Xena Zen

Interesting I find is how people who know nothing of you first hand make assumptions of other people. I have met others that I trusted that may have said something negative about a person and I find out after I meet the person much later, that what was being said is untrue and then I feel hurt I did not give them them the benefit of the doubt sooner and vice versa. Unfortunately, most of the time this happens with women in general. I have never really been close to women for that reason but I would love to be. I love men. So straight foward, objective, and almost painfully blunt, worse then myself but yet so refreshing. I love to help others and sometimes it is not a good thing. Sometimes I realize that being in the limelight has its drawbacks. Jealousy is a sad thing I realize that sometime causes one to pull back at times, including myself.

Some women are bullies. I have never seen so many that seem to have to make their point across so dramatically and so venemously I wonder what they do all day but to find fault, make a stance, and be totally ignorant of the situation.

And on that note I found a perfect link:

http://www.bullyonline.org/workbully/attent.htm

The emotionally immature person, however, has low levels of self-esteem and self-confidence and consequently feels insecure; to counter these feelings of insecurity they will spend a large proportion of their lives creating situations in which they become the centre of attention. It may be that the need for attention is inversely proportional to emotional maturity, therefore anyone indulging in attention-seeking behaviours is telling you how emotionally immature they are.

Attention-seeking behaviour is surprisingly common. Being the centre of attention alleviates feelings of insecurity and inadequacy but the relief is temporary as the underlying problem remains unaddressed: low self-confidence and low self-esteem, and consequent low levels of self-worth and self-love.

Insecure and emotionally immature people often exhibit bullying behaviours, especially manipulation and deception. These are necessary in order to obtain attention which would not otherwise be forthcoming. Bullies and harassers have the emotional age of a young child and will exhibit temper tantrums, deceit, lying and manipulation to avoid exposure of their true nature and to evade accountability and sanction. This page lists some of the most common tactics bullies and manipulators employ to gain attention for themselves.

IM LIKE OH HELL MOM! ITS BETTER THEN HEARING YOU SAY YOU WISH YOU WOULD HAVE DONE THIS OR THAT BUT DIDNT. It bothers her so much she cant sleep thinking about it (so she says) My rule to myself is. I am not traditional and who says traditional is the only way to go.(not a bad way) I will set my own standards treating those as I want to be treated. SO I CAN SLEEP WITH MYSELF! For the rest of my life! I at worst might be saying over and over driving my kids nuts.... MY MOM WAS RIGHT I WISH I WOULDNT HAVE... SATICFIED I DID WHOLE HARTEDLY WITH LOVE CARE AND 110%!

I thank my lucky stars for the people who have been there for me with care and only having the most sincere intentions and care for my personal growth and stood bye me! I love you all... I'm having the time of my life!!! I don't want to miss a single second of any of it to any time wasted on any thing negative... I am now back in control of my most important asset! My attitude and the way I handle things! Now lets get back to having the time of our lives again.

I love & thank you all for keeping me on my toes!

Lots of LOVE
Christy

p.s My terrible spelling and worse grammar will grow on you!
Putting the only foot I got forward neither is the best one. they are both pretty dam good feet cute too.

I found these very helpful also:

http://forum.myredbook.com/dcforum2/soapa/1426.html

http://forum.myredbook.com/dcforum2/soapa/1296.html

Lets remember what redbook is all about. Ya all are like family to me! Lets start acting like it again..

http://forum.myredbook.com/dcforum2/soapa/1294.html

10 top reasons to pick redbook

Everyone needs to remember the saying.. "If u cant say something nice... Just shut the hell up" LOL. But for real its true. We're supposed to be a family... I realized some of the family started goin down hill after i joined and a few things happened to tare a few people apart.

There have been ups n downs but really.. Y does there need to be drama... Like everyone on here is always saying... this aint kindergarten or High school, but alot of the times the clicks n bullying feels like both those combined.

Aren't we in a bad enough situation where some people have to lower their donations because of the economy today... Its too bad we have to rag on another individual to make our selves feel better (and i am not saying i am any different)... I'm realizing i am young but i have a few things to change within myself to make myself a better person.

Hope u guys learn what it is to love one another... n stop the hate!!

XOXORaven

Can u handle a Thoroughbred?

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First off and Foremost Finally some Classy reponse From some Classy Ladies! Its all done subconsiously but hate is always there....but that means theres is also love...... There has to be a balance so let them hate! Its YinYang!!!! Just keep Loving and the rest will play out.........Peace Love and Safety Ladies.

Baby Deuces