DEEP BREATH (in through my nose out through my mouth)

DaM it again can I modify my situation. sheeze I better grow up! Take control of my attitude its important, for my health, and my life experience's!

attitude check

When you know better, You do better! Now I know better...

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8. "RE: 3 Questions to Ask Yourself if You Get Angry"
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Those are definitely good questions to ask oneself. I'm fairly calm most of the time & try not to get angry, but there are times when I lose my cool. Fortunately I regain my composure rather quickly. It's good to let off some steam every once in a while, but I try not to make a habit out of it.

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